Be Clear on Your Rules
Do they actually know the rules? Sometimes we assume our teens know all of our expectations but they may not. That’s why it’s so important to be direct and clear. What are your rules when it comes to alcohol and cannabis? What will happen if those rules are broken? Teens feel more secure when boundaries are clear and consistent, even if they push against them. They’re also more likely to follow the rules when they know exactly where the lines are and why those lines exist. Talk openly about your values and your reasons. Let your teen help create fair, meaningful consequences. The goal isn’t to scare or shame them; it’s to build trust, reduce risk, and show them that safety is a shared priority.
Try saying:
“I want you to have fun and be independent, but our family rule is no drinking alcohol or using cannabis before 21. If you break this rule, there will be consequences because your safety is my number one priority.”
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