October Is Emotional Wellness Month What Roles Do Fear and Stress Play in Our Lives?
With Halloween celebrations in the near future, people have spent hours sorting through local costume shops to find the scariest outfits, face paint, and decorations to make their festivities as spooky as possible.
emotionally, and why it’s necessary to separate your worth as a person from your immediate physical state. Otherwise, you’ll have a limited ability to feel like yourself while navigating your physical ailments. On those darker days, it might be necessary to call upon other resources. In fact, when I started to question if I would ever get better, I sought support and guidance both from my pastor and a counselor. It’s important to ask for help unpacking all those feelings from time to time. Once I recovered from surgery, I didn’t have to work as hard to separate my emotional and physical wellness, but that doesn’t mean fear, stress, and anxiety don’t creep into my everyday life. Fortunately, I’ve found healthy ways to work through them. For example, when I’m brainstorming solutions for a particularly complex file at work or chewing on a tough personal situation, I’ll take a walk outside. My neighborhood is fairly wooded, so I can listen to the chirping of birds and the wind in the trees while I gain some perspective. Other ways I counter worries are through yoga, meditation, and voice lessons. In fact, I’ve been taking voice lessons from Tammy (yes, the Tammy in the office!) for over 10 years and have found that it allows me to get out of my head for a little bit, taking part in a fun and creative endeavor. While all of these pastimes are certainly helpful, the one I enjoy most is cooking. Lining up all the ingredients for a new recipe, pondering the process of getting to the best result, and then actually making the meal is exciting for me. Again, it’s a way to give my brain a chance to slow down and change gears.
When I think about Halloween, I realize the thing that most memorable ghosts, goblins, and monsters all have in common is fear. Fear plays an interesting role in the human psyche. We can pinch our eyes shut and scream at the top of our lungs all the way through a haunted house, but the second we step out of the house and into safety, those frightened feelings dissipate. But when it comes to real-life worries and fears, many of us have a harder time finding emotional stability. In my own life, I’ve discovered that it’s important to understand the interplay between emotional and physical wellness. Prior to my surgery and recovery last year, I experienced firsthand how physical difficulties can influence how one feels
Even when I’m not cooking, you can find me reading about cooking. In fact, I recently worked my way through a book called “Garlic and Sapphires: The Secret Life of a Critic in Disguise.”Written by Ruth Reichl, a world-renowned food critic and former editor in chief of Gourmet magazine, the book chronicles some of the remarkable (and comical) experiences Reichl had when going undercover to review high-profile restaurants. She even shares some of her favorite recipes, which I immediately bookmarked to try later! All of this is to say that everyone needs their own approach to assuage stress and fear, and what works for me may not work for you. But if you’re finding that you’re having more dark days than bright ones, I encourage you to start thinking about some pastimes that might help change that, and enlist the help of a therapist if you need more support.
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PRESIDENT ADAMS’ JOURNEY TO THE CENTER OF THE EARTH Ambassador to the Mole People
Today, some of the most fantastic discoveries are being made in the far reaches of space, but there was a time when people were more interested in what was going on beneath their feet. In the early 1820s, a United States army officer named John Cleves Symmes Jr. traveled the country teaching audiences about the Hollow Earth Theory. Symmes and some others at the time believed the Earth was made up of several solid spheres, one inside of another. They also believed each of these subterranean worlds was habitable and full of life. This is
the national observatory, and secured funding for the Smithsonian Institution. It’s possible Adams’ interest in Symmes’ trip to the North Pole was less about the Hollow Earth Theory and meeting the mole people than his larger interest in learning more about such a remote part of the world. However, Adams’ reputation as a naturalist didn’t protect him from scrutiny.
Even in the early 1800s, the Hollow Earth Theory was like the Flat Earth Theory today; there were a couple avid supporters, but most people
where the myth of the mole people originated. Symmes wanted to lead an expedition to the North Pole, where he believed he would find an entrance to the center of the Earth. He went to Congress and lobbied for money to fund his expedition. Congress shot him down, but Symmes found an ally in an unlikely place: President John Quincy Adams. John Quincy Adams was the sixth president of the United States and son of the second president and founding father, John Adams. He traveled the world with his father, graduated from Harvard with honors, helped create
knew it was ridiculous. Having a sitting U.S. president greenlight the expedition was shocking. However, you didn’t learn about Symmes’ expedition in your history class for a reason. Adams wasn’t a popular president, and not just because he might have wanted to meet the mole people. He only served one term. By the time the expedition started to get off the ground, Andrew Jackson had been elected, and he quickly killed the project. In 1936, Congress would approve funding for an expedition to the South Pole, though this expedition focused on exploring the surface of the Earth, not what is underneath it.
Halloween Decorations or Fighting Words? A GRAVE LEGAL MATTER
We’ve all played a harmless trick or two, but sometimes, Halloween shenanigans get out of hand. They can lead to hurt feelings, outraged neighbors, and, in the case of Purtell v. Mason, a lawsuit. In the days leading up to Halloween, all was not quiet in the village of Bloomingdale. Previously parked in a storage unit, Jeff and Vicki Purtell’s 38-foot RV was now parked in front of their house. In protest, neighbors petitioned to town officials, wanting an ordinance put in place to prohibit RV parking on residential property. While the ordinance was under consideration, Jeff Purtell took matters into his own hands. He erected six wooden tombstones in his front yard. They seemed to be innocuous Halloween decorations, but these
tombstones displayed a special message for the neighbors. Each headstone was inscribed with a sarcastic message and house number, implying the occupants’ death dates. These messages soon caught the neighbors’ attention.
“Bette wasn’t ready, but here she lies, ever since that night she died. Twelve feet deep in this trench, still wasn’t deep enough for that stench! 1690.”
Insulted and a little afraid, Purtell’s neighbors called the police to have the headstones removed. After a couple of visits, Officer Bruce Mason arrived and threatened to arrest Purtell if he didn’t take the tombstones down. Purtell obliged, but the matter wasn’t put to rest. The Verdict Purtell sued Officer Mason on the grounds of violating his rights to free speech, and the case made it all the way to the 7th U.S. Circuit Court of Appeals. Judge Sykes ruled that the tombstones did not constitute fighting words and were protected under the First Amendment. However, she also ruled that Officer Mason was entitled to qualified immunity, as any reasonable officer would act the same under the circumstances. The bigger question might be how this case made it all the way to the U.S. Court of Appeals. As Judge Sykes wrote in her opinion, “Lawsuits like this one cast the legal profession in a bad light and contribute to the impression that Americans are an overlawyered and excessively litigious people.”
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TAILS FROM THE PAST Mythical Cats of the World
Most owners will tell you their cats act like ancient deities. Majestic, scrupulous, and utterly unpredictable, these fascinating creatures have long captured our imaginations. Even before cat videos took the internet by storm, humans have been idolizing felines, placing them alongside some of their most important mythological figures. Bastet — Egypt Of course, a list of mythical cats has to start with Egypt. While many people know the pharaohs and their followers thought cats were sacred, you may be surprised by how deep the connection goes. The earliest depiction of Bastet, the feline deity of protection, is a lion- headed woman in battle. But, over the course of 2,000 years, Bastet evolved to resemble the domesticated, pointy-eared cats we know and love today. 招き猫 (Maneki-Neko) — Japan Legend has it that in the 17th century, a monk living in a small temple in Edo (now Tokyo) was struggling to survive, but he still split his meals with his cat, Tama. One day, Lord Nakaota Ii got caught in a rainstorm while hunting and took shelter under a tree near the temple. Nakaota spotted Tama near the temple, and the cat raised its leg, beckoning the noble to come toward him. Curious, Nakaota complied, stepping out from beneath the tree just before a bolt of lightning struck it down. The lord’s life was saved, and to this day, the Maneki-Neko (the beckoning cat) is a symbol of wealth and good fortune. Freya’s Skogkatts —Norway In Norse folklore, the goddess Freya had a unique means of travel: a chariot pulled by two cats. These were skogkatts, or Norwegian Forest cats, that were only a little larger than your average house cat. Still, these small felines towed Freya around battlefields as she gathered warriors to send to Valhalla. On top of being the goddess of war, love affairs, and magic, Freya may well have been Midgard’s first cat lady.
LEFTOVER CANDY SNACK MIX
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2 cups mini pretzels, coarsely broken
6 tbsp unsalted butter, melted
12 oz mini candy bars, such as Snickers, chopped into 1/2-inch pieces
1/4 cup light brown sugar
2 tbsp granulated sugar
1/3 cup dry milk powder
1. Heat oven to 275 F. 2. In a large mixing bowl, fold together pretzels, sugars, milk powder, and butter. 3. Spread mixture on a baking sheet lined with parchment paper and bake for 20 minutes. 4. Let cool for at least 30 minutes and mix in candy bar pieces before serving.
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What Roles Do Fear and Stress Play in Our Lives?
Weird History: The President and the Hollow Earth Grave Matters of the Law
Leftover Candy Snack Mix Amazing Cat Tales
3 Strategies for Helping Grandkids Pay for College
DON’T LET MONEY GET IN THE WAY Of Your Grandchild’s Education
Pay their tuition. Not everybody has $20,000 just lying around, but if you do, using it to pay for your grandchild’s tuition isn’t a bad way to spend it. Normally, annual financial gifts that are exempt from the federal gift tax can’t exceed $15,000, but payments toward someone’s tuition, for any amount, are not taxed. Keep in mind, however, that the money can only
College expenses aren’t what they used to be. What used to be affordable to any student with a part-time summer job now can take years to pay off. If your grandkids want to go to college, the cost of education should not be a barrier to their future. Luckily there are ways that you can help ease that financial burden.
Invest in a 529 Plan. There are no limits on age, income, or monetary contributions attached to this college savings account, and contributions are tax-deductible in some states. Just like a Roth IRA, the earnings grow over time and can be used tax-free for qualifying expenses, like tuition and room . There are a few downsides, however. Funds from a grandparent’s 529 Savings Plan are considered student income and could hurt your student’s eligibility for financial aid. If you choose to fund through a parent’s 529 Plan, which doesn’t count as student income, you lose control over the funds you contribute.
go toward tuition, not toward other college expenses like room and board or textbooks.
Help them find opportunities to save. Even if you don’t have thousands of dollars to give, you can still help your grandkids look for other opportunities to save. There are thousands of available scholarships, grants, and programs to help students pay for college, and helping them look online and in your community can go a long way. College could be your grandchild’s first stop on the path to achieving their dreams. You can be a part of that journey by making sure money doesn’t get in the way of that.
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