BEYOND THE BLUEPRINT
REPLACING EXPECTATION WITH MINDFULNESS
T here’s a concept in Buddhism that suggests suffering comes from an attachment to our expectations. We want or expect things to be a certain way, and when reality doesn’t match our expectations, we get frustrated or disappointed. I believe we’ve all experienced this at one time or another. Even if we don’t have clear expectations of the future, most of us have these internal blueprints of how we think things are supposed to be. These ideas come from our upbringing whether we realize they’re there or not. While our internal blueprints can be helpful in keeping us motivated to achieve our goals, they can also be a source of difficulty when things in life don’t align — especially in terms of interacting with other people. This goes double for raising kids.
chatter and the outside voices, we can gain stronger insight into where we are at that moment.
My kids are young, and sometimes they have emotional episodes. If they’re having a moment at home, I tend to handle it a lot better than if we’re at the grocery store. That’s because at the grocery store, we’re surrounded by external voices telling me I need to help my son or daughter calm down as soon as possible. But that isn’t listening to what my child is experiencing at the moment. Feelings are hard when you’re so young, and while I don’t want my kids to feel upset, sometimes you just have step away from the situation and
process your feelings. My kids haven’t learned how to work through their feelings yet, so if I practice listening and being mindful in tough moments, I can better teach my kids how to make it through those situations. A few weeks ago, I downloaded the meditation app Headspace to help build mindfulness habits. It is powerful to be able to mentally take a step back in a situation and to find silence in yourself
I can’t turn my kids into someone they’re not. I love my kids to death and would never want them to be anyone else, but as a parent, it can be hard to let your kids just be sometimes. I have this blueprint in my head about how raising kids or being a dad is “supposed” to go, but it rarely matches up. It’s my job to raise Finn
If we can learn to tune out our internal chatter and the outside voices, we can gain stronger insight into where we are at that moment.
and really listen to what’s going on. The brain is really powerful, and when you give it the chance to be quiet and focus, overwhelming moments aren’t always so overwhelming.
and Harlow to be kind, constructive members of society, and ideally, that’s by giving them the freedom to be the best Finn and the best Harlow they can be. To do that, I have to throw out the blueprint and replace it with mindfulness and listening. Recently, Nicole had me read a book called “The Awakened Family.” This is an incredible book about how to raise resilient, emotionally intelligent kids. The author, Dr. Shefali Tsabary, presents a lot of interesting parenting resources, but the one that really stood out to me was the importance of listening and silence. How often do we really listen to other people and not think about the next thing we need to do or say? If we can learn to tune out our internal
The real secret behind mindfulness and listening is to understand that things aren’t always going to go your way and that you aren’t always going to hear
what you want to hear. That’s okay. When we get rid of our internal blueprints and let go of expectations, we can learn to be the best versions of ourselves.
‘LET MY PEOPLE GO SURFING: The Education of a Reluctant Businessman’
How Patagonia’s Founder Set a New Standard for Environmental Responsibility
The last of which is truly the core of the brand. Patagonia prioritizes minimalism, function, durability, and reparability in all of its products, from backpacks to jackets. It tracks the energy and water use of its facilities, works to eliminate pollution, focuses on recycled and recyclable materials, participates in environmental activism, funds environmental organizations worldwide, and even encourages shoppers to send in worn-out apparel for reuse and repair. In short, over the course of 272 pages, Chouinard proves he not only talks the talk but also walks the walk — and has made millions championing his cause. He encourages other entrepreneurs to do the same, laying out Patagonia’s footsteps and philosophies for readers to follow. Many already have. “Let My People Go Surfing” was updated and rereleased in 2016, but either version will make entrepreneurs think twice about their environmental impact and what they can do to reduce it. As one Amazon reviewer wrote, “Whether you're a manager or business owner looking to motivate your employees and create a sustainable business, or a fan of Patagonia, or someone curious about how to live a life you can feel good about, this book should work for you.”
From the very beginning of his 2006 memoir, “Let My People Go Surfing: The Education of a Reluctant Businessman,” it’s clear that Patagonia’s founder, Yvon Chouinard, is not the typical entrepreneur. As a kid, Chouinard wanted to be a fur trapper, and rather than going into business with dreams of getting rich, he started making climbing gear to fund his passion for scaling cliffs and adventuring in the outdoors. “Let My People Go Surfing” follows Patagonia’s meteoric rise through its victories and rough patches — including the stalled growth that led to layoffs of 20% of the staff in the 1990s — but its main focus is on the company’s ideals. In plain, forthright, and sometimes irascible language, Chouinard lays out Patagonia’s growth goals, culture aims, and environmental stewardship efforts.
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1. Using a food processor, blend dates and sea salt until dough can be formed into a ball. Slowly add enough warm water to mixture to thicken dough. 2. Roll dough into tablespoon-sized balls. Freeze for 20–30 minutes. 3. In microwave, warm 1/4 cup peanut butter for 30 seconds, then drizzle peanut butter on top of balls. Freeze balls for another 20 minutes. 4. Meanwhile, in microwave, warm chocolate with coconut oil until melted. Stir well. 5. Coat balls in chocolate and place on a parchment-lined baking sheet. 6. Top with additional salt and freeze for 30 minutes. Serve at room temperature. • 1 lb medjool dates, pitted (about 1 1/2 cups) • 1/2 tsp sea salt • Warm water • 1/4 cup peanut butter • 1 cup bittersweet or dark chocolate, chopped • 1 tbsp coconut oil, melted Valentine’s Day is all about love … and chocolate. Enjoy these chocolate peanut butter date truffles with your date this Valentine’s Day. Ingredients Directions
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The human brain is an incredibly powerful organ. It solves complex problems, recalls forgotten memories, and triggers a dizzying array of emotions. But its most incredible power is the effect it can have on the rest of the body. When it comes to love, well, our brains certainly love it, and our bodies reflect that. LESS STRESS Human beings thrive on a sense of connection and belonging, and studies have shown that love actually has positive effects on a person’s physical health as well as mental. The security and commitment felt in a loving relationship are shown to reduce stress by stunting the production of cortisol, the body’s stress-inducing hormone. Less stress means lower blood pressure, a healthier heart, and a lower risk of stroke, especially in men. HEALTHIER IMMUNE SYSTEMS Researchers at Carnegie Mellon University found that calm, happy people can fight common colds and the flu more easily than those who are anxious or depressed. The physical benefits of love even go as farPage 1 Page 2 Page 3 Page 4
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