Best Practices for Concluding the Peer Relationship (Core Competencies: 1.1; 1.4; 1.6; 1.7; 1.10; 2.7; 2.8; 3.2; 3.3; 3.5; 4.1; 4.2; 4.7) • Be proactive . Raise the topic for discussion weeks before the final meeting. • Be curious . Draw out the peer’s emotions and experiences as the relationship is concluding. Prepare two or three open questions to explore: o What is it like having this relationship end? What are your thoughts and feelings? o What did you gain from this experience? What did you learn? In what ways did you grow? o What are you looking forward to? What are your hopes for the future? • Listen for understanding . Listen carefully to the peer to understand feelings and experiences as the relationship draws to a close. Offer many reflective listening statements. • Do not take it personally . While it is important to listen with empathy, healthy boundaries are also important. Some peers may become upset or shutdown during the final meeting. Others may not even show up. The certified peer specialist’s understanding that there are various ways on how people navigate goodbyes will allow them to not take these expressions by a peer personally. • Mutuality . Although the priority is to understand the peer’s experience, it is okay to share your experience and emotions. It is okay to share your own learning and growth in this relationship. • Continued support . Discuss ways that the peer can continue accessing supports such as community resources and natural supports. If another provider is to be involved, consider a warm hand-off for the transition. • Acknowledge . Affirm the work that has transpired, notice changes, and identify strengths you have come to discover in the peer. Genuine, specific affirmations, and acknowledgements will have a powerful impact.
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