REVIEW:
1. Why do we make big deals over little things in marriage?
REVIEW: 1. We make big deals over little things because we’re full of ourselves. We always feel the need to be right and in control of life. 2. The doorway to hope is not hopelessness in life, but hopelessness in yourself. There is always hope - Hope is a Person, but He is not you or me. Hope is found in Jesus, but we first need to abandon hope in ourselves. 3. When Jesus died, all of our sins were future sins. That means Christ gave His life up for us knowing full well that we would still fail and sin. If Jesus covered our failure, we don’t need to worry about hiding it. When we come clean about who we are and where we struggle, we will
2. Why is the doorway to hope hopelessness?
3. Why do we have confidence to reveal personal sin and marital weaknesses to others?
DISCUSSION: To end Session 4, it is recommended to break up into gender-specific groups for this discussion; husbands and wives should be separated. 1. Knowing that there is nothing that can be exposed about you that hasn’t already been covered by the Cross of Jesus Christ, be fully honest and transparent with those in your gender-specific group: how have you failed to create an environment of love, protection, and safety for your spouse? How have your words and behaviors been critical, harsh, and condemning?
2. When you go home from this Session, will you be committed to spending personal time with your spouse and confessing to the things you revealed in the previous question? What specific sins do you need to repent of to your spouse?
3. If and when your spouse confesses to you, will you struggle to forgive? Why might it be difficult to forgive quickly and freely?
have a better chance of reaching out for help.
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DISCUSSION: For probing Discussion like this, we recommend splitting couples up. While some might have a healthy relationship, and the maturity to handle the sin of their spouse in a Biblical manner, many will have a history of pain and turmoil. Exposing this in front of one another probably won’t be helpful. Instead, isolate the husband and the wife and have a mature man and a mature woman lead each of the gender-specific groups. Encourage the husband and wife to have a conversation with each other after the session, but use this environment to prepare them for reconciliation with their spouse.
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