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October 2022
YOUR EXPERTISE AND KNOWLEDGE DO NOT MATTER
Until You Show How Much You Care
The former first lady of Georgia, the beloved Sandra Deal, passed away in late August.
Fast forward to my law school years at Cumberland School of Law. My real estate law and estate planning law professor taught me the importance of always being prepared. I quickly learned how passionate Professor Corley was about being prepared after one time when I foolishly came to class unprepared. It happened only once, and it was one of the longest days in my law school memory. After that, I did my homework and listened intently when he talked about the principles of preparing a complete estate plan. Today, I use those same estate principles and lessons. Professor Corley’s excitement shone through and proved how much he cared about his work and his students. In 1998, when I joined the law firm Carey, Jarrard, and Walker in Gainesville, another teacher came into my professional life. Tom Jarrad was an attorney by profession, but he taught me a great deal about the practical aspects of practicing law. Tom had a special way of making his clients become his friends — and his friends become his clients. Tom Jarrard used to tell me on a regular basis that folks really do not care much about how much you know until they know how much you care. Tom passed away a number of years ago, but caring for your clients is something I will always have with me throughout my professional life. Like Tom Jarrard, Bill Wilson is not a teacher by profession, but he teaches me a lot about communicating with and to my clients. Bill is the producer of my weekly radio show, “Truth in Planning.” With his many years of experience in all things radio, Bill provides insight and information (and a bit of corny humor) to help with my weekly show as well as radio ads that reach my clients. Bill Wilson cares enough to take the time to help my law practice grow. Because of the influence of Mrs. Davis, Professor Corley, Tom Jarrard, and Bill Wilson, when I meet with new or existing clients, their needs and family are my utmost priority. I may have the knowledge and tools to help my clients, but none of it will be nearly as beneficial or rewarding if people don’t know how much I truly care for them. I’ve experienced many situations my clients are going through — such as dealing with an aging parent and figuring out how to place them in a nursing home. So, I empathize with them. I try to be compassionate, empathic, and patient with everyone I interact with every day. In honor of National Teachers’ Day on Oct. 5, I want to thank each of these teachers for leaving a lasting impression on my life and showing me the importance of caring for others. If it weren’t for these teachers, I would not be the man and the attorney I am today.
Sandra Deal touched the lives of many as the first lady of Georgia — but also as a teacher. In fact, Sandra worked as a middle school teacher for most of her life, and she understood how much teachers can
impact children’s lives. She, along with thousands of other Georgia teachers, helped us learn lessons inside and outside of the classroom — many of these skills have been so beneficial that they’ve even followed us into adulthood. While her husband was in office, Sandra promised the state of Georgia she would visit and read to students in every county. We have 159 counties, and within the eight years Governor Nathan Deal served, Sandra completed this promise three times over. Oct. 5 is National Teachers’ Day, and while looking at the lasting impressions Sandra Deal left on us Georgians, I can’t help but think about the teachers who’ve impacted my life. I remember several teachers who taught me skills I still use today. Some of these individuals were teachers by profession, and some of them were not, but they still had a positive impact on my professional and personal life. One thing they did have in common is that they deeply cared about others. It wasn’t their lesson plans that stayed with me — it’s how their empathy and compassion left a lasting impression. These individuals taught me that people don’t care about how much you know until people know how much you care about them and their situation. In seventh grade, I struggled with math, especially fractions. I remember Mrs. Davis taking the extra time to help me understand the concept. I knew Mrs. Davis cared about me and my interests because she knew I loved baseball. So, she taught me about fractions with my baseball cards, and I learned how to calculate players’ batting averages. These stats are in fractions and decimals, so I started calculating Hank Aaron or Reggie Jackson’s batting average — something Mrs. Davis knew had become monumentally important to a 13-year-old boy. It was mind-blowing how easily math came to me when it seemed “interesting.” But I didn’t just learn about that from Mrs. Davis. She also showed me how much she cared about my learning and how important compassion is.
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Teenager Saves a Woman’s Life After Taking One First-Aid Training Class
It was a typical day at work for 15-year-old McDonald’s worker Sydney Raley — she was taking orders, engaging with customers, and delivering food. Everything went as planned for Raley until the unexpected happened. After handing a woman part of her order, Raley left the drive-thru window to retrieve the rest of her food. But when she returned, something strange happened. “She was coughing like crazy, and I noticed she was gagging … I immediately knew, ‘Oh, no, she’s choking,’” Raley told CNN. The woman’s daughter freaked out because she felt so scared for her mother. Even some of the McDonald’s employees seemed shocked and momentarily unable to take action. Luckily, Raley knew what to do. She immediately told her colleague to dial 911 as she dove through the drive-thru window to help the choking woman. Besides working at the fast-food chain, Raley was also a babysitter and had taken
a first-aid class through the Red Cross. In this class, she learned the Heimlich maneuver, which Raley used to dislodge the chicken nugget the woman had eaten. Although the woman was in shock after what she endured, she felt grateful for the teen and her act of heroism. Her bravery didn’t go unnoticed by Paul Ostergaard either, the owner-operator of the McDonald’s where Raley worked. He told CNN, “Sydney truly personifies what it is to be a hero.” In addition to this recognition, Raley also received $100 from a fund first-responders use to reward people who do brave work within the community. Thank you, Sydney, for showing us that not all heroes wear capes — they are in our community everywhere we go. We encourage everyone to take a first-aid training course, so all of us can become the heroes of tomorrow. Plus, you never know when that knowledge will come in handy.
Never a Dull Moment Why We Should Live for Today
We can’t change the past, nor can we predict or guarantee the future. In the end, all we have is the present, yet most of us live our lives ignoring its many possibilities. It’s easy to tune out the life around you, especially if you do many of the same things every day. Taking care of the kids, commuting, working, and running errands can blur together. Just as bad, when life isn’t going the way we want, it’s easy to fantasize about how things “should” be or how they once were. When we live busy or stressful lives, worrying or planning can also make us feel more in control. The problem with these strategies is that they don’t change anything. They help us discount the only thing we can control: what we do now. Life can pass you by that way if you’re not careful. The solution is to exist in the present moment as much as possible and enjoy the good things around us while we have them. Studies show that living this way makes people happier, healthier, and more likely to form strong relationships. But how do you even get started? The process requires a different way of thinking called mindfulness. Mindfulness is about focusing on what is happening in the present moment — not that work deadline, the movie you just watched, what’s for dinner, or the kids’ extracurricular schedule. It takes practice, and many people use meditation or breathing to help.
When mindful, we concentrate on what others say and become more fully present. We also start to notice the small things we usually overlook: the cool breeze on our skin, the sound of the birds, the feel of a sweater, or the sight of our loved ones smiling. Our lives become fuller. And our stress decreases because we’re not clinging to things beyond our command. No one ever stops worrying entirely, and some planning is necessary to live a successful life. But too much can leave us with no energy or time to enjoy it. John Lennon once sang, “Life is what happens to you while you’re busy making other plans.” Start living in the present so you don’t blink and miss yours.
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IT’S WORLD TEACHERS’ DAY! 3 Ways to Show Gratitude
TAKE A BREAK
Teachers have impacted you and your children’s lives in more ways than one. Maybe they inspired you to take a certain career path, always understood you, or were there for you or your child when it was needed. Teachers have a demanding job, so in honor of World Teachers’ Day on Oct. 5, let’s take some time to appreciate them. Here are three ways to show your gratitude this month. Donate school supplies. Some teachers spend personal funds to purchase school supplies for their classrooms. This expense can become costly, especially if they provide for multiple students. Donate unused notebooks, pencils, pens, or other school supplies to a teacher. Some teachers even have wish lists available if you want to purchase new items for their classrooms. They will appreciate your kindness, and the children who need these supplies will also be grateful. Write thank-you letters. If you had a teacher who impacted your life, or if your child has a favorite teacher, write them a thank-you note. Handwritten notes are more meaningful than ones you buy at the store. It shows you put in time and effort to create something specifically for them. You can write about a favorite memory you had with them or the ways they’ve inspired you. If you’re feeling extra generous, add a gift card to the note! A small message can go a long way in turning someone’s day around. Volunteer when you can. In addition to teaching in the classroom, teachers need to chaperone students during field trips, recess, lunch, and standardized tests. Contact your child’s school and see when they need volunteers to help with these activities. Teachers will greatly appreciate it because they will have a chance to take a break or organize their materials for the next class. Even if it’s just for the day or a few hours, teachers will appreciate the extra assistance. Teachers play a vital role in preparing our children for the real world. They teach them vital social skills and problem-solving strategies that will assist them as they age. So, let’s take some time to show appreciation for their dedication to our children.
CREAMY BAKED PUMPKIN RISOTTO
Ingredients
• 5 cups of low-sodium chicken or vegetable broth • 2 cups Arborio rice • 2 cups of pumpkin, diced • 1 1/2 cups canned pumpkin purée • 1/2 yellow onion, minced
• Salt, to taste • Pepper, to taste • 1/2 cup fresh basil, chopped • 1/4 cup grated Parmesan cheese • 2 tbsp mascarpone cheese • 2 tbsp olive oil
Directions
1. Heat the oven to 400 F and arrange a rack in the middle. 2. In a 3-quart baking dish, combine broth, rice, diced and puréed pumpkin, and onion. 3. Season with salt and pepper, then stir until evenly combined. 4. Cover tightly with aluminum foil and bake until water has been absorbed and rice granules are puffed. 5. Remove from the oven and stir in basil, grated Parmesan cheese, mascarpone cheese, and olive oil.
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Age Is Just a Number
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Wanted to Legally Change His Age The Man Who Felt 20 Years Younger
He alleged that he experienced age discrimination because, being 69, he is limited in what he can do. If he were 49, he could buy a house and car and work more hours, and his chances on the dating app Tinder would improve if he were younger. What was the court’s decision? Ratelband’s argument did not convince the district court in the Dutch city of Arnhem. The court said there was no evidence that Ratelband had experienced age discrimination. It stated that, unlike legally changing your name or gender, changing your age causes many problems such as the many rights and duties related to age, such as voting, attending school, military obligations, and pension. Although Ratelband has the freedom to feel 20 years younger, mentally and physically, he cannot legally change his age because of the legal and societal implications that would follow, the court added.
We’ve all heard about people legally changing their name or gender, but have you ever heard about someone trying to change their legal age? In 2018, a 69-year-old Dutch man named Emile Ratelband petitioned a court for permission to change his age. He wanted to alter the year he was born on his birth certificate by 20 years so he could be 49 years old. So, how did this case end? Let’s find out. What was his reasoning? Ratelband wanted to change his age because he argued that he felt 20 years younger. He said his doctors told him that he had the body of a younger man, and his health was far better than most men his age.
The district court rejected Ratelband’s request, but he plans to appeal.
In the Netherlands, the public doesn’t take Ratelband’s claims seriously. They even make fun of his international exposure and willingness to provide interviews worldwide to justify his wishes. So what do you think of this legal case? Is age just a number? Let us know your thoughts!
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