Atlanta Divorce Law Group - January 2020

And Set Alternative Goals for the New Year THROW AWAY YOUR RESOLUTIONS

At the start of each new year, about half of all Americans set at least one New Year’s resolution, a promise to themselves that they will thrive in the coming year. Unfortunately, research from YouGov Omnibus, an international market research firm, found that only 1 in 5 Americans stuck to their resolutions. The fallibility of New Year’s resolutions is why few successful CEOs or leaders bother making them. Around this time of year, plenty of articles pop up with hot takes like, “Don’t set New Year’s resolutions; make goals instead!” Unfortunately, if you haven’t been making goals already, you’ve likely been setting yourself up for failure. Setting goals, achieving them, and making new ones should be a habit all year long, not just something you do on Jan. 1. The start of a new year is still a great time to reflect and strategize, but rather than fall on an old cliche, take a page from two of the most successful people in business.

for leading the new life you want after your divorce. The death of Perry at the end of Season 1 is certainly a big change for every single woman, even if they may not have been as directly involved as Bonnie was. But his death and the subsequent cover-up forces everyone to rethink how they’re going to navigate their lives now that things are so different. At ADLG, we emphasize that by going through divorce, you are giving yourself a new lease on life. It is not the end of life as you know it, but rather the beginning of life as you envision it. Taking steps to figure out how you’ll navigate that change is part of the process. No matter how complex your struggle may seem, give our team a call, tell us your story, and we’ll do everything we can to help you. In the meantime, get captivated by Season 2 of “Big Little Lies.” ‘past year reviews’ (PYR) more informed, valuable, and actionable than half-blindly looking forward with broad resolutions,” Ferriss said in a 2018 blog post. At the start of each year, Ferriss spends an hour going through his calendar from the past 12 months and making a note of every person, activity, or commitment that sparked the strongest emotions, both positive and negative. The most positive events get rescheduled immediately for the new year. Meanwhile, the negative ones get put on a “Not-To-Do List” and hung up where Ferriss can see them. “I do believe in starting the new year with new resolve,” says Melinda Gates, co-founder of the Bill & Melinda Gates Foundation, “but instead of adopting a resolution, I choose a word of the year — a word that encapsulates my aspirations for the 12 months ahead.” Gates says that words like “spacious” or “grace” have helped her center herself and serve as a reminder about what she really wants to focus on. In 2019, Gates chose the word “shine,” stating that, “It’s a reminder for all of us to turn on the lights inside of us, lift each other up, and shine together.” PICK A WORD OF THE YEAR WITH MELINDA GATES.


For decades, entrepreneur and best-selling author Tim Ferriss made New Year’s resolutions every year. Then, he developed a better strategy. “I have found


Divorce Law Theme: Mindset

In 2019, the ADLG team featured a new blog series to deep dive into the hit TV show “Big Little Lies” and analyze the family themes it addresses. We took a break from the show in the December edition of our newsletter, but we’re back to recapping the show for you here. Below is our take on the first episode of the second season, “What Have They Done?” After the Season 1 finale cliffhanger, fans assumed there was no room for a Season 2. The dramatic storyline of five women who band

together to navigate their hardships seemed to have run its course. But the second season takes a poignant look at the aftermath of the last moments of Season 1 and shows how each of the Monterey Five is holding up. We think this speaks to an important aspect of divorced life: When all the proceedings are done and the last decisions have been made, life might seem like it’s ending, but it’s not. It’s beginning anew.

ADLG’s theme for January is all about vision, mindset, and how managing both is important


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