The Power of Happiness
So be like Trent and don’t let the naysayers in any area of your life bring you down. Switch it up and try to find how to give it a new meaning. “Protect your peace” are words Trent often uses, and so should you. In so many cases suffering is a choice. Therefore, do what you must, create new habits, and avoid suf- fering whenever possible. You are amazing; let the world see this incredible part of you every day.
HAPPINESS HABIT #5: LET GO OF SPECIFIC OUTCOMES
This is a game-changer. It’s not easy, but it’s damn effective. Too often, we predict what different outcomes should be, and we get hung up on our predictions. “If I put this money into this deal, and I partner with this person, we should make x amount of money, and here’s exactly how it will look.” Then if it doesn’t turn out like that, happiness goes away. You think to yourself, “That’s not what I wanted! That’s not what I predicted! This isn’t right!” Sometimes you order steak, and the server brings you chicken, and all of a sudden, you’re angry. “This is not what I wanted! I can’t believe they did this!” Here’s how we make the same mistake in relationships: “We’re going to be married next year, and we’re going to honey- moon in Hawaii, and this is the way it’s going to be.” And when it doesn’t turn out that way, we immediately get angry or our joy in the relationship diminishes. Remember what Tony Robbins said: “What if life happens for us, not to us?” Imagine you’re paddling downstream in a canoe, and all of a sudden, the current takes you off course. You could resist it and say, “I have to paddle upstream against this strong current and get back on the track I expected.” But wouldn’t that take a tremendous amount of effort? What if when our course is altered, instead of being angry, we said, “What if this little change in direction is a strategic part of my next level of life? Maybe this is happening for me and not to me. Maybe I should just ride the current out and see where it goes.”
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