BOSSING A SOBER CHRISTMAS
You may have heard the podcast interview Susan and I did together on how to prep to boss your Sober Christmas. It is an interesting time, even if you have been sober for a while, old triggers can pop up, the stories we used to tell ourselves, the ‘associations’ around Christmas and alcohol. If family and friends are all locked to the booze it’s even harder to stay committed to our own decisions. We can also find ourselves trying to step into new identities or attempting to play he role of the ‘perfect hostess’ or the ‘fun mum’, chief cook and bottle washer, before ending up frazzled and exhausted. This year. take the time to notice what you want, and how you want this Christmas period to be for you. When you are sober, you can be authentic and value yourself and your needs. You can, with compassion, tell others what you need, set boundaries, and if necessary - literally butt out. Sometimes it’s an act of self-care to simply say NO. Try a ‘WOOP’ for your Christmas and New Year: W stands for WISH, – What do you want this Christmas to be like? O stands for OUTCOME - What will it look like if you get the wish, i.e. in detail what do you want to happen? O stands for OBSTACLE
– Realistically what might get in the way, or trip you up? P stands for PLAN – How can you plan to ensure that you will succeed, what can you put in place? What support do you need?It’s super important to identify the triggers that may come up for you, Do you always have a certain drink as you put up the Christmas tree? Is it a tradition to have Sherry with the Queens’ speech? Don’t allow the wine witch to creep in, making you feel ‘left out’. You are not missing out on anything by not drinking – (well only the hangover), and you are gaining the ability to be fully ‘Present’ Keep the ritual, and change the ingredients!
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