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Neopronouns are newer pronouns used by some to refer to themselves outside the context of gender. Some examples are ‘xe’ and ‘xir’, or ‘ze’, and ‘zir’. You don’t need to know about every pronoun, just use and respect the pronouns a person shares. Trans and gender non-conforming people may prefer the use of their name in place of a pronoun (139). When beginning a conversation, share your pronouns as part of introducing yourself. Do not assume the young person’s pronouns based on their appearance. This helps to reinforce respect for each person’s gender identity as part of creating a safe space. Listen to the young person If you have questions for the young person about their identity, seek permission to ask first. Watch for subtle cues that indicate that they may be uncomfortable with the questions you are asking. Ask them to tell you if you do or say anything that makes them uncomfortable, and apologise if you do. Try not to let the fear of saying the wrong thing prevent you from offering to support. It is more important to be genuinely caring than to say ‘all the right things’. It is important that you: – Do not offer your opinion or judgement on the young person’s identity or experience. – Do not ask a transgender young person what their ‘real’ or birth name is. – Do not ask any questions that you wouldn’t ask anyone else, such as about their sex life or body. – Do not refer to your own religious or moral beliefs about LGBTQIA+ people.
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