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NOVEMBER 2020
Party Like It’s 2020 Trending tips for COVID- friendly celebrations Get in the Holiday Spirit Dazzling day trips for light displays
Nov. 21 – Dec. 31 6 pm – 11 pm Nightly
An illuminated tour of 5 million twinkling lights in Yukon, OK! Located in City Park, Freedom Trail Park and Chisholm Trail Park. Visit us online for more information. http://www.yukonok.gov/ChristmasinthePark Merry & Bright!
— Drive through the lights! — Take a self-guided tour through “Oklahoma’s largest drive-thru Christmas light display!”
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— Santa Express Train Rides — Every Night | Weather Permitting | 6 pm - 10 pm $3.00 per Person | Chisholm Trail Park
— Ice Skating Rink — REAL Ice Not synthetic like many others. Mon. - Fri. 4 pm - 10 pm | Chisholm Trail Park | Sat. - Sun. 2 pm - 10 pm View of Christmas Lights and Santa Express Train
Generosity of space. Millions of twinkling lights and our soaring 48-foot Christmas tree. Hundreds of enhanced cleaning protocols. Boundless family-friendly holiday events, from snow tubing and ice skating to our brand-new I Love Christmas Movies™ immersive pop-up experience featuring ELF™, THE POLAR EXPRESS™, and more! November 13 – January 3 | ChristmasAtGaylordTexan.com
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Features 14 The Scoop on Screen Time Realistic management strategies from a metro pediatrician 16 Creating Connection Through Hair Care
Departments 10 Local Family Fun Socially-distant
36 Family Mental Wellness
Bullying 101: Identifying victims and instigators
opportunities to serve
24 Calendar
38 Exploring Oklahoma
Turkey trots, holiday light displays and socially-distant shopping 32 Real Moms of the Metro Creating community for youth in crisis
Take a day trip for holiday happenings
Nonprofit equips foster parents with hair care resources & education
44 Super Kids of the Metro
20 Party Like It's 2020
Teens supporting teens through volunteerism
Trending tips for COVID-friendly celebrations
SEE SIGNS CELEBRATE 20
On the cover Giving Back page 10 Party Like It's 2020 page 20 Get in the Holiday Spirit pages 28 & 38
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M ost days I am a literal whirling dervish, packing kid lunches, listening to sight words and unpacking groceries while also finishing laundry, answering emails and locating soccer cleats. Sound familiar? During a recent episode of multitasking at its finest (or worst?), I exploded about how much I had to do to get us all to our respective places fed, clothed and prepared. Thank goodness my kids have a reputation for turning my grumbling into gratitude. One reminded me of a time not so long ago when they didn’t get to return
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Publisher Sarah Taylor Managing Editor Erin Page Assistant Editor Lindsay Cuomo Contributing Writers Kristy Blosch Dr. Erica Faulconer Contributing Photographer Bridget Pipkin Art Director Stacy Noakes Senior Project Manager Kirsten Holder Director of Events Marissa Raglin Sales Dana Price Laura Beam Office Manager Andrea Shanks
MY THREE KIDS ARE MY CONSTANT REMINDER TO CHOOSE GRATITUDE. PHOTO BY 3 BLESSINGS PHOTOGRAPHY.
and joy. Find a few of our favorite local opportunities, with socially distant options, on page 10. During this month of gratitude, I’ll be seeking to spend less time chaotically multitasking and more time focusing on what I’m most thankful for, especially my family and my community. And I plan to take my attitude of gratitude through the holiday season and into the new year. Will you join me? With hope,
This Month’s Cover Lilyali, 5, loves all creatures great and small so she was especially thrilled to meet Peaches the pony for her Cover Kids photoshoot at Cadence Equestrian Center! The animal lover attends Tulakes Elementary School. Lilyali is studying the art of karate and also enjoys dancing and music. She equally adores dressing up as superheroes and princesses. She is the daughter of Eric and Nina and big sister to Lareia, and the family’s favorite metro attraction to enjoy together is Science Museum Oklahoma. to school, so we didn’t have to pack those lunches. Another reminded me how happy he was that he’d been able to return to playing sports, hence those soccer cleats. Do your kids do this for you, too? It seems mine are always providing me perspective when I need it most, whether through dinnertime prayers where they express thanks for the smallest of things or stopping me in my whirling tracks for a big hug. As my kids get older, we also intentionally make time to serve our community together, another opportunity to gain perspective
Erin Page Managing Editor
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Off the Pages Get your Geek tickets!
Our virtual Geekapalooza: A STEAM Festival for Kids launches on Nov. 8 with a session by OKC meteorologist Emily Sutton! This exciting series of 10, one-hour workshops is designed to get kids of all ages engaged in hands-on STEAM activities. Watch sessions live or check out the recordings at your family’s convenience. Plus, enjoy prizes, giveaways and a photo contest!
General admission tickets are $12 per family. Learn more and secure your tickets by Nov. 6 at metrofamilymagazine.com/geekapalooza. Geekapalooza is an annual program of Girl Scouts of Western Oklahoma and MetroFamily.
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HOLIDAY LIGHTS SPECTACULAR Drive-thru open daily Nov. 20 - Dec. 25 6-10 p.m. Mon - Thurs; 6-11 p.m. Fri & Sat 6-11 p.m. Christmas Eve Joe B Barnes Regional Park 118 ft Christmas Tree | Tunnel of Lights Over 100 Animated Displays in a Mile And a Half Drive Holiday Lights Spectacular is FREE! (Donations help us bring the lights back next year!)
LIGHT THE CITY Dec 1 - 6 to 7 p.m. Charles J Johnson Central Park at Town Center Plaza Come light the City with us! If you can’t join us, turn on your own lights at 6:30p.m.!
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Is it flu or COVID??? That’s the burning question on many parents’ minds as we enter typical cold and flu season, now paired with COVID-19.
Distinguishing symptoms, and wading through all the information out there, is enough to make your head hurt. We asked local pediatrician Dr. Jason Onarecker of SSM Health St. Anthony Hospital for his best advice for parents as we head into this “twindemic.” Dr. Onarecker gives tips on how families can best prepare for the winter months and how to decipher between symptoms at metrofamilymagazine.com/covid- or-flu.
BY CHARLES DICKENS • ADAPTED BY MICHAEL BARON CO-DIRECTED BY MICHAEL BARON & ASHLEY WELLS
In an All-New, Outdoor Holiday Experience Live at the Harn Homestead! Be whisked away to a magical holiday village nestled in the heart of Oklahoma City! The historic Harn Homestead will be reimagined as the Victorian Era setting for Ebenezer Scrooge, Jacob Marley, magical spirits and a host of unforgettable characters. Follow Charles Dickens’ timeless tale of transformation and redemption, as you’re guided from scene to scene at the homestead!
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Ho Ho Holiday season favorites Get in the holiday spirit with our Winter Fun Guides ! You’ll find local light displays, cold weather fun, cultural celebrations, socially-distant holiday events, Christmas tree farms and much more at metrofamilymagazine. com/winter-fun-guides. Dropping daily parenting hacks — sign up! Make MetroFamily part of your weekday morning routine, with the latest in family fun, timely news and real-life parenting hacks delivered straight to your inbox . Be the first to find our #weekendpicks every Thursday, plus enjoy exclusive offers from hot spots for family fun. Sign up today at metrofamilymagazine. com/subscribe-enews.
to annual MetroFamily events (think Kids Fest, Cover Kids, Geekapalooza, etc.) and downloadable graphics and activities. Plus, be the first to know about new openings and events around the metro. Sign up by Dec. 1 and you will be automatically entered to win a getaway to the Gaylord Texan Resort in Dallas. This is a fantastic stocking stuffer for any mom, grandparent or caretaker in your life! Visit metrofamilymagazine. com/insider for more details.
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BIRTHDAY PARTIES SAFE AND SOCIALLY-DISTANT Looking for a skate party? Outdoor party? Parties in Edmond or Norman? Search our online Party Guide and find just the perfect venue or entertainment for your child’s next celebration!
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Giving Back
SIBLINGS AND FAMILY MEMBERS WORK TOGETHER TO PREPARE FOR FOOD DRIVES TO SERVE FAMILIES IN NEED THROUGH FILLING TUMMIES.
5 options to serve as a family BY ERIN PAGE . PHOTOS PROVIDED. Volunteering as a family is an excellent way to spend time together, benefit the community and teach kids about the importance of giving to others and lending a hand. As we approach Thanksgiving and are mindful of our own blessings, this time of year is also the perfect time to teach our kids about the joy and impact of serving our community. Check out these socially- distant opportunities to volunteer with kids in the metro this season.
Host a food drive for families in need. 1 Filling Tummies provides food, formula and basic necessities to kids, families and seniors living in food deserts. The organization’s mobile food pantry bus typically visits schools for students to enjoy shopping for their own fresh produce and packaged snacks, but during COVID-19 the organization has been offering drive-through food distribution for community members. Families can organize their own food drive to collect items to donate to Filling Tummies or volunteer to package donations or assist with food giveaways. Visit fillingtummies.com for more information.
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Make Thanksgiving memorable for the homebound. Other Options, Inc. provides food, resources, services and education to at-risk individuals and families affected by HIV and AIDS. Cookie’s Thanksgiving, a program of Other Options, Inc., has in years past fed more than 1,000 in- need individuals affected by HIV and AIDS on Thanksgiving Day. Families can help by signing up to make deliveries to homebound individuals (with PPE provided), provide Thanksgiving menu items (with a list available at otheroptionsokc. org/events) or donate just $7 to provide a full Thanksgiving meal. The organization’s food pantry serves more than 1,200 adults and children every month. Learn more at otheroptionsokc.org.
Wrap a family in warmth. Each holiday season, Upward Transitions creates a Calendar of everything collected to the organization to distribute through the winter months. Find out more at upwardtransitions.org. 3 FAMILIES CAN SUPPORT OTHER OPTIONS' COOKIE'S THANKSGIVING PROGRAM IN SEVERAL WAYS. Sharing to invite families and individuals to collect a different item each day for the clients the organization serves who are facing homelessness. Items requested include things like socks, gloves, hand warmers and travel size toiletries. Families can grab a box, each day put the designated item in the box and then supply
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Support teachers and students. Restore OKC is a relationship-based, community-driven redevelopment organization focused in Northeast Oklahoma City.
Community members can support teachers through serving on classroom care teams, help provide and pack snacks and food for students over the weekends and holidays or assist in maintaining, weeding and harvesting in school gardens. Learn more at restoreokc.org. Make a meal (or grab take out!) for at-risk youth. Sisu is a low-barrier, affirming shelter for at-risk youth to receive a place to stay, clothing, access to resources and case management and warm meals. The organization relies on community members to provide meals for the youth. Meals can be homemade or take out and can be dropped off at the shelter socially-distant style to limit contact. Find out more about signing up on Sisu’s meal train at sisuyouth.org/donate.
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Find our full list of family volunteer opportunities at metrofamilymagazine.com/volunteer.
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The Scoop on Screen Time: Realistic family strategies
BY ERIN PAGE
If you feel your kids’ screen time has increased exponentially during the COVID-19 pandemic, you’re not alone. The advocacy group Parents Together reports a 500 percent increase in kids’ screen time usage during the pandemic, with 85 percent of parents concerned about their kids’ time spent in front of screens. With many kids learning online, and many parents working from home succumbing to kids’ requests for more screen time to get their own work done, parent guilt over screens is also on the rise.
We asked pediatrician Dr. Natalia Tutak with SSM Health St. Anthony to weigh in on realistic strategies to manage kids’ screen time.
The American Academy of Pediatrics recommends 2 hours or less of screen time for kids, but we know that during the pandemic kids’ screen time has soared. Is there a more realistic, individualized way to gauge how much screen time is appropriate for a child? Especially right now, there’s not a one-size-fits-all answer about kids and screen time. The key is tailoring screen time usage to your family’s needs and values. One great tool families can use is creating an individualized Family Media Use Plan through the American Academy of Pediatrics at HealthyChildren.org/MediaUsePlan. This tool allows families to think about how they want to use media and create goals and rules in line with their personal values. The plan includes a media time calculator you can set for each child by age. Then, you can calculate time away from media for sleep and recommended daily exercise, and you can add/subtract time for school, meals, family time, etc. to get a more realistic approach to how much screen time your child is getting.
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When it comes to screen time limits, does quality or quantity matter most? How should content and context of kids’ screen time factor in? Right now it is best to focus on quality screen time. It will be difficult to limit quantity especially since that is how most of school work is now being done. In general, quality screen time is that which is educational and/or viewed alongside a parent or caregiver. Podcasts and audiobooks can also be great ways to engage kids in educational screen time. Tracking daily screen time for kids can be a chore and often ends up in a fight! What are some realistic strategies for parents to communicate and get kids on board with whatever screen time limitations they set? If your child is older, work through the Family Media Use Plan with them. This way they can feel like they were a part of the decision- making process. Parents should also model the expected behaviors for them. For example, if you set meal times as media free zones, it should apply to all family members. With many kids learning virtually, how can parents strike a balance between screen time for schoolwork, screen time for fun and off-screen time? Stick to a schedule. Set a time to wake up, get ready for the day and do school work. Keep the TV off during virtual learning, take mini breaks from the computer and have a set lunch break. After school work is done you can have time set aside for “fun” screen time for the child. For off-screen time it helps to keep screens out of bedrooms and set limits of no screen time during meals and bedtime. Is digital eye strain a concern for kids learning virtually, and if so, how can parents help mitigate it? Digital eye strain is most certainly a concern, especially with the increase in screen time. Parents can help their children by reminding them to take breaks. The child should look away from the screen about every 20 minutes, focus on an object at least 20 feet away for about 20 seconds. Kids should also get up and walk away from the screen for 10 minutes each hour.
What apps, programs or rules do you recommend to help parents keep kids safe on their devices? Screen time shouldn’t always be alone time. One way to keep kids safe is to co-watch programs with them or play games they enjoy with them. There are also many apps like Bark and Qustodio that can help parents monitor usage. Refer to organizations such as Common Sense Media, which reviews age appropriate apps, games and programs. How can screen time impact kids’ mental health, and what might be some behaviors or indicators that could mean they need a screen break? High users of screen time can be more likely to display poor emotion regulation, decreased self-control and inability to finish tasks. If you notice poor sleep or the child withdrawing from family and friends, it should spark an open conversation about what is going on and a reevaluation of screen time.
How can families create opportunities for screen breaks and healthy habits for screen usage?
One great opportunity for a screen break for everyone in the family is during dinner. Focus on the meal and spending time together as a family (unplugged). In general, ensure media does not take the place of adequate sleep, physical activity, reading, downtime or family activities. Dr. Natalia Tutak is a pediatrician with SSM Health St. Anthony who cares for children and adolescents across a variety of non-emergency primary care needs, including well child checks with immunizations, sports physicals, treatment of acute symptoms, ongoing treatment of chronic concerns and more. She earned her bachelor’s degree in microbiology and her medical degree from the University of Oklahoma before going on to pursue her residency at the University of Oklahoma Health Sciences Center. Dr. Tutak is a member of the American Medical Association, American Women’s Medical Association, American Academy of Pediatrics and Oklahoma State Medical Association. Dr. Tutak can be reached at 405-713-2696 or ssmhealth.com/NataliaTutakMD.
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THE HAIR INITIATIVE Connecting foster parents with hair care resources for kids of color BY ERIN PAGE . PHOTOS PROVIDED.
care falls on Black child welfare workers. Horn has researched and spent her own money to purchase hair care products for foster kids that she hoped were adequate for their needs. “We wanted to educate parents on the basics of hair care, give them supplies, create a network of stylists and facilitate conversation through workshops, all in a judgment-free zone." Emma Butler Though some foster parents aren’t motivated to figure out hair care for a child whose ethnicity is different from their own, many who are so inclined face barriers. Horn knows foster parents who’ve been berated for their foster children’s appearances while trying to shop for proper hair care products or attempting to patronize a salon or barber shop. In addition, hair products and stylists are expensive. Though Horn says foster parents receive hours of training to become certified, not much time is devoted to hair
care, and potential foster parents are often, understandably, more focused on topics like trauma-informed care at that point in their learning journey. Butler and Horn decided to do something to address the problem, empowering foster parents with hair care tools and resources, and in turn boosting the confidence of kids in foster care, celebrating and affirming their heritage and building bridges with biological families. In 2018, nonprofit organization The Hair Initiative was born. “We wanted to educate parents on the basics of hair care, give them supplies, create a network of stylists and facilitate conversation through workshops, all in a judgment-free zone,” said Butler. MEETING THE NEED The Hair Initiative achieves its mission by providing hair care kits and educational workshops to foster parents. They also provide referrals for stylists near foster families who are experienced with their foster child’s type of hair, and they are working to create a network of top-notch stylists offering discounted services. Hair care kits cost about $15 to $20 to make and include detangling brushes, products, spray bottles, hair clips and sleeping bonnets packed in a sturdy bag, with items included specific to hair length and texture. Kits are
Emma Butler has volunteered as a Court Appointed Special Advocate for the past five years, advocating in court cases for the best interest of children in the foster care system. A few years ago, she met a very self- conscious little girl who had been placed in multiple homes and whose hair had not been properly cared for in months. Butler, who wondered if this was a singular instance of a white family not knowing how to care for a Black child’s hair or a more prevalent issue in the foster care system, connected with Oklahoma Department of Human Services child welfare specialist Christy Horn to get her take. Horn has been with OKDHS for more than six years, four years as a permanency worker and two as a family meeting facilitator, and she confirmed that improper hair care is a problem for kids in the foster care system, both for girls and boys. In her experience, kids’ appearance, especially their hair, is one of the biggest points of contention between biological and foster parents. Challenges exist for all parties involved. Biological parents often spend their visits with their children doing their hair, or hair
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“This started off as how can we help this one little girl and has snowballed. This little girl has completely changed my life, and in turn, all these other kids’ and parents’ lives.” Emma Butler
LOCAL STYLIST ROSHONDA COLEMAN PROVIDES SERVICES FOR FOSTER KIDS THROUGH THE HAIR INITIATIVE AND WILL TRAVEL AROUND THE STATE IN THE COMING YEAR TO PRESENT THE ORGANIZATION’S WORKSHOPS. METROFAMILYMAGAZINE.COM / NOVEMBER 2020 17
available for both girls and boys. Butler and Horn test out all the products, ensuring they are great quality items that can hold up to kids. Most items are sourced from local Black-owned companies, including LaMoor Beauty Supply in Oklahoma City, which has provided high-quality items at reduced prices for the nonprofit. Hundreds of kits have been provided so far, through workshops, foster care agencies, individual child welfare workers, the Boys and Girls Club, various clothing closets and Oklahoma City’s juvenile detention center. “These kids are taken from their families, schools, siblings and grandparents. A child deserves to know about their culture, and this allows kids to feel they are still connected to that part of themselves.” Christy Horn “Every child deserves the dignity of a good hair day,” said Butler. “Kids in custody often travel with their items in trash bags, so we also wanted to give them a kit and a bag that belongs to them.” The Hair Initiative develops partnerships with Black stylists and Black-owned beauty salons to provide discounted services to kids in foster care. No matter where a child is placed in the state, the organization strives to connect kids with a vetted stylist who will know how to care for his or her hair. Stylists undergo a background check and sign a confidentiality agreement, and they are prepared for the nature of foster children who have undergone trauma or neglect. Roshonda Coleman is a metro stylist who will both provide services for foster kids through The Hair Initiative and travel around the state in the coming year to present the organization’s workshops, through which foster parents have the opportunity to learn about proper hair care, get hands-on with products and ask questions.
Over the course of the workshops, especially during Q&A sessions, conversations often encompass how a child’s hair is connected to their culture and the importance of the foster parents respecting and affirming that connection. “These kids are taken from their families, schools, siblings and grandparents,” said Horn. “A child deserves to know about their culture, and this allows kids to feel they are still connected to that part of themselves.” After a recent workshop, a mom contacted Butler and Horn to say her foster daughter felt much more confident after she learned how to properly care for her hair. “This is teaching kids to love themselves, their natural, beautiful aspects, and empowering them to know they don’t have to look a certain way,” said Butler. Horn adds that the simple act of a foster parent brushing or caring for their foster child’s hair provides physical affirmation and increases bonding, helping kids feel safe and connected. MORE THAN HAIR In the short time the nonprofit has existed, community response has been overwhelmingly positive and the outreach has grown beyond what the founders dreamed. After a judge at Oklahoma City’s juvenile detention center was concerned about the condition of many of the female residents’ hair, he called Horn to see if The Hair Initiative could help. “The boys were getting hair cuts every other week, but the girls had never had that happen and some had even shaved their heads,” said Horn. Butler and Horn immediately went to work, providing more than 700 hair products and tools to the center, putting on a hair care workshop for the girls and providing a stylist for the girls to get their hair done. Their bright smiles, and even some tears, at the acknowledgment that they mattered meant the world to Butler and Horn. Kids in inpatient care will also have the opportunity to get their hair done. “These kids don’t have anybody,” said Horn. “We want them to know they still matter, that they aren’t forgotten.” The initiative has also brought people across races together to learn about and celebrate their differences. “As a biracial woman I’ve been in that in between, uncomfortable space, but standing
in that space all these years has come in handy,” said Butler. “I can stand in the middle of these two groups and relate with the parents and the children.” Butler visited the little girl whose story inspired The Hair Initiative the night before she was adopted, while the girl’s aunt did her hair. Unlike that first visit, the girl was confident, able to look Butler in the eye and so excited about the opportunity to get her hair fixed in a way that fit her personal style. At the time, the idea for The Hair Initiative was still percolating, and the girl helped Butler brainstorm the name, a beautiful nod to where it all began. “This started off as how can we help this one little girl and has snowballed,” said Butler. “This little girl has completely changed my life, and in turn, all these other kids’ and parents’ lives.” HOW YOU CAN HELP The Hair Initiative is run entirely by volunteer efforts. The organization is currently seeking board members as well as volunteers to pack and deliver hair care kits. Individuals, families and organizations can donate to the organization to help purchase items for the kits and cover operational costs. The organization is also seeking local hair stylists, of any specialty, to help. Visit thehairinitiative.org for more information. HAIR CARE KITS INCLUDE DETANGLING BRUSHES, PRODUCTS, SPRAY BOTTLES, HAIR CLIPS AND SLEEPING BONNETS.
“Often they have been scared to ask questions, but we make them feel comfortable,” said Horn.
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“Every child deserves the dignity of a good hair day." Emma Butler
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MADDIE (PICTURED), WHO IS ADOPTED, AND HER MOM KIM BILGER ARE CLIENTS OF STYLIST ROSHONDA COLEMAN AND WILL ATTEND THE HAIR INITIATIVE WORKSHOPS TO SHARE PERSPECTIVE FROM THEIR HAIR CARE JOURNEY WITH PARTICIPANTS.
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BY ERIN PAGE . PHOTOS PROVIDED. D Parties Throwing a birthday party during a pandemic can present considerable
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challenges, but parents, party planners, venues and entertainment resources have all gotten creative in COVID-friendly celebrations. Guest lists are definitively smaller right now as party hosts strive to keep safety in mind, but that doesn’t mean there’s a limit on fun! From birthday parades and festive front-yard signs to Zoom parties and extra-special décor, we take a look at some of the hottest trends in party planning, perfect for times of pandemic and beyond. Our expert panel includes: Jessica Ganther with Party with Jess, Chelsey Flint with Chelsey Flint Events, Akwe Trevillion with See Signs Celebrate and Katrina Uhls with Unpluggits Paint & Play.
Littles
Let’s be honest, first birthdays are often more for the parents than the child. And parents absolutely deserve a celebration for conquering that first year! For toddlers and preschoolers, Ganther encourages parents to remember that littles don’t get hung up on party details like the perfect menu or matching décor. Instead focus on surrounding littles with people who love them (whether in person or virtually) and a theme that makes their eyes light up.
TRENDING • If you’re keeping the party to immediate family, create a fun backdrop for a photoshoot or a cake smash, then send video and photos to family and friends. Or set up a Zoom party so everyone can watch (and sing Happy Birthday!) in real-time. • For littles who love animals, check out options like Magnolia Blossom Ranch, where you can visit the amazing alpacas one group at a time, or schedule them to come to you! • Babies and preschoolers alike adore balloons and that includes little party guests! Send party balloons home as a favor. • Opt outdoors by planning a party for littles at a local park so guests can be socially distanced.
SOME FAMILIES ARE OPTING TO CELEBRATE WITH IMMEDIATE FAMILY ONLY. COURTESY OF CHELSEY FLINT EVENTS.
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PERSONALIZED TREATS MAKE A SPLASH. COURTESY OF PARTY WITH JESS.
MONEY-SAVER Instead of purchasing more expensive themed paper goods and décor, choose the primary colors within your child’s theme (like red, purple, orange, blue and green for a Teenage Mutant Ninja Turtle extravaganza) and score plates, cups, napkins, balloons, streamers, favors and other décor in those colors from Dollar Tree or the like. Choose just a few items, like one oversized balloon or the cake, to feature the theme in detail. SPLURGE-WORTHY Hiring a local party planner can cut down on day-of stress for parents and allow them to truly enjoy the party. Local party planners like Ganther and Flint work with all budget levels and can design and style the entire party, or just provide items like a custom cake, favors or special décor. Some even offer contact-less drop-offs of decorations, or yard sign companies like See Signs Celebrate set up and take down your birthday message of choice, no contact required. TOP TIPS FOR ALL AGES • Choose the party situation your family feels most comfortable with, whether that includes friends, family or just those in your household. • Set a clear budget, then select areas where you can save and one or two items to splurge on, whether with your money or time. • If you’re hosting at a party venue, ask what your group’s exposure would be to other groups, how the venue sanitizes (and how often) and about any other pandemic precautions that have been put in place to keep guests safe. • Whether at home or at a venue, use disposable plates and cutlery and individually packaged drinks and snacks when possible to cut down on hand-to-hand contact. And be sure to have plenty of hand sanitizer handy!
"ONE IN A MELON" IS A POPULAR THEME FOR LITTLES. COURTESY OF CHELSEY FLINT EVENTS.
BALLOON GARLANDS ADD FESTIVITY TO ANY BIRTHDAY PARTY. COURTESY OF PARTY WITH JESS.
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Kids Whether hosting a party at home or at a local venue with safety precautions in place, choose an activity party-goers can enjoy alongside each other. Party venues like Unpluggits are getting creative to offer safe options onsite or to-go painting or ceramics kits for at-home party fun. Outdoor venues like Cadence Equestrian Center offer built-in distancing and exciting activities with equine friends. “Anything outdoors has been really pop- ular, and I anticipate people having small- er get-togethers throughout the winter months. Those smaller celebrations — even with just family — can still be really special.” Chelsey Flint, owner of Chelsey Flint Events
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TRENDING • Birthday party parades capture all the festivity and allow your kids to invite a full guest list, all while keeping a safe distance as they drive by to honk and wave. As a thank you for coming, provide prepackaged treats for guests to grab as they drive through. • Matching masks make awesome party favors for this age group! Hand sanitizer with labels customized to the party theme are also popular. • Top themes include donuts, superheroes, mermaids and the wild West. For kids moving beyond themed parties, Trevillion advises choosing colors and a hobby they love to feature. • Host a camping or outdoor movie party for a few friends or just the family. MONEY-SAVER Balloons always make a party feel festive! Instead of expensive helium-filled bouquets, save by making a DIY balloon arch, or purchase one from a local party planner. SPLURGE-WORTHY Customized yard signs are all the rage, and a perfect backdrop for a birthday parade. Especially if you’re opting to not have a traditional birthday party this year, a creative yard display will make your birthday child feel celebrated and special. Locally- and family-owned See Signs Celebrate offers customizable options at $85- 100. (P.S. these are awesome for any age!)
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BIRTHDAY KIDS (AND ADULTS!) FEEL EXTRA SPECIAL WITH A CUSTOM YARD SIGN. COURTESY OF SEE SIGNS CELEBRATE.
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Tweens~Teens The perfect recipe for tween and teen parties is often good food, great music and space to hang out and chat. Ganther advises that for tweens and teens, planning a party is less about choosing a theme and more about creating a vibe. TRENDING • Selfie and Tik Tok stations are the new photo booths for this age group. Create a fun backdrop, set up a few lights and the guests will do the rest! • Customized Snap Chat filters take the party to social media. • Slumber parties with just one or two friends still feel special. Purchase or DIY matching pajamas and enjoy time with besties. Or kick things up a notch with a come-to-you (or go to them) Mobile Laser Forces party. • Take the family to enjoy an activity together. Locales like Riversport and Main Event cater indoor or outdoor adventures perfect for tweens and teens, and Unpluggits offers ceramics options for older kids or families.
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MONEY-SAVER Instead of purchasing a cake, grab cake-making supplies and host a bake-off between a small gathering of friends or family members. SPLURGE-WORTHY Create a custom backdrop for all those selfies. Check out Pinterest for DIY ideas, hire a local party planner to customize one to your teen’s tastes or book a front-yard display through a local company.
“It’s so heartwarming to be able to do this. To see little kids so happy about their signs is one of the best things about this company.” Akwe Trevillion, 17, who owns See Signs Celebrate with her mom Shana and younger brother Jafari, 12
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Nov. 4 - Dec. 23 Lyric Theatre is reinventing its holiday production of A Christmas Carol into an all- new outdoor experience at Harn Homestead (1721 N Lincoln Blvd). Reimagined as a Victorian Era setting for Ebenezer Scrooge, Jacob Marley and a host of unforgettable characters, families will be guided from scene to scene to witness Charles Dickens’ timeless tale of transformation and redemption. Tickets will be limited for each performance to ensure proper social distancing. All ages welcome. Adults, $61 & up; kids, $35 & up. See website for performance times. lyrictheatreokc.com Nov. 6 Stay out late for an evening of socially distanced fun at the National Cowboy & Western Heritage Museum (1700 NE 63rd St). The Cowboy invites families to enjoy an after-hours party, Late Night at the Museum , with canvas painting inspired by the museum’s contemporary art collection, a flashlight tour of Prosperity Junction and a showing of Night at the Museum: Battle of the Smithsonian . Preregister. Children must be accompanied by an adult. Adults, $20; kids (4 & up), $35. 6-11pm. nationalcowboymuseum.org
Nov. 11 Midwest City (15th St, Douglas Blvd & Reno Ave, Midwest City) is celebrating Veterans Day with a parade and the community is invited! Floats, car clubs, marching bands, flyovers and more will salute and honor soldiers. The grand marshal is Colonel (ret.) Charles B. "Chuck" DeBellevue, America's top ace of the Vietnam War and the last ace to serve on active duty in the U.S. Air Force. Attendees are encouraged to practice proper social distancing and wear a mask when within 6 feet of someone outside of their household. The parade begins at 10am. midwestcityok.org
Nov. 13 Myriad Gardens (301 W Reno Ave) is hosting a family workshop to explore bulb botany . Learn all about bulbs and dissect these energy-packed plants. Compare different types of bulbs, some from the kitchen and some from the garden, to learn the parts of a bulb. Then pot your own to care for and enjoy next spring. Best suited for ages 6-12. Preregister. Members, $8; nonmembers, $10. 6-7pm. myriadgardens.org Editor’s note: Due to COVID-19, events are subject to change. Please check with each venue for updates.
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TOP VIRTUAL EVENTS
two workshop sessions conveniently held daily at 4pm and 5pm, which can be watched live or at a later time. Preregister: $12 per family. metrofamilymagazine.com/geekapalooza Nov. 27 For the first time ever, OKC Tree Lighting Celebration broadcast online and on TV! News 9 is bringing the holiday special to homes across the city and the program will feature original music performed by local talent, a selection of Christmas carols will kick off the holiday season with the annual FREE OKC including the Oklahoma-favorite I Want a Hippopotamus for Christmas and Mayor Holt will end the evening with the lighting of the tree. Time TBA. downtownindecember.com
Nov. 7 New and experienced mamas can hear from parenting experts about topics such as safe sleep, picky eating, potty training, postpartum care and more at MamaFest . The expo will be held virtually with a combination of pre-recorded and live interviews. Admission includes raffle tickets for giveaways. Preregister. $5- $30. 1-5pm. mamafest2020.com Nov. 8-13 Connect with STEAM professionals in a fun series of one-hour, hands-on workshops as part of MetroFamily’s virtual Geekapalooza: A STEAM Festival for Kids , co-hosted by Girl Scouts Western Oklahoma. The event launches at 7 p.m. on National STEAM Day with an introduction by KFOR Meteorologist Emily Sutton and continues for the next five days with
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Through Dec. 24 Pambe Ghana Global Market (online) is a seasonal fair trade shop offering unique gifts, including a wide selection of folk art from around the world. All proceeds benefit PAMBE Ghana's La'Angum Learning Center in northern Ghana. Curbside pickup available. 249-2314, pambeghana.org/shop/shop Nov. 5-8 Mistletoe Market features an online holiday market experience that gives shoppers the opportunity to support the Junior League of Oklahoma City while browsing more than 100 vendors offering unique gifts. Families can also schedule a Zoom session with Santa. mistletoemarket.org Nov. 7 Pumpkin Harvest Craft Festival at the Dale Robertson Center (1200 Lakeshore Dr, Yukon) features more than 45 booths from across the state selling candles, wood crafts, needlework, home décor and more, as well as a bake sale benefiting Friends of the Park. Free to attend. 9am-3pm. 350-8937, yukonok.gov Junk Hippy at Chester’s Party Barn (5201 Cimarron Rd NW, Piedmont) features vintage and midcentury furniture, shabby and farmhouse décor, boho and handmade goods. $5; 13 & under, free. 9am-4pm. junkhippy.com
Nov. 17 The Gift Goes On Christmas Shopping Event at The Cube at Council Road Baptist Church (7903 NW 30th St, Bethany) features a socially-distanced holiday shopping event with local storefronts and creatives to raise money for families wanting to adopt. $5 suggested donation. 4-9pm. thegiftgoeson.com Nov. 20 & 21 The Santa Market at State Fair Park Pavilion (3001 General Pershing Blvd) features more than 100 vendors offering décor, fashion, handmade and unique items and the latest in direct sales. Proceeds from the show benefit the Alzheimer's Association of Oklahoma. Social distancing procedures will be followed. Free to attend. 9am-4pm. 314- 1033, facebook.com/thesantamarket Nov. 21 & 28, Dec. 5 & 12 FREE Lights on Broadway Holiday Event in Automobile Alley (Broadway Ave between 4th & 10th St) features shopping, window displays, family-friendly activities, special promotions and giveaways. 4-8pm. 235-4789, downtownindecember. com/lights-on-broadway Opening Nov. 28 Holiday Pop-Up Shops in Midtown (399 NW 10th St) features an all- outdoor market with rotating local vendors offering unique gift options. Saturday, 10am-7pm; Sunday, 10am- 5pm. 514-5205, okcpopups.com
Our Universe: Star Peoples of Skidi November 7 • 10:00 a.m. – Noon Walk through and discover constellations important to the Pawnee people. Map your own chart and listen to star stories. Experience the Pawnee lodge and identify directional points. Free for members or with Museum admission. All activities available while supplies last.
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Turkey Day Runs While Thanksgiving is usually a day focused on eating, several metro nonprofits are offering families an active way to celebrate the season of gratitude. Virtual races have been all the rage in 2020 and the same is on trend for the metro’s Turkey Day 5ks. Here’s a roundup of some of the fun runs happening this November:
OKC Turkey Tracks is going virtual, and the annual race benefits Toys for Tots. Families can participate in a 1-mile fun run, a 5k or a distance of your choosing. Registrants get a zip jacket, pumpkin- pie-inspired medal and a navy blue beanie. $40. okcturkeytracks.com
Turkey Trot Run , benefiting the Oklahoma City Zoo, presented locally by Bob Moore Subaru. Run your own race, indoors or outdoors, at your own pace, then post your final time online by Nov. 26. Registrants get an official swag bag. All ages welcome. $45. okczoo.org/turkeytrot2020
Edmond’s Turkey Trot is also virtual and they have added a 10-mile bike ride option. Families are encouraged to participate at a socially-distant location of their choice as they run, walk or bike to benefit Turning Point Ministries, an organization that provides homeownership opportunities to moderate-income families. Preregister by Nov. 20. $20. edmondturkeytrot.com
Lace up those blades for ice skating! All three metro rinks are open throughout the holiday season.
Public Programs Youth Camps Learning Gallery Second Saturday Let us ignite your family’s creativity! We offer a number of programs for all ages, including FREE art activities.
The Devon Ice Rink returns for its 10th season at Myriad Gardens on Nov. 6. Admission is $14 with skate rental or $9 for members or without skate rental. Monday-Thursday, 3-9pm; Friday, 3-11pm; Saturday, 11am-11pm; Sunday, 11am-7pm. myriadgardens.org Edmond Ice Rink opens at Mitch Park on Nov. 13. Admission is $12 with skate rental and $8 for kids 5 & under. Families can also hop aboard a Christmas train for $3 a rider. Monday-Thursday, 3-9pm; Friday, 3-10pm; Saturday, noon-10pm; Sunday, noon- 9pm. edmondicerink.com Brand new this year, Yukon’s Christmas in the Park is adding an ice skating rink to their
holiday festivities. Opening Nov. 21, families can skate by twinkle light on a real ice surface. Admission is $12 with skate rental, $8 without and for children 5 and under. Monday-Friday, 4-10pm; Saturday & Sunday, 2-10pm. yukonok.gov
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