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TANU VATSA AGGARWAL ARTICLE BY RESISTANCE TO CHANGE Resistance To change Awareness is the 1st step in healing/changing. In the past we unknowingly used this power to create the things we did not want to experience. Now we are aware & responsible. We use this power in +ve ways. We all have lessons to learn. The things which are difficult are the only lessons. Easy things are so because we already know. Awareness brings out non-verbal clues like; changing subject, leaving room, looking away. Assumptions: It’s useless etc. Beliefs: It is wrong. Them: They won’t like. God may not like. Self-Concepts : I am too old/young/tall/short/fat/thin/poor. Delaying: I will do later. Time is not right. I am busy. Denial; There is no need. Fear: I might fail. I am not good enough Leave Your Friends Alone: When something works well for us, we often want to share with others. But they may not be ready to make a change at that point in time & space. Such things may not work well for others. It is hard enough to change yourself. Trying to change others when they don’t want can ruin relationship. Mirror Work: Mirrors reflect feelings, shows resistance. Loud affirmations with mirror best. When affirmations don’t seem to work, we need to do another step before that. It has nothing to do with will power/discipline. Problem can’t just be solved by these. 1 st Affirmation: I am willing to release the need for resistance/ headache/constipation. Be gentle & patient with yourself. Love yourself. I am unworthy feeling creates procrastination: If you don’t feel good, how can you enjoy work? Then escapism is the only way. Resentment of Another’s Good: It is a barrier to our own growth and change. Self-worth opens many doors. New careers can start at any stage, especially if you do it for fun. Self-criticism is totally missing the mark. When we want to run away from –ve thoughts, we find unhealthy escape routes like overeating, or other over indulgence. Affirmation: I see any resistance pattern in me only as something else to release. They have no power over me. I approve and love myself. I am changing & & doing my best. Each day is easier. Today is wonderful day. I choose to make it so. .
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