DISCUSSION: 1. How have you grown in knowledge and understanding over these 10 sessions? In other words, how have you expanded your “theology” of the heart, worship, and marriage? Write down some specific and concrete examples before sharing aloud:
2. Remember that the purpose of Scripture is not just informational, but transformational. What selfish and sinful tendencies have been exposed to you about yourself during these 10 sessions? What new hope do you have for your marriage? Write down some specific and concrete answers before sharing aloud:
3. Remember that you are not only called to be a recipient of grace, but a participant of grace as well. What have you learned about marriage that you can bring to others? Write down specific people to whom you can be an instrument of grace (respecting confidentiality if necessary):
FOR PERSONAL REVIEW ONLY: These questions are intended for personal review only, not group discussion. If these questions reveal sexual addictions or sinful tendencies in your life, seek help from the body of Christ or a trained professional counselor. 1. What pleasure motivates you in the bedroom: the pleasure of God or your own pleasure?
2. How might you be using your spouse as a tool for your own sexual pleasure, instead of caring for them by worshiping God in the act of sex?
3. What sexual struggles are you experiencing in the marriage bed? What might these struggles reveal about your character outside of the bedroom?
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DISCUSSION: It would be extremely unwise to have an open discussion about sex in a mixed-gender setting, but it’s also unwise to have a discussion about sex in even a gender-specific setting. The heart of humanity is twisted, and people will think things that they should never think, even in an environment like this. Questions about sex should be reserved for personal review only. Finish your study with a “roundup discussion” instead, reviewing what people have learned from the entire course. It would be incredibly helpful to make avenues of further help available for people that need it regarding their marriage. If you have a counseling center at your church, encourage them to seek help there, or recommend local biblical counselors or other ways to follow up for more intensive care.
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