boat together and sail away happily ever after. You are still in separate boats, but you have to choose to intentionally paddle close together. Have you heard a couple say, “We just drifted apart”? The truth is, they stopped paddling close to each other. If you have ever been in one canoe and had a friend or family member in their own canoe, you know how fast you can drift away from each other. It happens so suddenly. You have to both be very intentional about staying together. It takes work and effort. It doesn’t just happen, and it sure isn’t the canoe’s fault. Being committed to intentionally grow together as a couple and then taking constant action on it is the best way to live happily ever after. What you take action on isn’t as important as the action itself. Be creative, make it fun for both of you, and watch what happens! The greatest investment in my life has been my marriage. I encourage you to be intentional and reap the joyful returns!
Do we feel bad? Not at all! You see, from approximately 5 p.m., when I leave my home office and enter the kitchen, to 8 p.m., my bride and I are focused on the children and having a family dinner. I normally play a game or jump on the trampoline with each child individually. To make sure they get my full attention, I leave my phone in my office. (Remember last edition’s article.) One of the more popular ways to be intentional as a couple is date night without phones. For example, you may choose to have 2–4 dinner dates a month with your spouse. This is a great plan, if you stick to it. Many couples talk about doing a regular date night, but it’s the first thing to get canceled, and it never seems to get rescheduled. Why is it so hard to get those date nights on the calendar and to actually go on them? It’s called being intentional, and it takes real work. character Moana paddling her boat. All throughout the movie, Moana kept thinking she needed to get the hero to board her boat so she could fulfill her destiny. Once Moana realized the only one who could paddle her boat was her, everything changed. No spoiler alert — go watch the movie. If you already have, watch it again for the first time, looking at it from a marriage perspective. Contrary to popular belief, in real life, when a couple gets married, they do not board one Wisdomource From the Too many starry-eyed newlyweds fall into the Moana marriage trap. Living intentionally in a marriage is just like the Disney PROVERBS 4: 7 “Wisdom is the principal thing; Therefore get Wisdom. And in all your getting, get understanding.” What struck me about this verse is the ability of the author (King Solomon) to know about our modern culture of “getting more.” The more things change, the more they really do stay the same. If the world’s richest man in history fell into the trap of “getting more,” it’s safe to say that we as entrepreneurs will not be immune to it. This is why he implores us to get more of what really matters: the understanding of why we are doing what we are doing. Do you really know?
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I broke one of my cardinal rules and paid a huge a price for it. I let the cares of the world pull me away from those I really care about. I missed a golden opportunity to praise and encourage my daughter for her creativity and hard work. I missed the opportunity to enjoy a night of restoration and living water for my soul by delighting in my family uninterrupted. Jesus says in Luke 41–42: “Martha, Martha, you are worried and upset about many things, but few things are needed — or indeed, only one. Mary has chosen what is better, and it will not be taken from her.” The investment of time you make in your family can never be taken away and it pays the greatest returns. Invest your time where it counts before it’s too late. Take action now and enjoy the benefits.
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