Bruce Law Firm - October 2019

october 2019


In addition to being the month of Halloween and all things spooky, October is also Emotional Wellness Month. It’s something we’re passionate about at Bruce Law because of our clients’ experiences. Since Chris opened this firm, he’s made it a point to connect with mental health professionals in the area. He’s gotten to know them and each of their practices, meeting with them and exploring the best mental health options available to our clients, because we know how important it is to have emotional support. One of the first things we ask people when they come to our office is if they’ve thought about counseling. It may sound surprising, but the first thing on our minds when we talk to a client isn’t divorce; we’re assessing the current state of a person or marriage. Is the marriage mendable? Is it healthy or unhealthy? Only after we’ve raised these questions do we think about moving on to the next phase of the process. Ending a marriage is an emotionally traumatic process, and we often encourage our clients to seek therapy throughout the divorce.

Therapy is often stigmatized in our culture as being necessary only when something is seriously wrong or needs fixing. Rather than signifying that something is in crisis mode, though, seeking counseling is about maintenance. Just like you go to the gym to work out for your physical well-being, your mental well-being also requires intentional upkeep. In therapy, you get to talk to someone about your experiences without judgement. A therapist or counselor is simply there to listen and help you discover underlying thoughts, feelings, and patterns. Practices like meditation and mindfulness that take judgement out of the equation can also be helpful in keeping you emotionally healthy. About a year ago, Chris and I started practicing mindfulness and meditation. We read a book called “Mindfulness: An Eight-Week Plan for Finding Peace in a Frantic World” and began following the plan laid out in its pages. We also started using the Calm app to direct our practice. For 10 minutes a day, we meditate, focusing on nothing but the present, and accept the noise in our heads without letting it overwhelm us. We’ve found doing our mindfulness practice before bedtime to be best, as the day is winding down and the kids are already in bed. Chris will sometimes opt to meditate first thing in the morning, and it’s a great way to start the day. Since we started this practice, we’ve both noticed how helpful it’s been for, well, every aspect of life. It helps us be more present with each other, our kids, and our clients, and it helps us tune in to how we’re feeling, checking in with ourselves before letting a thought or emotion overwhelm us. As the Mount Sinai website defines it, “Mindfulness is the practice of judgment- free reflection, being in the moment, and being aware of your surroundings, thoughts, and physical sensations.” Our society doesn’t provide us many tools for tuning in to and processing our emotions. That makes it all the more important to become your own best advocate for your emotional well-being and seek out support. Fortunately, you don’t have to do it on your own. There are many resources to turn to. Inside this newsletter, we include some of the resources you can utilize for support. You don’t have to go it alone. – Ashley and Chris Bruce

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