What is underneath? The iceberg metaphor is useful for considering anger. Above the waterline is where the expressions of anger can be readily observed. However, most of the iceberg is hidden under the waterline and this is where unobserved, deeper emotion can reside.
ANGER ICEBERG
Icebergs are large pieces of ice found floating in the open ocean. What you can see from the surface can be misleading. Most of the iceberg is hidden below the water
This is how anger works. Often when we are angry, there are other emotions hidden under the surface.
Angry
embarrassed grief shame tricked overwhelmed frustrated depressed disgusted attacked grumpy stressed guilt trapped rejected helpless trauma annoyed exhausted disrespected unsure envious disappointed lonely offended uncomfortable worried insecure regret hurt scared
During times that you have experienced anger, what have been some underlying emotions? How might the concept of an educated guess in listening be relevant when responding to another’s anger with reflection?
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