Awaken the Inner Hero
When I was talking to the documentary interviewer about all this, she stopped me when I was almost done and said, “So the way you are answering, I’m guessing that you don’t know that JJ didn’t seek legal action against the hit-and-run driver; in fact, she never even spoke about her.” I’d had no idea, but I wasn’t shocked. It would have been so easy to place blame and expend energy on revenge. Others might have tried to get the driver prosecuted in the criminal courts, and if that didn’t work, sue her for everything she had. JJ could have hated her and rightfully so, given what happened to her little boy. Instead, she realized that revenge would do Grant no good and that we only have a certain amount of energy to put forth in the world. She knew in what direction her energy needed to go and focused on the solution with laser intensity. She let the inner hero be in control rather than the villain. Your in- ner hero can’t stop things from going wrong. It can’t prevent tragedies. But if you let it emerge, it can turn even the worst possible trauma you’ve gone through into a building block for a better life. It can help you generate energy from whatever challenge you face and use it to achieve the life you deserve. This isn’t about being glad if something goes wrong so you can learn from it. We don’t want bad things in our lives, but the fact is they happen. So if they are going to happen, who do you want in charge? I think you are getting it: the hero focuses on solutions. And I am happy to tell you that Grant didn’t just live, but has thrived. Because of his fighting spirit and his mom’s fo- cus on the best possible outcome, Grant is working every day toward a bigger, better life for himself. JJ’s latest book, Miracle Mindset , is about the journey she and Grant have been on and the lessons we can all learn from their experience. So now that you have a better idea of what the inner hero looks like, we need to examine how you can develop the con- fidence to put that hero in control.
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