surrounding yourself with a network of supportive people can help you when you are feeling distracted or unable to concentrate on important tasks. Denial Denial can be a wonderful thing. It is the mind’s way of buffering the full impact of a trauma until it can be absorbed. Upon learning that a loved one has been killed, most people are too weak to undertake the overwhelming task of grieving. When you heard of your loved one’s death, you may have gone into shock. Regardless of the initial impact, if you are like most people, you soon found yourself in a state of numbness. Looking back now, you may wonder how you remained calm. You may have completed some tasks that now seem impossible. You probably have a hard time remembering exactly what you did during those first few days. During this time, people may have assumed that you were strong by your actions, when in reality, you were in shock and only going through the motions. Denial following a violent and
unanticipated death is considered normal and functional. It allows a person to travel through grief at their own pace and serves them well until they are stronger and better able to
If you need help, it’s ok to ask for it.
cope. It is impossible to push through any part of the grieving process in an attempt to get over it. If you cannot think clearly or if you seem forgetful and detached, be patient with yourself. Most importantly, if you need help, it’s ok to ask for it.
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