Adult Grief After a Traumatic Death

felt are part of the grieving process and helps them begin their healing journey. Many women are able to enjoy intercourse only when they are feeling well emotionally. Grieving significantly decreases their desire. It may take a considerable amount of time for a woman to readjust her intimate life. If you are a woman going through the grieving process, you may want to talk to your family about their feelings and wonder why your family or friends don’t seem to care or shed a tear. When coping with grief, you may be overly critical of yourself or others. You may blame others for what happened or be angry

toward everyone. You may stop attending to your physical needs or the needs of your children or partner. All of these negative coping skills may ultimately hurt you or your relationships. It’s important that you recognize harmful coping skills and have patience with yourself and the loved ones around you who may not

Communicate your needs honestly and openly.

be grieving in the same way that you are. Many times a loved one or friend is worried that by talking to you about the death that they may hurt you even more. Above all it’s important that you communicate your needs honestly and openly. People will only be able to help if they know what you need.

Coping with Traumatic Grief

Mourning You will always feel sorrowful knowing that your loved one died tragically and that the relationship you might have enjoyed was cut short. However, this sorrow is not the emotional equivalent to the intense grief that most victims/survivors experience for the first months or years. A sense of sorrow is not the same as being overwhelmed by grief. While the initial responses to the death are defined by the term grief, mourning refers to the internal processes associated with adapting to life without your loved one. Some have described mourning as a “misty fog on life.” You are not always aware, yet you realize that life is not quite as bright, not quite as

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