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WORTH FAR MORE THAN RUBIES
I ’ve read before, as written originally, I think, by the well-known Catholic cardinal Francis Spellman, marriage is the highest, most hallowed discipline. Of course, by “highest,” he meant the most meaningful and rewarding, but he also meant that it’s among the most difficult, effortful institutions we can ever participate in. My mom used to say she was amazed that anybody could ever live harmoniously in marriage at all. It was a miracle, she thought, that two separate and distinct personalities attempting to coexist over a long, long time could ever work out for anyone. And it’s for this reason, of course, marriages dissolve almost as often as they succeed. I have to admit, there was a time when I became a little skeptical of the institution or, at least, of my participation in it. Coming out of a complicated divorce years back, I wasn’t too keen on putting myself out there again because of the possibility I’d be forced to experience it all once more. Oddly enough, it was football that brought us together. One of each of our sons played on the high school team together at one point, so it was football that eventually convinced me to rethink my tentative stance on getting remarried. Well, that and the persistence and support of my future partner, of course. When Amy and I first met, she was living out in Westerville, while I was in Dublin. We hit it off almost instantly. Her perceptive, level-headed personality meshed easily with my goofball tendencies as we realized our goals and priorities aligned on a deep, personal level. When we’d been dating for about two and a half years, I suddenly found myself seriously considering the idea of marriage yet again. You see, Amy’s son, Jackson, had been noticed in his high school football career and was invited to play at a high school in Dublin where I lived. This was an incredibly promising opportunity for him, as several NFL athletes had started out at this school a couple years before, and it is an impressive program. But in order to do that, Amy But when I met my current wife, Amy, all of that changed.
would have to move out to the Dublin district.
Living together out of wedlock never really aligned with our faith, so suddenly, after two and a half years together, the possibility of marriage became real. Still, with the difficulty I’d experienced in the past, I dragged my feet. Over a
couple of months (in addition to the years we’d already dated), Amy steadily worked to win me over until, finally, I was on board. She won my trust, fully overcoming any hesitation I might have ever had, and I asked her to marry me.
Now, she wears the ring I gave her, embedded with a ruby after Proverbs 31:10 declaring a “wife of noble character” to be “worth far more than rubies.” Certainly that’s who she is to me, among the most important people who have ever come into my life. Though we’ve certainly had our challenges over the eight years we’ve been together, blending our families and overcoming the weight of our pasts, I’m so happy she was able to lure me out of my initial hesitation to build this amazing relationship that means the world to us both. This Valentine’s Day, that’s what I’m thinking about — just how incredibly lucky I am to have met Amy, who has kept our family together through thick and thin. She sees people more clearly than anyone I’ve ever met; I’m just glad she took the time to see me with the same loving clarity. –Jim Monast
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