Doulas can be hired by the person who is dying themselves, or by the family. Sometimes we never actually even meet the person who’s in transition. Sometimes we're just there supporting the family.
Overall, they're just providing a healthier space to have a good death and transition in a positive way.
CM: The idea of a “good” death is so unique and probably foreign to a lot of people. What, to you, is a "good” death? KC: For me, that means that somebody is able to peacefully transition in a way that they have no regrets. Whether that means denying treatment or living out as many treatments as they possibly can and following all the steps. Each individual has different goals. And also in the emotional and spiritual realm; are they fulfilled? Have they said all the things to all of their people? Do they have any apologies to make? Or do they want any apologies? Making sure that they just feel lighter when they're ready to go, and that they're in a space where they feel at peace. For some people, that’s a hospital; for others, it’s their bed, or maybe an Airbnb on the coast of California.
Whatever it looks like to that person.
CM: While you are managing emotions, do you also find space to deal with logistical challenges during the dying process? KC: Personally, as a Death Doula, I help with logistical planning. Is their will all set? Who is their healthcare proxy? Who’s their power of attorney? I make sure that all of those logistical pieces are there. Most End of Life Doulas do that as well. Doulas I encounter are helping answer those questions and making sure things are in order for
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