APPLYING WHAT YOU LEARNED: Take time in between Session 1 and Session 2 and use these assignments as personal homework. ASSIGNMENT #1a - Evaluating Romance Set aside quality time by yourself and evaluate the romance in your marriage. Has there been a lack of romance recently? Are you trying to build a healthy marriage on the foundation of romance instead of worship? How can you be a better worshiper in your marriage? After you have personally reflected on these questions, consider coming together with your spouse to discuss your findings. Approach these important, yet potentially difficult, conversations with a humble, confessing, forgiving, patience, gentle, and peaceful spirit.
ASSIGNMENT #1b - Evaluating Conflict Set aside quality time by yourself and evaluate the conflict in your marriage. Has there been a lot of conflict recently? On the surface, what seems to be the reason for the conflict? However, knowing that Jesus says conflict comes from within, what is the deeper reason for the conflict? After you have personally reflected on these questions, consider coming together with your spouse to discuss your findings. Approach these important, yet potentially difficult, conversations with a humble, confessing, forgiving, patience, gentle, and peaceful spirit.
PERSONAL REFLECTION: If I were to watch a video recording of my life, would I be saddened and surprised by how I treat my spouse in small moments? What, or who, do I blame for my sinful behavior? Do I take seriously Jesus’ diagnosis that my heart is the problem? In the privacy of my marriage, where no other Christian friend can see, what do I worship with my time and money and emotions?
Supplemental Reading: WDYE Chapters 1 & 4 Psalm 139 Psalm 51
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APPLYING WHAT YOU LEARNED: These Applying What You Learned elements should be viewed as personal homework to be completed in between designated session times. Encourage the participants to continue their examination of their own heart and marriage outside of the time they spend together in the group. For questions like these, remind husbands and wives that if they do have conversations with each about marriage, they have the capability of turning ugly. Self-righteousness, anger, and pointing the finger of blame can flare up in an instant, so it’s very important to have a humble and gentle spirit before entering into these conversations.
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