A ttraction between the sexes is not something that occurs between you and one particular person alone. The attraction can be toward many persons—even strangers. We often hear of the “ strong, unmanageable sex urge.” This urge is unmanageable only when outside influences can affect it. Pictures, stimulating reading material, day-dreaming, conver sation and physical contact will fan this urge. Any desire can be fanned. Even the desire for a new car can be found to be all-important if you think about cars, read about them, watch other people drive them. The desire for a car can cause you to do without other things in order to have one. If you want a car badly enough, you will buy it even if it causes strained relations at home. The sex urge can be fanned in the same way. You can talk about the opposite sex, read about and look at pictures of sex, constantly watch for things that excite you. This is a deliberate effort at keep ing the sex urge fanned. Popenoe gives six reasons why young people are stimulated to experiment with sex: 1. Curiosity. 2. Desire to feel “ grown up.”
For she hath cast down many wounded: yea, many strong men have been slain by her. Her house is the way to hell” (Prov. 7:21- 27). Every boy should be armed against the easy-going or loose girl. Dickerson warns that “ . . . the boy should know also that the easy-going girl who is by no means a prostitute may likewise be a source of venereal disease. Any girl who permits one boy to be intimate with her is very likely to permit others. And there is no assurance that some o f these oth ers may not have gonorrhea or syphilis and leave germs behind them to be transferred to any boy who comes after them. The loose girl may be a carrier just as a prostitute may be.” The aggressive boy can be just as dangerous. The girl who has been involved sexually with only her steady may become infected. In his book, None of These Dis eases, Dr. S. I. McMillen discusses such a case: “A girl who had sexual rela tions with only one boy friend thought she was safe. She was terribly shocked when her doc tor told her she was infected. A “ venereal tracer” revealed: the boy had consorted with only one
3. Desire for “adventure.” 4. Gang spirit; afraid of being thought a sissy. 5. Anxiety about being abnor mal and desire to reassure one self. 6. Virtual seduction by an old er person. He adds that authorities who have studied the problem of pros titution declare that boys who fre quent houses of ill fame are not driven by an unmanageable urge. Rather, for the most part they are fearful, uneasy, embarrassed, ashamed. Seldom does a teen-ager enter such a place alone. Usually two boys or more go together, egged on by one another. The Bible gives an account of a young man being contracted by a prostitute: “With her much fair speech she caused him to yield, with the flattering of her lips she forced him. He goeth af ter her straightway, as an ox go eth to the slaughter, or as a fool to the correction of the stocks; Till a dart strike through his liv e r ; as a bird hasteth to the snare, and knoweth not that it is for his life. Hearken unto me now there fore, 0 ye children, and attend to the words of my mouth. Let not thine heart decline to her ways, go not astray in her paths.
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