Primary Eye Care Associates - May/June 2019

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My Mom Doesn’t Teach Life Lessons

SHE LIVES THEM

When I think of what I love most about my mother, many things come to mind. She’s strong, resilient, loving, and so much more. She and my father came to Canada from India without any other family or support network at all. She had me when she was 19, the age my son is now. Throughout my life, I can pinpoint countless occasions when Mom sacrificed time and money so that my brother, Neil, my sister, Monica, and I could be happy and achieve our dreams. Mom encouraged us to dream and dream big. To this day, I still practice this. And many of those dreams, thanks to Mom, have come to life. Examples of my mother’s sacrificial and hardworking spirit manifested in the little things most of the time. Once, when I was young, I was at the store with her and saw a pair of shoes I really liked. I don’t remember a lot about them except that they were cool and expensive. Even at that age, I knew they were out of my family’s budget. And yet, I very clearly remember walking out of the store with those new shoes that day, and my mom came home later than usual from work for a few weeks after she bought them. Knowing I wanted those shoes, she found a way to fit them into the budget without ever discussing those extra hours she worked to make it happen. As I grew older, I discovered it was my dream to become an eye doctor. The problem was that there was only one

optometry program in all of Canada, and it only accepted about 60 students per incoming class. After being waitlisted, my parents encouraged me to apply to programs in the United States, even though it would be more costly and mean I had to live farther away from home. Mom knew it was my dream, and she wouldn’t let money or distance get in the way of that. Since

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visits us regularly from her home in Canada, and she always makes the weekend a party. Mom and my kids play the same card games she taught them as toddlers, and as teens, they still won’t go to bed until they beat her. She makes their favorite Indian dishes, and though I try to mimic her culinary excellence, “It’s never the same as Bhari-ma’s.” All the while, she works subtle life lessons into everything she does. Even as an adult, I still learn from her actions every time she visits. When my kids ask her what I was like when I was their age, she always makes me out to be a super kid. I think my kids know there’s no way I was that perfect, and between you and me, I wasn’t! But that’s my mom, thinking I was this perfect kid. She doesn’t know I’m the one who’s always trying to be like her. Her love, wisdom, guidance, and advice are truly priceless to me. If I can give half of what my mom gave to me growing up to my kids, I know they will do well in this world. Happy Mother’s Day to all my staff and patients who are moms — you are all amazing; and to Mom, eye’ll see you soon!

HER LOVE, WISDOM, GUIDANCE, AND ADVICE ARE TRULY PRICELESS TO ME. IF I CAN GIVE HALF OF WHAT MY MOM GAVE TO ME GROWING UP TO MY KIDS, I KNOW THEY WILL DO WELL IN THIS WORLD.

I was an international student in these programs, I didn’t have access to the loans and scholarships that American students did. Mom and Dad worked extra so I could afford to finish school. They never made me feel guilty about moving away from home, no matter how much they missed me.

–Steven Chander

Mom’s impact on me growing up is still shaping not only me but also my kids. She

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