Peggi ' s top tips to deal with being the only sober person in the room
#1 Own It It was certainly not easy at first, and it took me a year to fully come out as a sober person. Being open and honest about my choice is empowering. I don’t need other people to understand or accept me because I understand and accept me. I just don’t care anymore what people think about my not drinking. I wear my sobriety like strong armor. I feel pride in being a dignified sober woman. #3 Have A Plan Bring your own AF drinks. Drive your own car so you can arrive and leave as you choose. If there are children present, take some of that time and play with them or plan a project like I did with the grandkids at Thanksgiving. Children feel much safter when there are adults at the party who aren’t under the influence.
#2 Avoid If You Can
If you can, avoid social events where alcohol is center stage: There must be something at the gathering or event that is of interest to you. There’s nothing for me in going to events like wine tasting or bars where there is nothing going on other than drinking. It might be different if there is music, dancing, games, or other forms of entertainment you can enjoy. Get comfortable in saying no to things that no longer suit you. Saying no is one of my sober superpower
#4 Pick Wisely
Pick someone you would like to get to know better or catch up with. People usually love talking about themselves, especially if they feel listened to. Just make sure you pick someone who isn’t already a bottle in so that conversation has meaning.
#5 Be An Observer I love to pick a spot in the room, preferably by the food and just become a people watcher. A party is a perfect place to observe human behavior. To study all kinds of drunk. To be reminded of and grateful for why you no longer put ethanol in your body. Sit back and enjoy!
"Even if your ass is on fire, you do NOT drink." Maria MacKenty
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