Florida Women's Law Group - December 2019



Advocate December 2019


What Makes a Great Present The season of giving comes with its fair share of stress, especially when it comes to the giving itself.

If you’re like me, you know holiday shopping comes down to more than just buying expensive stuff in the hopes that your loved ones like it. Finding the right present for someone is a skill often overlooked. You see this most in young children. I remember the first time my oldest daughter went Christmas shopping with my husband. She’d gotten everyone on her list Barbie dolls — including me! It took time for her to learn that choosing a great gift for someone means putting yourself in their shoes, something we adults can struggle with from time to time. You won’t always know what a loved one wants or needs, and the temptation to just phone it in with a gift card or something generic is real. But, while you can’t always find gifts that speak to the wants and needs of the people you’re shopping for, you can still find a way to get them something that speaks to your shared connection. My brother and I stumbled upon this in our college years. We didn’t exactly have the means to go out and get anything really nice for our family, so we decided to do something fun! We took my beloved cocker spaniel to a photo studio for a very 1980s Christmas photo. It barely cost us anything, but our parents have kept that gift to this day. Based on this experience, I decided to make a calendar for my grandmother a few years later. I had my first nice camera and a Macintosh, so I could finally make those sorts of projects a reality.

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I just took the family moments I’d captured over the past year and put it into the computer- provided template. She loved the calendar so much that I was all but obligated to make one every year. I even started making them run through at least January to buy me more time on the next one! Giving those photo keepsakes brought me a lot of joy, and my kids noticed. Last year, they surprised my husband and me with a hardcover scrapbook they’d put together with the help of their sitter. This book, filled with photos of the three of them at the beach, was the perfect gift — and an utter surprise to my husband and me. They were so excited to give it to us, which made me realize how mature they’ve become. They found the joy of giving. I still pull out that scrapbook — it’s the kind of gift I’m going to treasure my whole life, especially as the kids keep growing. It’s a great reminder to not get caught up in the holiday sales and the push to get flat-screens and other expensive gadgets. Often the most memorable present you can get someone is something that reminds them of your time together. To put it another way, it really is the thought that counts.



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Happy holidays,

“The season of giving comes with its fair share of stress, especially when it comes to the giving itself.”

-Heather Qu ick



people who cash in on the hard work they’ve already accomplished. Many young people even worry Social Security will be wiped out by the time they reach retirement age. But who’s to say older adults can’t contribute to the economy? If you’ve ever tried to change jobs late in your career or pick up some part-time work after retirement, you know it’s hard to be hired as a senior. Quartz recently called seniors “the economy’s most underused natural resource.” Until more employers understand the value and potential of older workers, entrepreneurship remains the most viable avenue for seniors wanting to work after their primary career has ended. There are a number of reasons why seniors find creating their own business to be rewarding and why they tend to succeed when they do. Unlike younger people, who often become business owners in an attempt to make a fortune, older entrepreneurs can be content with small, sustainable micro-businesses. They also approach their businesses with a wealth of experience that can’t be purchased. As a result, 70% of ventures founded by older entrepreneurs are still open five years later, more than double the rate of the general population. With so much potential to be found in senior-run businesses, it’s no surprise that organizations are rushing to empower older adults with the tools they need to succeed. Senior Planet, a coworking space for seniors with outposts nationwide, teaches classes on skills like website creation in a space that makes older learners feel welcome and comfortable.

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As a nation, America is getting older. By 2030, 20% of Americans will be 65 or older. With people living longer than ever before and the baby boomers approaching retirement age en masse,

older adults will continue to have a massive impact on the American economy at large. Normally, we think of seniors as PARENTING PLAN CHANGES When the Old Agreement Doesn’t Fit On top of being an important economic driver, entrepreneurship can be a wonderful way for seniors to generate meaning and value in their lives. It’s never too late to start the business of your dreams.

Even after a divorce, families will always continue to grow and change. Children get older, you and your ex continue to pursue your respective careers, relatives move closer or farther away — no piece of the puzzle is static. That’s why it’s important to know how to alter a parenting plan to reflect these life changes. TALK IT OUT Often, there is no need for the courts to get involved when it comes to modifying a parenting plan. So long as you are comfortable contacting your ex-spouse and discussing the need for a change, you can reach an agreement that works best for your children together. This works particularly well in situations where you or your ex has moved, the children’s school schedules have changed, or other unforeseen factors have arisen. GET IT IN WRITING While going to court can be avoided, you should still contact your lawyer when making a long-term change to your parenting plan. They can help you draft the proposed change in writing, which you and your ex can then sign. Your attorney can also make sure this record is filed with the court. This way you’re protected if your ex doesn’t hold up their end of the deal. GO TO COURT When you can’t reach an agreement with your ex but feel a substantial change in your parenting plan is in the best interest of

your children, then you’ll need to go to court. In the hearing, you’ll need to show the judge how your proposed change is better for your children’s physical and/or emotional well-being than their current arrangement. It’s best to consult with your family law attorney before pursuing this serious option. They can give you a better idea of how the court will view your proposal and the likelihood of approval. If you’re not comfortable reaching out to your spouse about a change to your parenting schedule but aren’t sure if the court is the best option, consider reaching out to Susan Birch, our client liaison specialist. She can connect you with our attorneys or other specialists as needed. You can call or text Susan at 904-910-0544.

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Rediscover Yourself in Single Life After leaving a partner you’ve been with for years, it’s common to feel like you’ve lost a part of your identity. But this loss is also an opportunity. You have a chance to explore new places, hobbies, and ideas. From rediscovering old passions to finding a new side of yourself, here are some ways to make the most of your new life in the new year. GIVE IT TIME Mourning after divorce is perfectly natural and takes some people longer than others. Don’t feel like you have to rush into something new, and don’t get frustrated if you feel like you haven’t moved on. Real self-care isn’t about masking your pain; it’s about giving yourself what you need to heal. Sometimes that means giving yourself time to grieve the life you had before setting out for new horizons. START SMALL A slight change can make a big difference in one’s life. Maybe you try a new hairstyle, perform at an open mic, or pick up a sport. It could even be as simple as making an effort to reconnect with old friends, starting a journal, or getting back to the gym. Any positive change you enjoy is a great step forward. DREAM BIG Of course, don’t limit yourself to the short term. Bigger life changes may be harder to manage, especially if you have family and financial

obligations — but that just means you’ll have something to work toward! You could return to a project you didn’t have time for in your relationship, like writing a novel. You could pursue the next level in your education or even train for a whole new profession! If children aren’t a concern, why not look into travel or living abroad for a year? This life has always been yours, but there’s never been a better time to live it to your fullest.




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Holiday Foods Around the World


What Do Other Countries Eat to Celebrate the Season?

ETHIOPIA: YEBEG WOT Ethiopians start preparing their Christmas meals as early as October, when they buy the still-live lambs that will eventually go into their savory, spicy lamb stew on the holiday. As with many of the country’s dishes, yebeg wot is scooped up and eaten with injera (teff flatbread). ISRAEL: LATKES Latkes have been synonymous with Hanukkah for more than 900 years, and no Israeli Christmas would be complete without the little potato pancakes cooked symbolically in oil. Despite their long history, though, latkes now vie with sufganiyot — a kind of jelly-filled donut — for a place on the holiday table. JAPAN: FRIED CHICKEN Thanks to a clever 1970s marketing campaign, the dish of choice for Christmas in Japan is fried chicken — specifically, KFC. Unlike in America, holiday orders in the country come with

Celebrations of Christmas, Hanukkah, and Kwanzaa vary from country to country, but there is one thing that unites holiday parties around the world: food. While some American traditions overlap with those of other countries — Peru, for example, shares our love of hot chocolate; England and Canada raise glasses of eggnog; and Italy digs into a version of fruitcake called panettone — there are plenty of dishes beloved all over the world that never make it to the American table. Below, we’ve rounded up a few you might consider exploring this season. COSTA RICA: TAMALES Christmas in Costa Rica wouldn’t be complete without tamales, a savory treat made by stuffing corn dough, meat, garlic, onions, potatoes, and raisins into corn husks or banana leaves. The process of filling and steaming the tamales can take days, and every family makes their own signature filling.

chocolate cake, roasted chicken with stuffing, and even bottles of Christmas wine emblazoned with Colonel Sanders’ face. SWEDEN: SAFFRON BUNS According to Delish, Swedish tradition “dictates that the eldest daughter dress in a white gown tied with a red sash and a crown of lit candles, then wake her parents with hot coffee and a tray of saffron buns.” Swedes also feast on a casserole called Jansson’s Temptation made with potatoes, onions, anchovies, and cream.

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