5. The People-Pleaser: "If I Take Care of Everyone, They Won’t Leave" Do you find yourself prioritizing others’ needs, always saying yes, and feeling guilty when you put yourself first? This form of self-care— overgiving—might stem from a fear of abandonment. 🔹 The hidden wound: Rejection, fear of being unlovable, childhood dynamics where love was conditional. 🔹 The illusion: If I take care of everyone, they will love and need me. 🔹 The cost: Exhaustion, resentment, and never truly feeling seen or valued. Healing shift: Instead of seeking validation through giving, practice setting boundaries. Allow yourself to receive as much as you give. True relationships are built on mutual care, not self-sacrifice.
✔ Seek balance: Self-care should not be about fixing yourself but honoring yourself. ✔ Talk about it: Whether through therapy, journaling, or safe conversations, processing your wounds will allow you to heal from the inside out. At the end of the day, true self-care is not about hiding your wounds. It’s about acknowledging them, working through them, and ultimately, loving yourself despite them. Because healing doesn’t mean never feeling pain again—it means knowing you are worthy, even with your scars.
Understanding the wound behind your self- care habits is the first step. Now, how can you shift your routine to truly nurture yourself? Turning Self-Care into True Healing ✔ Practice self-awareness: Ask yourself, Is this self-care coming from love or fear? ✔ Embrace discomfort: Growth happens when you allow yourself to sit with uncomfortable emotions rather than avoiding them.
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