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Features 8 Navigating Today’s Top Parenting Challenges Free virtual summit features 20 national experts 10 Mom Docs to the Rescue Digital health platform helps
parents & kids talk about puberty & sexual health
40 Oklahoma’s Childcare Challenge The pandemic’s effects on the industry & how to move forward
48 Summer Camp Guide
Spark learning, creativity & fun with dozens of close-to-home options
Departments 12 Real Dads of the Metro Greg Jones inspires entrepreneurship
14 Family Mental Wellness
Strategies for raising resilient kids
18 Local Family Fun
Get creative at a local makerspace
24 Mom Talk
Raising a teenager with special needs isn’t that different
26 Calendar of Events
Springtime festivals & family fun
36 Exploring Beyond Oklahoma History & outdoor adventure await in Little Rock, Ark. 46 Talking to Kids About Sex Tips to teach body safety & autonomy to young children
36 EXPLORING THE LITTLE ROCK, ARK. AREA
62 Last Look
5 things we love in OKC this spring
On the Cover Summer Camp Guide page 48 Where to Find Local Makerspaces page 18 Tips for Raising Resilient Kids page 14
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I don’t like to accept help from others. Maybe you can relate? I’m a Type A, Enneagram 1, recovering perfectionist who likes to do things, my way, myself. But I’ve been reminded recently about the healing power of community. In the midst of caring for a sick child and grieving the loss of a loved one, a friend unexpectedly placed a care package on our porch. While quarantined with my crew and (mostly unsuccessfully) trying to balance work, virtual school and rest, I received constant uplifting messages, plus treats, activities and groceries dropped by our front door. People who care about my family brought what we needed — and what I didn’t even know I needed — to help us be well. During the same timeframe, I’ve also seen this level of support on a much broader level as our MetroFamily team prepares for our first national parenting summit, The Modern Art of Parenting. Experts from around the country are coming together to ask how they can help, encourage and support today’s parents as we face both challenges and opportunities unlike any other time in history. We are carrying such a heavy load right now as parents. From tips
on prioritizing mental health and raising resilient kids to affirming our kids’ identities and tackling tough conversations about grief, sexual health and racism, I’m thrilled to help connect overwhelmed parents (me included) with experts providing the tips and tools we need now to help us be the best versions of ourselves. We aren’t meant to do this parenting thing alone. Sometimes that’s hard for me to accept. But I find that when I do, there’s always beauty and growth in togetherness. Thanks for letting MetroFamily be part of your village, and thanks for helping me see the depths of value to be found in a vibrant parent community. With gratitude,
Publisher Sarah Taylor Managing Editor Erin Page Assistant Editor Lindsay Cuomo Contributing Writers April Deocariza, Lance Evans, Ronneal Mathews, Debbie Murnan, Sarah Soell Contributing Photographer Bridget Pipkin Art Director Stacy Noakes Senior Project Manager Kirsten Holder Director of Events Casey Shupe Editorial Assistant Emiley Bainbridge Account Executives Dana Price Laura Beam Contact us Mailing address: 6608 N. Western Ave., #458 Oklahoma City, OK 73116 Phone: 405-601-2081 tips@metrofamilymagazine.com www.metrofamilymagazine.com
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See page 8 for details on speakers and topics at the FREE Modern Art of Parenting virtual summit, held April 1 through 8. Watch presentations by 20 nationally- renowned speakers on demand.
On the Cover Twin sisters Evyn and Eryn are the winners of MetroFamily’s 2022 Cover Kids Search in the sibling category! The 6-year-old first graders have very different personalities but share a love of celebrating the individuality in the people around them. Evyn and Eryn are serious fashionistas and are quite adept at sketching designs and creating doll clothes out of everyday items. In 2020, the girls and their mom started a clothing company, Sundara Kids, with the slogan “every child is beautiful.” The kindhearted sisters enjoy homeschooling, swimming lessons at Goldfish Swim School, gymnastics classes at Metro Gymnastics, playing outside and filming dance videos. The girls also love all things science and STEAM and were very excited to check out Girl Scouts Western Oklahoma’s STEAM-focused Camp Trivera for their photoshoot. Evyn and Eryn are the daughters of Jayla.
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Learn about saving and spending with our fun, short videos! We can’t wait to see your family on Saturday, March 12 from 10 a.m. to 3 p.m. at Geekapalooza! Join us at Camp Trivera, the new STEAM-focused urban camp of our partner Girl Scouts Western Oklahoma, for a full day of kid-friendly activities on subjects like robotics, coding and geosciences, plus live music, food trucks, great prizes and a Geek photo contest. The event is sponsored by Boeing, Presenting Sponsor; Google, Continental Resources, Oklahoma Oil and Natural Gas, Community Partners; Pelco, Chesapeake and MidFirst Bank, Supporting Partners; Francis Tuttle, University of Oklahoma College of Pharmacy, University of Oklahoma College of Nursing, Oklahoma State
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Hello Spring! Take advantage of warmer weather and longer days with our lists of family-friendly festivals around the state, 50 Things to Do for Under $5, farmers markets, Spring Break camps and family fun, ways to celebrate Earth Day, Easter egg- stravaganzas and much more at metrofamilymagazine.com/spring .
of family-friendly businesses and organizations in OKC. From dance studios and splash pads to restaurants and attractions, our reader-voted Family Favorites awards make it easy for OKC parents to find the top local resources. Show some love and nominate your favorites between March 23 and April 13 at metrofamilymagazine.com/vote . Then, vote to determine the winners May 4 through 18. The winners and finalists will be highlighted in our Everything Guide, which will be published in July.
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Virtual Summit
You’re not raising your mama’s child! Times have changed drastically since today’s parents were kids, which means, either by force or by choice, we have to parent our own kids in entirely new ways. To help parents navigate today’s challenges, MetroFamily is hosting our first FREE virtual summit for families around the country April 1-8. The Modern Art of Parenting summit features nationally-renowned parenting experts providing 20 sessions on topics like raising resilient kids, talking to kids about sexual health, alleviating parent overwhelm, finding the balance of technology and social media, affirming kids’ gender identities, encouraging kids to explore nature and much more. All presentations will feature practical and positive tips you can implement now. No preachy parenting advice here, just actionable tips that make sense and will help bring back the joy in family life! During the eight-day summit in early April, each of the 20 sessions will be available for FREE to watch on-demand at your convenience within a 48-hour time frame. Additional paid options will provide the opportunity to watch and rewatch all sessions during your membership plus other perks, including additional parenting resources, live workshops with parenting experts and more. Register today for our FREE virtual summit April 1-8!
Our mission: To provide the hope and help parents need now
Find details and register for FREE by March 31 at modernartofparenting.com
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Meet the Speakers
Hunter Clarke-Fields Raising kind, confident kids through mindful parenting
Richard Louv How connecting with nature improves family mental healths
Dr. Laura Markham Using mindfulness and
Dr. Tamecca Rogers How to talk to kids about racism and social injustice
Dr. Michele Borba 7 teachable skills that set happy, healthy kids apart
Dr. Melisa Holmes Talking to kids about sexual health (even if you were never taught yourself)
connection to raise resilient, joyful children and rediscover your love of parenting
Sara Cunningham Affirming and normalizing gender identity in children and adults
"Mr. Chazz" Lewis Instilling an empathetic mindset in children and raising world changers
Cathy Cassani Adams Zen Parenting: Taking care
Dr. Hansa Barghava Stress busting tools for parents & kids
Erica Komisar Addressing anxiety and depression in children and teens
Audre & Danielle Daughty Are kids really behind academically?
of our kids starts with caring for ourselves
Dr. Paula Durlofsky Social media's impact on mental health and how to address it
Vicki Jay Helping children cope with grief & loss
Stacey Johnson, LPC Tips to alleviate parent overwhelm
Jameka Lewis How to teach kids to love to read and build a diverse family library
Diana Graber How to guide kids to develop a healthy relationship with technology
Dr. Anne Fishel Why family dinners are critical for our mental well-being (and tips to make them happen)
Meet the co-hosts:
Michaeleen Doucleff What ancient cultures can teach us about raising happy, helpful little humans today
Skye Latimer, PR and marketing entrepreneur, Folded Owl
Kirsten Holder, Senior Project Manager, MetroFamily
Erin Page, APR Managing Editor, MetroFamily
Fear Less, Know More
Digital health platform provides puberty & health education for parents and kids BY EMILEY BAINBRIDGE
Early in her practice as an ob-gyn, Dr. Melisa Holmes was shocked by how many women didn’t understand their bodies and how they worked. She wanted to change that, not just for adults but for young girls, too, so they could grow up armed with both facts and confidence to advocate for their health. In 2003, a mom in her community asked Dr. Holmes if she would talk with her daughter’s soccer team about puberty. Dr. Holmes and her friend Dr. Trish Hutchison, a pediatrician, created an educational program for the girls and their caregivers. In addition to their professional experience, the two doctors are also mothers with five daughters between their two families. The program was such a hit, with repeated calls to present it again, that the two physicians knew they had struck a chord, and the digital health platform Girlology was born. “Most parents today didn’t grow up with great education around health and wellness, especially reproductive health,” said Holmes. “They want to do a better job for their children as well as protect them from all the misinformation and ‘noise’ out there on social media. Through Girlology, we help young people get accurate, shame-free information that builds confidence and improves their ability to advocate for their own health and wellness.” Girlology’s online community is dedicated to making girls’ lives healthier by providing medically-accurate, shame-free information and support through short video tips, on-demand classes and live-streaming events. When the Girlology program began, Holmes noticed many of the moms were learning as much as the girls, and everyone was becoming much more comfortable having conversations about puberty and sexual health. “There’s this sort of parenting cliff that we reach as moms — there’s tons of support and advice out there when our children are infants and toddlers, but suddenly as they’re heading into late childhood and adolescence, that support seems to go silent,” said Holmes. “We feel like we’re filling in that gap.” Girlology supports parents as their daughter’s most trusted guide, providing families access to hundreds of tips and classes to navigate every health and body topic that could come up during adolescence and puberty. The content is relatable with a touch of fun and humor. From bra shopping and skin care secrets to period solutions, eating disorders prevention and even friendship, Holmes and Hutchison, who call themselves the “Mom Docs,” guide families through every age and stage of girl life. “We hear from a lot of moms how we’ve improved the way they communicate and connect with their children,” said Holmes. “That’s one of the most important things we can do because there’s a lot of research confirming that parent-child connection is incredibly protective for adolescents’ health and wellness. We all want to raise informed, confident and healthy children – we’re grateful that so many families trust us to be that resource.”
Hear from Dr. Melisa Holmes at The Modern Art of Parenting virtual summit April 1-8. Get more info on reserving FREE tickets on page 8.
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As the content continues to expand, Holmes says the volume can get overwhelming for families. So Girlology has recently created a “Quick Start Guide” with suggested playlists to help families easily locate the content the physicians believe is most essential for each age and stage of development, based loosely on third through eighth grades. This resource helps caregivers know what their kids should be learning at each age, plus what’s coming next. Over the years since Girlology’s launch, Holmes and Hutchison have expanded the content to cover topics like body image, media literacy and mental health. They also launched Guyology in 2012, a parallel program on boys’ health and puberty. The physicians have written five
Girlology and Guyology books, with their sixth book releasing this spring. You-ology: A Puberty Guide for Every Body is the first book of its kind, published in conjunction with the American Academy of Pediatrics, embracing an inclusive, gender-affirming approach and normalizing puberty for all kids through fact-based, age-appropriate and body positive information about the physical, social and emotional changes of puberty. Especially after launching Guyology, it quickly became apparent to the physicians that all young people have similar questions and curiosities about their own bodies but also about bodies that are different from their own. Holmes and Hutchison have long encouraged parents to let their daughters read Guyology and their sons read Girlology , but writing Youology was the next step to create a more inclusive community that embraces families with gender diverse children. “Every child is wonderfully curious and loves learning how the body works and grows,” said Holmes. “We explain the physical and emotional changes of puberty in kid-friendly language. That means boys, girls and gender-diverse kids can all understand each other better. When children understand what their peers experience, they grow up more empathetic and supportive. This understanding helps grow respect for all and creates a better world for everyone.” Learn more Girlology provides a substantial amount of free content through their social channels and newsletter. Plus, they offer an on-demand video library for members, with monthly or yearly membership options available. Visit girlology.com for details.
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REAL DADS OF THE METRO
The Community Mural We’ve seen them before. They’re important images in the Black household: a portrait of Black Jesus, leading ladies in fabulous hats, droves of Black folk sharply dressed and dancing at small juke joints. These paintings still decorate the walls of Nana’s house and give us brief moments to experience and recall Black joy. More importantly, they’ve become an essential part of American history. They remind us of our voice and the importance of community engagement. Greg Jones
BY LANCE EVANS PHOTO BY HANA’ AHMAD COLEMAN
Greg recalls there were important male figures in his life growing up who consistently taught him the value of community. “There were quite a few older men who shaped my direction,” said Greg. “Willie Bryson was always very resourceful. He always talked about community from the perspective of ‘what I have is what you have.’ A lot of growing up was watching him bartering, trading and sharing his resources.” The value of community Willie Bryson has been Greg’s neighbor for more than 40 years. Their friendship began in the community of Spencer and continues today in the JFK neighborhood of Northeast Oklahoma City. Their relationship remains themed around the concept of prioritizing community. They offer each other much more than a smile or neighborly hello. Their friendship has been a cathartic experience for Greg, providing him with valuable resources and affirming his belief in community. When it came time for Greg to start his own family, he knew building his own community would be pivotal to his family’s success. He would use the lessons learned from his parents and Mr. Bryson to establish a set of core values. Greg would find the perfect partner to help. During a college winter break from the University of Oklahoma, Greg traveled home with best friend Charles Henry. Charles invited Greg over to a childhood friend’s home. As Greg walked into the house, he immediately saw a young lady standing near her mom’s stove baking cookies. “The smell and aroma of those chocolate cookies caught my attention,” remembered Greg. That moment stuck with Greg for an entire year. He convinced Charles to take him back to his friend’s home and, finally, he was able to talk to Ericka. After dating for a few years, the happy couple married in 1998. Greg and Ericka’s union welcomed the birth of three children: daughter, Jordan, and twin boys Erick and Elijah. When it came time to educate their kids, Greg and Ericka settled on homeschooling. They discovered early on in their journey that learning never really stops when you teach from kitchen table.
Real Dad Greg Jones has seen these images his entire life. Along the way, he’s had allies helping him illustrate his own life. To understand Greg as a real dad, you must first acknowledge his supporting cast. These vibrant characters are more than just affable supporters taking up space in family portraits—they are his story. Childhood lessons Greg was born in Long Island, N.Y., and he would move with his family to Oklahoma at the tender age of 4. His parents were in search of community. “My mom was from Oklahoma and dad was from New York,” said Greg. “They met in the service. My dad always wanted to live in a community where he could have acreage and a small farm. Oklahoma was perfect for that.” His father’s dream of acreage would take on a new meaning as Greg’s family settled in Spencer, Okla. The family would acquire more than just land. They would soon meet an entire community of Black folk who would become important figures in Greg’s life for years to come. After his mom, Ineze Jones, and dad, Amos Jones, retired, they began impactful community service jobs as pastor and first lady. “What I learned from my mom and dad was all about getting information and helping your community with the information and knowledge that you have,” said Greg.
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also followed his passion. His interest in production and development led him to create his own t-shirt line, Big Cap Apparel. “The entrepreneurial spirit, based upon them being able to have their own business, funded their dreams,” said Greg. Vision for the future Today, Greg and his family are making incredible strides to build community within vacant spaces that once thrived, much like the scenes from those paintings in an elder’s home. Through his service on the board of Northeast Renaissance, Inc., Greg is a catalyst for ethical, place-based community development in Northeast Oklahoma City. “Northeast Renaissance is an attempt to remove or break down silos within our community so we can understand one another and leave a lasting impression on our next generation,” said Greg. Through his career, volunteerism and family, Greg is bringing a vibrant community mural to life. “It’s important that we do all that we can to be highly collaborative to find common ground with each other,” said Greg. “When one wins, we all win.” Editor’s note: This article is the second in a year-long series celebrating local dads. Author Lance Evans and husband Chris are fathers of Chrystian. Lance is director of communications for Variety Care, and he and Chris were voted MetroFamily’s 2021 Cool Pops.
Passing on an entrepreneurial spirit It was the summer of 2016 and Greg was returning home from a long workday. When he entered his house, he found his kids lounging on the couch, filling time before dinner. Greg saw the moment as a special opportunity. How could he keep his children engaged and busy by also teaching important concepts of community? After working as an insurance agent for years out of college, Greg started his own company working as a small business consultant. The same tactics and business strategies he was using to help build Oklahoma City’s workforce would serve as a catalyst to change his children and entire community. That day before dinner, Greg grabbed all three of his kids and a lawnmower. The rest is history. Greg walked his children to almost every home on his street and offered his neighbors an interesting proposition: “I will let my kids cut your grass for free!” Many neighbors accepted his offer while others insisted on payments. Greg graciously accepted the money but waited until the end of the summer to let his kids see the fruit of their labor. When it came time to decide what exactly to do with the $1,500 they raised that summer, Greg’s children made an interesting choice. They chose to invest their money back into their business. Today, all three of Greg’s children run successful businesses. Jordan, 18, runs Skin by J. After completing cosmetology school, Jordan opted to use the entrepreneurial skills she developed from the lawn care business to develop her own skin care line. Erick, 16, is passionate about culinary arts. He works weekends at the Eastside Eatery. The blend of everyday people mixed with delectable cuisines inspired him to start his own business, True Joy Bakery. His twin brother, Elijah,
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FAMILY MENTAL WELLNESS
While there are many skills parents long to instill in their kids, one quality that can carry them through life’s ups and downs is resilience. Big life changes — like moving, parents getting divorced or experiencing the death of a loved one — can force kids to learn resilience, but Edmond-based clinical and school psychologist Dr. Lisa Marotta says there are everyday moments that provide opportunities for resilience building, too. Raising Resilient Children BY APRIL DORNIDON DEOCARIZA. PHOTOS PROVIDED.
“Resilience is the ability to bounce back when life does not go the way that you think that it should,” explained Dr. Marotta. “Resilience is dealing with the unpredictable and uncertain. We have to be able to quickly respond, adapt and be effective in how we adapt.” Dr. Marotta is quick to point out that many families have already had a lot of practice in resilience during the coronavirus pandemic. Dealing with things like school closures, adapting to virtual learning and missed events like birthday parties have all been resilience- building opportunities for families.
“In our culture, there is this tendency for parents to look at childhood as kind of this blissful time where kids are innocent and don’t need to be stressed by the world,” said Dr. Marotta. “But actually, from a psychological standpoint, we want them to be able to learn how to manage stress because life is stressful. There are tricky things that happen all the time where kids need to be able to get calm, manage their emotions and have clarity of mind to be able to say, ‘So what do I do now?’ You figure out what you do, you make that choice and then how you evaluate that is where you get further growth.” Resilience in action The month of April is designated as the Month of the Military Child by the Department of Defense Military Community and Family Policy in recognition of the sacrifices military children face day in and day out as their parent, or parents, are serving in the Armed Forces. Oftentimes, military kids have to learn resilience at a very early age as they navigate constant change with deployments, frequent moves to a parent’s new duty assignment and new schools. For the Williams family, the biggest challenge came when they had to uproot their family from Oklahoma City to Virginia. Josh, an Air Force Major, and Amanda, a photographer, had to identify varied coping strategies for their two daughters, 4-year-old Mya and 12-year-old Ava Casillas, as they responded differently to the change.
MYA WILLIAMS PREPARES FOR HER FAMILY’S MOVE TO VIRGINIA.
4 quick tips to help kids navigate challenges 1. Acknowledge the child’s emotions. 2. Model a sense of calm. 3. Concentrate on effectiveness rather than efficiency: don’t rush them to resolution and don’t solve the problem for them. 4. Encourage kids to ask for help when they need it in processing emotions and solutions.
AVA CASILLAS BOARDS HER NEW SCHOOL BUS AFTER THE FAMILY MOVED TO VIRGINIA.
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Summer Fun at
“Resilience is the ability to bounce back when life does not go the way that you think that it should. Resilience is dealing with the unpredictable and uncertain.”
Dr. Lisa Marotta
BOTH KRISTINE AND MICHAEL CORSER ARE MAJORS, AND THEIR FAMILY HAS EXPERIENCED 13 DUTY STATIONS AND 11 DEPLOYMENTS.
“Mya was outspoken with her feelings but Ava became very quiet and withdrawn,” recalled Amanda. “She seemed very indifferent, so I had a ‘come clean night’ with her, which is what my own mom would do with me growing up. It was a time for us to sit down and have a conversation with the understanding that I was not going to get angry with her but that I would help her work through whatever mess she was in.” When Amanda asked Ava how she liked Virginia and how she felt about making new friends, Ava broke down in tears. “So we started talking about how to be intentional with maintaining old friendships while also making new friends,” said Amanda. “When she did start making friends at her new school, I had her get their numbers so we could invite them over for pizza at our house. It really is important for parents to give their kids that safe space to talk through whatever they are feeling.” The Corsers also know all too well the importance of communication in their dual-military family. Parents Michael and Kristine are both Majors, Michael in the Active Duty Air Force and Kristine in the Air Force Reserve. The Corser kids have experienced several big life changes over the years, as Michael and Kristine have had 13 duty stations and 11 deployments, as well as countless stateside work trips and a short tour in Korea. Their oldest child, Damien, has attended 10 different schools. “Our family’s schedule is busy, constant and ever-changing,” said Kristine. “We’ve found that open and honest communication is key
to any process of change. As much as we can, we let our kids know what changes may or may not happen, how the process will go and what the expected outcome is.” They also create fun experiences to engage their children and prepare them for change. In addition to Damien, age 20, the Corsers have two daughters, Isabella, 14, and Adilyn, 3. “My husband and I love to plan special ways to announce our next move to the kids,” said Kristine. “Last time we sent them on a scavenger hunt throughout the house where they found clues that they pieced together to figure out where we were going. It is OK to have mixed feelings of sadness, loss, hope and joy. In the end, no matter where we go, we know we are in this together.” When it’s time to seek professional help Dr. Marotta advises that parents may want to seek professional help from a counselor if a child is stuck in their emotions and starting to think things like “there is something wrong with them or they are stupid.” Also, if a child is acting out, using maladaptive ways to cope (e.g., drugs, hanging out with friends instead of doing schoolwork) or avoiding their problem entirely, it may be time to seek professional help.
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Tips for building resilience in kids Military or non-military, there are many simple moments throughout a child’s day that can contain a wealth of learning and resilience-building opportunities. “For example, if I’m a kid and I forgot to bring my lunch to school one day, but I don’t like what they are serving in the cafeteria, I might feel upset,” described Dr. Marotta. “But I have to get myself calm, think about what my options are and then I have to make it work. And it’s that ‘making it work’ which builds my confidence that I am capable of making things turn out OK. If you think about that across a day for a child, then there are many opportunities for them to learn confidence that they can solve their problems.” When dealing with a tough situation, Dr. Marotta first advises parents to acknowledge their child’s emotions, recognizing that it is normal for the child to feel distressed no matter how big or small the issue may be. Oftentimes, parents also need to find their own sense of calm. “A lot of times, we’re all melting down at the same time!” laughed Dr. Marotta. “But think about effectiveness rather than efficiency. There is a bigger picture and it’s not about getting your kids to feel better immediately. It’s about all the learning that happens from this point of distress to the point of resolution. If you are solving their problem and trying to rush them through to feel better, you’re not being that learning model of how we return to calm.” Dr. Marotta also reminds parents that it is a sign of resilience to ask for help. “That’s true for parents as well as kids,” said Dr. Marotta. “If a kid is trying to problem solve exclusively on their own and continuing to meet obstacles and disappointment, we want them to know that they don’t have to figure it all out by themselves. Having a trusted person — parent, teacher, coach — that is able to help sit with your child in those hard feelings and get to the other side of it, that’s what gets them more and more ready for ‘adulting.’”
THE WILLIAMS FAMILY
Resilience resources For Young Kids • Alexander and the Terrible, Horrible, No Good, Very Bad Day by Judith Viorst • Fortunately by Remy Charlip • Sesame Street’s The Big Moving Adventure app For Elementary Kids • After the Fall by Dan Santat • Giraffes Can’t Dance by Giles Andreae and Guy Parker-Rees For Middle & High School Kids • When Stars are Scattered by Victoria Jamieson and Omar Mohamed (graphic novel) • Front Desk by Kelly Yang • I am Malala (Young Readers edition) by Malala Yousafzai with Patricia McCormick For Parents • Thrivers: The Surprising Reasons Why Some Kids Struggle and Others Shine by Dr. Michele Borba • Building Happier Kids: Stress-busting Tools for Parents by Dr. Hansa Bhargava • Chicken Little the Sky Isn’t Falling: Raising Resilient Adolescents in the New Age of Anxiety by Erica Komisar • Peaceful Parent, Happy Kids Workbook: Using Mindfulness and Connection to Raise Resilient, Joyful Children and Rediscover Your Love of Parenting by Dr. Laura Markham
St. Mary’s 51-acre campus in north Edmond features outdoor classrooms, athletic fields, walking trails and more. They believe that learning through experience is powerful and strive to give their students those opportunities.
Each of these for-parent authors will be featured speakers at MetroFamily’s The Modern Art of Parenting virtual summit, held April 1-8. Learn how you can attend for FREE at modernartofparenting.com.
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LOCAL FAMILY FUN
BY LINDSAY CUOMO . PHOTOS PROVIDED. Makerspaces in the metro Making, learning, sharing
SCIENCE MUSEUM OKLAHOMA ENCOURAGES KIDS TO TINKER IN THEIR TWO DEDICATED MAKERSPACES.
What is a makerspace? A makerspace is a collaborative, modern
“Sometimes you can follow all the instructions and [your project] does not come out looking like you intended,” shared Pence. “Mistakes are part of the experience and that is a wonderful benefit of the learning process. It’s OK to fail your first, or even thirteenth, try.” Rondia Banks, manager of the Bethany Library, which is home to the Metropolitan Library System’s first in-library makerspace lab, said she loves that kids can get an early introduction to technology. “Technology is so ingrained into our careers and workplaces and that is going to keep growing, so why not learn how to use things like a 3D printer now?” posed Banks. Linda Maisch, the vice president of community engagement at Science Museum Oklahoma, sees the activities happening in makerspaces as “exercise for the brain.” “There is lots of research that shows that our brains are always changing and rearranging,” Maisch explained, an idea that is explored in the temporary exhibit Mind Mirrors , on display at Science Museum Oklahoma through April 24.
workshop! From the low-tech to the high-tech, there are a lot of different makerspaces out there, according to Aaron Pence, the computer training center manager for the Pioneer Library System. Pence oversees the Maker Lab at the Norman Central Library and the thing he gets most excited about when families use the lab is that kids are learning how to transition from consumer to creator. “Kids get to go in to create and come out with something new they can use!” said Pence. However, the finished product is not the only goal in a makerspace. Pence pointed to valuable soft skills that can be cultivated.
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Where to visit a makerspace?
Depending on your child’s interests, there are a variety of makerspaces your family can visit within the Oklahoma City metro.
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Science Museum Oklahoma is like one big makerspace. Within many of the exhibits, kids can get hands-on with scientific principles such as building dams to combat erosion, constructing with large scale blocks, digging with excavators in the gardens or perfecting the art of a paper airplane. While tinkering is encouraged throughout, the museum does have two dedicated makerspaces. The Tinkering Garage, located in the center of the museum, is a space designed for “kids 7 to 700,” according to Chris Seyfrett, tinkering and special projects educator at Science Museum Oklahoma. Tinker Works, a neighborhood garage in Curiocity, is perfect for young kids. In each of the makerspaces, activities change regularly to engage kids with a variety of STEAM experiences such as animation, puppetry, robotics, plastic fusion, snap circuits and even something called automata, which are mechanical toys driven by crankshafts. In March, the Tinkering Garage will feature take-aparts where kids can see what is inside computers, toasters and more. Both spaces are open during museum hours and are free with admission. Science Museum Oklahoma is open Monday through Friday, 9 a.m. to 5 p.m.; Saturday, 9 a.m. to 6 p.m.; and Sunday, 11 a.m. to 6 p.m. Learn more about the exhibits, plus school break camps, at sciencemuseumok.org.
The Metropolitan Library System currently has one in-library makerspace lab, called MLS Studio, and a mobile makerspace that visits libraries throughout the system. The new Belle Isle Library will include a makerspace lab and a third is planned for the new Almonte Library. Each of the libraries will have different tools and programs in their makerspaces. MLS stands for Making, Learning, Sharing, highlighting the goal of the makerspaces to support educational, professional and personal growth. The all-ages makerspace serves local entrepreneurs as well as families, providing free access to materials, tools and software. The only thing you need to use the makerspace is a library card. Families go through orientation to learn safety and operational guidelines and sign a user agreement. Kids ages 12 and under must be accompanied by a parent or guardian. The Bethany Library MLS Studio is open on a first come, first served basis, Monday through Thursday from 1 to 4 p.m. and by appointment only on weekends. Visit metrolibrary.org for more information on programs offered at libraries throughout the metro.
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Pioneer Library System has a dedicated Maker Lab at their Norman Central Library and a traveling makerspace, the Maker Mobile, that visits all the system’s libraries to provide STEAM-focused programming. The Maker Mobile makes appearances at other locations and events in the community, too. The Maker Lab includes professional-grade tools like a sound lab, video lab, 3D printer, laser cutters and engravers, CNC router and more.
“When the lab is at its best, you get so many different levels and walks of life,” shared Pence. “It’s pretty easy to get started.” The lab is open Monday through Thursday, 9 a.m. to 9 p.m.; Friday, 9 a.m.
PIONEER’S MAKER MOBILE TAKES PROFESSIONAL- GRADE TOOLS ON THE GO.
to 8 p.m.; Saturday, 9 a.m. to 5 p.m.; and Sunday, 1 to 6 p.m. A library card is not required. “For a quick activity and a tour, you can come in any time,” said Pence. “For a more involved activity or your first time really using a piece of the equipment, it’s good to make an appointment.” Visit pioneerlibrarysystem.org for more information.
KIDS AS YOUNG AS 3 OR 4 CAN ENGAGE WITH THE TOOLS IN THE MAKER LAB.
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Oklahoma Contemporary’s Learning Gallery offers open-ended, creative art projects to take kids on a deep dive into the themes on display in the museum’s galleries. During Open World , an exhibition centered on video games, families could create their own avatar, learn about careers in the video game industry and even play a 3-person video game together. Beginning March 24, the Learning Gallery will focus on biology and the natural world in conjunction with an animal-centric exhibition by John Newsom called Nature’s Course. Jaime Thompson, director of education and public programs for Oklahoma Contemporary, said she intentionally incorporates STEAM principles into the programming at Oklahoma Contemporary because so much of contemporary art utilizes science, engineering, technology and math. “Contemporary art expands what you think about art and what you think goes into art,” said Thompson. March’s Second Saturday event, happening March 12, takes place in the museum’s sculpture garden and will explore how scale and construction are part of art-making. Camps and in-studio classes at Oklahoma Contemporary are another way kids can learn more about how technology, science and math are used to create art. “Parents often think ‘if my kid is into science, let’s go to a science center,’ but there is so much more to that,” shared Thompson. “Our programs encourage kids to tinker and explore to figure out what they enjoy. We work with local artists to dream up new ideas and every year is a little bit different.” The Learning Gallery is open during regular museum hours. To reserve free tickets to visit or learn more about camps and other programming, visit oklahomacontemporary.org.
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How can families create a makerspace at home?
While the makerspaces Pence and Banks reference are high-tech with recording studios, Cricut makers, laser cutters and robots, at-home versions don’t have to be quite as involved and can be easy to curate. The two experts point to the process as the best confidence builder. “To me, if you can dream it and you can see it, you can create it,” said Banks. “Focus on the process of creation and invention and also the story that goes into it and what comes out of it. Asking questions and making mistakes are vital pieces to developing cooperative solutions.” Dig into your arts and crafts supplies and even your pantry to find paper, glue, tape, clay, LEGOs, uncooked spaghetti, marshmallows, pipe cleaners, cardboard, anything goes! Pence said there are lots of free digital tools available, too. “You don’t need fancy equipment to cultivate a making mindset,” said Pence. “It’s just helpful to have a space to begin and that mom and dad play, too.” Seyfrett said parents shouldn’t be concerned about being an expert or knowing everything about a project before getting started. He recommends parents focus on modeling behaviors that promote openness, curiosity and that it’s OK to fail. “Part of being an expert is realizing you don’t have to know everything and that’s OK,” said Seyfrett. “Just grow along with your child.”
For families new to makerspaces or those looking to take the concept to the next level, Thompson, suggests checking out a book called The Art of Tinkering by Karen Wilkinson and Mike Petrich. The book encourages kids to take things apart and explore tools and materials all in an effort to create art that is part science, part technology.
Other metro venues offering makerspaces & STEAM programming: • AR Workshop, 1020 NW 192nd St, Edmond, arworkshop.com • Camp Trivera, 2508 NE 50th St, camptrivera.org • iCode Edmond, 2217 NW 178th St, Edmond, icodeschool.com/edmond111 • Main Event Play Academy, 1441 W Memorial Rd, mainevent.com • Oklahoma Hall of Fame, 1400 Classen Dr, oklahomahof.com • Oops I Arted, 3400 S Bryant Ave, Edmond, oopsiarted.com
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Mom Talk
(LEFT) THE SOELL FAMILY. PHOTO BY PAIGE POWELL.
Raising a teenager with special needs isn’t all that “different”
SARAH AND DAUGHTER KERSTIN CELEBRATE WORLD DOWN SYNDROME DAY ON MARCH 21. PHOTO BY TAYLOR MADE PHOTOGRAPHY.
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Setting clear expectations When it comes to raising a teenage child with special needs, it really isn’t any different than raising a child without. With Kerstin, we have always corrected poor behavior with consistent messaging. We also try to set a good example, as children mimic adult behavior. In our household, everyone is expected to be respectful and kind. When it comes to Kerstin and behavior we don’t support, we talk through the situation so she has a clear understanding of what she did wrong. The challenge we face is many people want to give her a pass. For example, if Kerstin wants a snack at the concession stand, she will walk up and ask for a one, and she will be given it without paying. I will then have to walk her back to the stand with money in tow. She must pay for the snack she “took” and apologize. But I always get the same reply from those working: “Oh it’s fine, she can have it.” While I understand the gesture, Kerstin needs to learn that not all things will be given to her. She can’t do that as an adult. Of course, like all teenagers, Kerstin gets embarrassed when called out, but she now asks for money to go to the concession stand. And we use this as an opportunity to teach her about money management.
I have three children, ages 18, 15 and 12 — two girls and one boy. Kerstin, my 15-year-old daughter, has Down syndrome. She is the glue that holds our family together. She brings us joy, laughter and love. I can’t imagine our family without her. My husband and I decided early on we would raise Kerstin like any other child, have the same expectations and love her unconditionally.
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Talking about sexual health When it comes to puberty, dating and sexuality, I am very transparent and open with Kerstin. We speak in literal terms when we talk about bodies and developmental changes. We discuss how things work, their purpose and hygiene. As for dating, we haven’t experienced this with Kerstin yet, but she does want a boyfriend. Just like with any teenager, we will set boundaries suitable for her but also encourage her. I want her to have the opportunity to date and experience falling in love. I also want her to know she can discuss these experiences with me. It might be harder on me if she does get her heart broken, but that would also be a perfectly normal situation for us to discuss and learn from. Transitioning to adulthood Kerstin is a person first. I don’t want the first thing someone notices to be that she has Down syndrome. This is probably the biggest obstacle Kerstin faces as she transitions into adulthood. I know she will be judged by her looks and disability first, and that is hard to explain to her. She knows she has Down syndrome, but she doesn’t see why everyone perceives her as “different.” It is very hard to get people to see that she has likes and dislikes and the same feelings and emotions as everyone else. For example, she loves animals, so she shows sheep in FFA. She also enjoys projects in 4-H, with some tasks modified for her, but she completes the project and that is what is most important. Kerstin knows her limits. She also knows her abilities. She has already decided what she wants to do as an adult, and my job is to give her the resources and tools to be successful. Raising a teenage child with special needs is no easy task but it is no different than raising any other teenager. We get to experience all the same emotions and behaviors and share in some of the best memories. This is Kerstin’s world; I am just lucky enough to be part of it and love her unconditionally. With all the love and support she receives and her determined spirit, I am certain it will be a life full of joy and happiness and many surprises along the way! My job is to follow her lead. And that brings me more joy and happiness than any mother could want. Editor’s note: Sarah Soell is a wife, mom of three and the executive director of the Down Syndrome Association of Central Oklahoma. Learn more about the organization at dsaco.org.
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The hardest part about Kerstin growing up is her wanting independence. I still struggle with this, especially when she wants to go to the restroom alone. I can’t help but worry something might happen or she might need my assistance. She doesn’t want mom going with her and tells me, “I can do this by myself!” I am learning to find the balance of letting her try new things with low risk. We talk about what to do in different scenarios if she can’t find her way or gets separated from me. Fortunately, Kerstin has a good sense of her surroundings and is not afraid to ask for help. Teaching tech skills Just like any other teenager, Kerstin has a phone. She doesn’t use it for social media, but she loves YouTube. We have set time limits on her phone and use it as a motivator. It has been a great asset for her to be more independent. She uses the voice command, which helps with speech, and the calculator for math and money management. Her favorite thing is to listen to music, which helps keep her anxiety at bay. Her phone is also a way for her to connect with family and friends on her own. She can call her grandparents anytime she wants to share with them about her day or tell them something important. Everyone in our family enjoys their FaceTimes or calls from Kerstin! She is currently working on learning to text, which is another opportunity to work on social skills.
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