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Parent or Friend: Being a parent is an honor — your child may have many friends, but there is only one of you. But some parents believe it’s possible to be both a parent and a friend at the same time, while others say you must be a parent first and a friend second. Child and family psychologist Dr. Emily W. King explains that you are your child’s first playmate and most important connection during their infancy and toddler years. But once your child is older, the relationship changes to protector and limit-tester. If you continue being the child’s playmate, this can send confusing messages to your children. Dr. King says that your children need a clear distinction between their friends and authoritative protective figures. It’s your role to set boundaries, rules, and guidance for your children; they need these guidelines to grow into a mature and responsible adult. If these guidelines aren’t set, it may cause a strain on your relationship with your child because you’re only trying to be their friend and not their parent. Research states that a lack of structure can weaken the parent- child relationship and make your child feel more controlled. CAN YOU BE BOTH TO YOUR CHILD?
Hi, everyone! My name is Angel, and even though I’m still a baby, I’ve gone through a lot. I met my family in December when Mom and Dad took some stuff to the garbage dump; that’s where I had lived. I ran right in front of their car. Since I was so tiny, Mom worried and tracked me down.
Once she found me, she couldn’t help but notice that I didn’t have any
eyeballs. That’s why I didn’t cross the street very safely! My parents thought someone had hurt me and rushed me to see Dr. Clark right away, but he explained that I’d been born this way. In the end, Dr. Clark sewed up my eyelids so I won’t get infected, and I get around just fine. Now, I’m all healed up and doing great! I live with my mom, dad, and three human brothers. I also have some sisters — a cat
But there is a way for you to find a balance between being your child’s friend and parent. Having a friendly relationship with your kids is essential. Research shows that children with warm, supportive, and empathetic parents tend to do better in school and are less likely to get into trouble. To do this, it’s best if you share stories and your childhood experiences with your children. You don’t have to tell them everything, or you can share more about your life as they get older. But sharing information with your child gives them something to relate to and provides them with a sense of safeness and trust. Simply spending time together and doing something you both enjoy can help create a strong foundation. Ultimately, when it comes to parenting and friendships, there is no correct answer. It depends on your family, your children, and what relationship works best for you and your child.
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