you did during those first few days. During this time, people may have assumed that you were strong by your actions, when in reality, you were in shock and only going through the motions. Denial following a violent and unanticipated death is considered normal and functional. It
allows a person to travel through grief at their own pace and serves them well un- til they are stronger and better able to cope. It is impossible
If you need help, it’s ok to ask for it.
Fear/Vulnerability You may feel that life is out of balance and that the world no longer makes sense. Many victims and survivors are surprised to find that they feel anxious, fearful, and powerless after the violent death of a loved one. The part of you that was previously confident and carefree has been damaged. You see the world differently and fear comes with that. We tend to believe that good things happen to good people and bad things happen to bad people. For you, this belief no longer makes sense. You may feel that you and your remaining loved ones are more vulnerable than other people. It is important to work up the courage to go out in public, even when it frightens you. Little by little you can overcome your fears and feelings of vulnerability. to push through any part of the grieving process in an attempt to get over it. If you cannot think clearly or if you seem forgetful and detached, be patient with yourself. Most importantly, if you need help, it’s ok to ask for it.
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