The Quick Hacks to Success
Just get in the habit of doing something different daily. When you exercise, you do everything else better. You make wiser food choices, you refrain from adult beverages more often, and you even start to sleep better. On top of that, you start looking bet- ter. It’s truly addicting! So, why not start this habit today? TAKE TIME TO UNDERSTAND When someone does something to make you feel slighted, underappreciated, snubbed, or even disrespected, you become upset. That’s understandable. But many times, we don’t under- stand how they really feel, and we are simply assuming their negative intent. And like I stated previously, this can cause us to waste energy, thoughts, time, and focus. It happens some- times without even knowing it, and we have to stay away from this energy and time grabber. We are so much better off not wasting our time on the perceived sense that someone is doing us wrong. I had this happen with my daughter’s friend’s father. Ev- ery time I saw the guy, I felt he was snubbing me. I remember thinking, “Well, he must have a problem with me.” He never smiled and barely said hi when I tried greeting him a few times. I convinced myself that he was snobbish or opinionated, and foolishly never talked to him about this subject. Finally, one day I just decided to sit down and chat with him. He and I talked, and I discovered that I was completely wrong about the guy! He was just shy and a little insecure. He turned out to be the fur- thest thing from pretentious: a humble guy and a great dad. He just lacked the confidence to communicate well with people he barely knew. Forcing myself to understand a situation before I react has been transformational. Make it a habit to pause in any circum- stance that offends you, no matter how bad the offense may seem. So much energy and stress can be avoided if we try to un- derstand why people are doing what they do; or, if necessary, we can avoid this wasted energy by deciding it is not going to affect
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