Volume 26, Issue 2 From the Publisher...
W is c onsin Ch ristian N e w s .c om
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Try It God’s Way
By Rob Pue May 2025
continual sanctification, becoming more like Christ as we mature in our faith each day. So, we’re to be the leaders in our homes, and like Christ, we are to love — we’re to be servant leaders...ministers. And if you serve your wife, love her, adore her, cherish her and put her second only to God Himself in your life, giving not 50% but 100% of your time attention and affection to her, I believe you’ll find your wife will not only respect and honor you but willingly submit herself to your needs as well. This is the bib- lical recipe for a Godly marriage. Our problem today is that so many are self-centered. We live in a literal toxic environment — from the chemi- cals and poisons in the air we breathe, to the water we drink and the food we eat. But it’s worse than that. Today we live in a spiritually toxic en- vironment as well, surrounded by the wicked enticements of self-indulgence and self-interest. It’s everywhere we turn, from entertainment and social media to our pop culture at large. We’ve been brainwashed by the enemy to regard our selves as entitled and deserving of everything. The trouble is, when everyone has this mindset, there’s little to no real serv- ing going on, and Christ calls us to be servants of all. He calls us to die to self and instead serve others, espe- cially our dear spouses. Yes, like everything else, Satan has turned God’s perfect design and plan to the complete opposite and our worldly lusts and passions have lured us into his trap. Continued on Page 7
In a recent message, I explained the concept of men being servant leaders in their homes, and to their wives. I explained how most modern mar- riages are set up for failure right from the start, when both partners expect to give 50% of their effort toward the relationship. A 50-50 situation is most common today, as wives expect their husbands to contribute half of everything and the husband expects the wife to contribute the other half. By our human reasoning, this sounds like the ideal situation, but as I explained previously, when each partner contributes 50%, that means that each person fails, and I used the analogy of getting a 50% grade on a test in school. If you get 50% on a test, you fail. In marriage, 50% also equals failure, and not just the failure of one, but the failure of both part- ners, and then the failure of the mar- riage itself. I firmly believe that husbands should serve their wives while being the leaders of their homes. I under- stand this goes contrary to what many Christians have been taught as they cherry-pick Ephesians 5: 22 and 23: “Wives, submit to your own hus- bands, as to the Lord. For the hus- band is head of the wife, as also Christ is head of the Church.” I know there are many professing Christian men out there who love to quote this verse of Scripture as they assert their dom- ination, seeking to be Master of their domain. And they think it’s biblical. Somehow, they miss the part that
says, “...as also Christ is head of the Church.” Men, are you treating your wife properly or are you one who thinks “Wives submit to your own hus- bands” means that when you get married, you acquire a slave? Under- stand, we’re Christians here — not Muslims. In Islam, the wife does, in- deed, become her husband’s slave. In Christianity, the husband leads his home by serving his wife; attending to her needs, providing for her, protect- ing her, cherishing her as “more pre- cious than jewels.” As the head of the Church, Christ literally gave His life for His Bride. Now, many will say, “absolutely... I would readily give up my life for my wife.” Really? Are you doing that now? Are you putting her needs, de- sires and interests ahead of your own? Or are you saving 50% of your- self (your time, your attention, your recreation, your free time, your dis- posable income) — for yourself?
So...you’d give up your life for your wife... but will you give up your televi- sion time, your fishing and hunting time? Will you give up something you’ve been wanting in favor of bless- ing your precious wife with something she’s been wanting? Will you give up the rest and relaxation you feel you need and deserve in order to do tasks for your wife that she really hates to do? And one more: are you willing to give up the porn you’ve been viewing? I know, for many of you, that one stung a little bit. But it’s a valid ques- tion, and one not talked about in “Christian” circles — probably be- cause just as many professing Chris- tians engage in pornography as do non-Christians; they just do it in se- cret. Let’s read on. Ephesians 5:25, “Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ also loved the Church and gave Himself for her.” As Christians, we’re to live our lives here on this earth in
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