A day well lived by Kari Averill
My thoughts have been all over the place for a couple of weeks. School got out so my 9-year-old son is in heaven. I am still working from home full time and since myself and close family and friends are vaccinated, we can socialize, hug, and act (almost) normal again. I am enjoying a long weekend due to Independence Day here in the US, and I can never complain about that! But, mixed in with all these lovely things, is a bit of rubbish too. Recently found out my ex is moving in with his girlfriend of about 5 months. I don’t care what he does, I just worry because it affects my son. I didn’t appreciate that he told me he had a new woman in his life in the same breath that he told me they were moving in together. Lots to think about! My work is fine, but with the Covid Pandemic improving, they are planning for the 'return to the office' by all the employees even though so many of us would rather continue to work from home full time. My sweet, silly son is acting like he is “in charge” and making me want to rip my hair out - with no end in sight. Life is an amazing mix of Good and Bad. We spend a lot of time just pushing through our days dealing with the mundane and the normal everyday 'ups and downs that come with being human. Many people find themselves dealing with exceedingly difficult situations daily, and many don't have anything stressful at all. My thoughts have been all over the place for a couple of weeks. School got out so my 9-year-old son is in heaven. BIO: Social Media/Blog: soberwithoutcake.com Kari Averill is a recently divorced mother of a fabulous 9-year- old son. She finally figured With an English literature background, she decided to use her writing skills to share her Sober journey with the world through her blog, soberwithoutcake.com. Her Blog helps her with her sobriety and her drive to get her weight in control while connecting with others through life lessons. Kari loves her family, works hard and credits Kate Bee’s “Sober School” with helping her find her way to a wonderful life of Sobriety!
I think most of us, regardless of circumstance, fall in the middle. We go on, frustrated by some things that happen but comfortable with the things that comprise our days. My freedom from drinking has expanded my world. But sometimes I am not certain what that means, I feel pressured to do 'bigger and better things now that I am not wasting my time numbing out every night. But, what are those "things" and why do I feel "pressure"? In fact, where is the pressure coming from other than within? One of the wonderful women from my sober group spoke of something that really stuck with me. At the end of the day, can I say I had a "day well lived"? I wrote this down and forgot about it until recently. Now it is bouncing around in my mind trying to find a place. I wonder, what does that even mean? How would I define a "Day Well Lived"? This phrase seems so simple, really. Three words. Three little words that, when put together, captures the expanse of what human life is. That sounds huge, and maybe oversimplifying it, but to me, the phrase a "day well lived" represents the goals I have now that I am facing life head-on, without booze. What does it mean to me to say, I had a day well lived? Today is my 364th day of sobriety. One thing I realize is that a day well-lived today is vastly different from a day well lived 354 days ago. 354 days ago, a day well lived was any day I got through without a drink. Today, I expect more from myself. Today, my day well lived involves more than just getting through without booze. But I am still unsure what exactly needs to happen in my day for me to think I had a day well-lived. I am 364 days into my new life. My LAB - "Life After Booze". I think the acronym is perfect because when I think of a lab I think of tests, experiments, and things that are done to find the best outcome. My LAB is full of challenges - every day something new that I am facing without hiding in my booze-saturated mind. I feel all the 'feels' and I face everything without a haze. I am not necessarily good at it and my 'tests and experiments' are far from clear-cut. I am still trying to figure out the right methodology for my "Day Well Lived". But each day I get closer. Each challenge presents a new factor that contributes to my results. Most days, my LAB is filled with smiles and tears. I often wonder if I am doing enough with my life or am I letting it pass me by. But I realize I am the only one who can create the formula for my "Day Well Lived". And I know the experiment has only just begun. Best wishes ~Ms. K
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