AFTER DIVORCE SURVIVING THE HOLIDAYS
N othing disrupts holiday cheer quite like the fresh wound of a divorce. At first, most divorced couples find it difficult to adjust to the holidays. While you may or may not have your children on certain holidays in any given year, it is important to remember that holidays are about celebrating with family and friends and don’t have to occur on one specific day. Children usually won’t complain about celebrating a holiday twice, especially if it involves receiving gifts. While gifts are always nice, remember that they don’t need to be purchased to appreciate the holidays. With separation and divorce, funds for the holidays may not be as plentiful as before. Sometimes the gift of time and attention means more than any store-bought present. Your children will remember the memories that you make with them, not the items that you purchase for them. If you’re celebrating the holidays for the first time after your divorce, understand and acknowledge that it may be especially stressful. As you navigate this season, remember that this is new for everyone, and a little patience and perseverance goes a long way. While old traditions may bring about anxiety or painful memories, starting new family traditions is a way to begin healing and enjoy the holidays. If you can afford it, maybe plan on taking a vacation with friends or family or go to visit out of town relatives. If you prefer to stay local, giving back to the community through volunteering and helping those less fortunate is a rewarding distraction. If you happen to know friends or family members who are going through the holidays for the first time after a divorce, invite them to join your family for the festivities. Most people don’t want to ask for help. Invite them into your home to help them resist the temptation to be alone. We like to view life after divorce as a new chapter. During a divorce, it can seem like you’re traveling through a dark tunnel, but it is important to see the light at the end of the tunnel. Once you reach it, be sure to embrace the change. Whether the
"DURING A DIVORCE, IT CAN SEEM LIKE YOU’RE TRAVELING THROUGH A DARK TUNNEL, BUT IT IS IMPORTANT TO SEE THE LIGHT AT THE END OF THE TUNNEL."
change was something that you wanted or not, embracing your new circumstances will make life and the holidays much more enjoyable. No matter your circumstances this holiday season, we hope that you and your family enjoy this festive season.
– Moses DeWitt
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