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S P E C I A L C H R I S T I A N HOME S E R I E S GOD GAVE

CHILDREN PARENTS

by Dr. Robert Smith

(See "Note to our Readers" on opposite page.)

cannot be taught to be honest by in­ stinct. In the providence of God there are long years necessary for the proper development of character. This is why God gave you children. The responsi­ bility is up to you! The first reason for this is that we might provide for our offspring. This includes provisions in the areas which are physical, mental, moral, esthetical and spiritual. Paul writes to his son in the faith, Timothy, “And one who does not provide for his own, especial­ ly for his own household, has denied the faith and is worse than an un­ believer.” This provision is for the physical body, the proper kind of food, health, and medicine when needed. The little child cannot climb out of its crib or playroom and go to a doctor when there is a need, or when some immunization should be given. I was visiting in a certain home when a little boy came up to me and said, “Mr. Smith, I want to show you my pictures.” He got out a box in which he had more than a hundred snapshots which he had taken with an expensive camera his father and mother had gotten for him. Frankly, it would have taken a Ph.D. to operate the thing. Do you know, not a single one of those pictures was in focus. When he had gone out to play I said to his mother, “Have you had little Jimmy’s eyes examined? From the looks of his pictures, it may be he has seriously impaired vision.” She was quite sure it was merely a case that he didn’t know how to use the camera. She

I t was a number of years ago that I was asked to address a Mother’s Club on the aspect of child life. I started by saying, “I happen to be a father. My first child is six weeks old. I am sure that I’m acquainted with all the problems and have all the an­ swers.” (They chuckled, as did I.) Since that time 1 have become, with my dear wife’s help, a father of five children. Some of them have already established their own homes. In the intervening years I have counselled with young men and women in col­ leges and universities about marital and family relations. There is no institution in all the world as significant as the family. This is the basic unit and final bulwark of our society. “If you will give us godly Christian homes,” said one of our presi­ dents a few years ago, “most of our real problems will take care of them­ selves.” He was right! Human beings, unlike animals take many years to mature. The govern­ ment says a young man is not old enough to vote until he is 21 years of age. The reason for the difference is that animals are directed by instincts. Whether it be a Baltimore Oriole, building the same kind of a nest which it has built through the years, or the elaborate diving bell of a water spider, the Almighty Creator directs each one in the instincts of its own develop­ ment. Human beings are not the same. We concern ourselves with mental, moral and spiritual values. A young man

agreed, however, to take him to the doc­ tor. His eyes were examined and he was fitted with glasses. Some weeks later when I was in that same home the mother filled up with emotion and tears came in her eyes. She said, “Do you know what my little lad said to me after he got his glasses? ‘Mommy, for the first time, I can see the tops of the trees!’ ” Whereas he had been doing poorly in school he later went to a university and took top honors in his particular field of study. We are entirely responsible for our children’s physical well being. How many mothers know the distinction be- THINK Think of your child in his Christian home See him in prayer at your knee. Then think of the child in the godless home, What manner of chance has he? What chance to learn that the dear Lord died And why His blood was shed. Would he only learn salvations' plan too late When he is dead? As the twig is bent, the tree inclines. A child is a tender plant, And a child needs God as a flower needs light And the soul can die from want. "Suffer the little children to come unto me." Dear Saviour can there be a greater service A sweeter task than to bring a child to Thee? — Martha Snell Nicholson tween a carbohydrate, a vitamin and a protein? I wonder if they really know what a good balanced diet is. Are you providing all that is necessary for the proper development of your offspring? The Psalmist writes of the Lord, “Thou hast set the solitary in families.” How grateful we should be for our children. Only the Lord can guide us as fathers and mothers with discernment. Will you seek His help in communion with Him and through the power and in­ spiration of His Word?

Chapter Two O ne of the primary reasons why God has given children parents is so that we might discipline them in love. A child cannot provide for itself. There are long years before he becomes mature enough to use proper discern­ ment. Science reveals today that many of the actions of the pregnant mother affect the embryo carried in her womb during the gestation period from con­ ception to birth. How grateful we should be that our Saviour has so structured the body to protect the baby from much of the harmful action of the mother. As an example, the food intake of the mother may have a great and even a harmful affect upon the child. Scientists at the University of Michi­ gan have reported that a mother, carry­ ing a child at certain times in her life, may affect it even by taking aspirin. This was reported in a medical journal just this last year. Last fall, a baby bom to a 27 year old Yukon mother, an alcoholic, weighed 4 pounds and 15 ounces at birth. Its breath was alcohol­ ic. This little child, for 24 hours, was jerky and jumpy. To quote the Canadi­ an Medical Association Journal, it had delirium tremens symptoms. The American Medical Association wrote of a similar experience in New Jersey. Doctors were surprised that a certain new born infant' went through all the symptoms of narcotic addiction: withdrawal, convulsions and the like. Checking out the mother they found her to be a confirmed addict. For three or four days that child continued all of the symptoms. It has been shown by statistics that twice as many babies are bom mental­ ly defective in the spring after a hot summer. Why is this? During the hot summer, not infrequently, mothers who are carrying a child when the cerebral cortex is being formed, instead of eat­ ing proteins and the proper building blocks, have nourished themselves on 4

for our child while the mother is yet carrying it, in those early years the Lord will give His discernment and grace. He wants to help us to live a consistent, righteous Christian life. We need to pray that the Lord will help 20TH CENTURY PUBLICAN AND SINNER I'm glad I'm not like other folks Who just read trash and silly jokes; Who spend their money in the show And never near the church will go! I'm glad I never swear nor steal Or envy of another feel; Or break the Lord's day anytime In any city, state or clime. I'm glad I never take a drink: Of course I wouldn't even think Of ever going to a dance, And at a card I wouldn't glance. The Lord can ne'er find fault in me: From all such sins I'm ever free; I'm not afraid to meet my god. . . . I'm living strictly without fraud. * * * Dear God, I am so full of sin I wonder! would you now come in And wash me clean this very day. And set me walking in Thy way? 0 Saviour, Thou didst die for me And bore my curse upon the Tree! 1 am not worthy of such love That God would send Thee from above. To save my soul, I am so glad That Thy sweet peace can now be had In heart and life, if I believe And Thy salvation do receive. And so, dear Lord, now at the Cross I'm counting everything but loss I want to please my God of love And some day see Him up above! us to be wise and understanding so that we may protect our little ones from all the evils around us, as well as from the evils of our own intentions, ignor­ ance or lack of discernment. * * * He who stands high in his own estimation is still a long wayfromthe top. * * * There's always onething you can do: do what's, right and leave the rest with God.

ice teas and soda water. These are delectable but do not provide material to build up the brain. There is a great deal of data avail­ able concerning four areas or factors affecting the unborn baby in various stages of development. One of these is social disease, such as “syphilis.” Venereal disease affects the formation of the life cell. Another problem is white lead. This substance, found in many paints, can be most injurious to an unborn child. The third is radiation. This is the reason we are concerned about such things as X-rays. The last is alcohol. You will not hear anything of its dangers in advertise­ ments. Scientists believe that alcohol can and does definitely affect an off­ spring. Dr. C. F. Hodge of Clark Uni­ versity in Worcester, Massachusetts carried on an experiment with psy­ chological and physiological aspects of liquor. He took four cocker •spaniels that were of the same strain and back­ ground. He mated them together and gave them the names of Nick and Topsy. He had a very interesting sense of humor. The other two dogs he called Bum and Tipsy. He tested the dogs as to the affect of alcohol upon their offspring. Nick and Topsy had no al­ cohol with their meals while Bum and Tipsy did. Checking the litters, the two which had no alcohol had 45 pups bom to their union. Only 4 died and 90.2% were normal. Bum and Tipsy, on the other hand, only had 23 pups bom to their union. Nineteen of them died. It was Dr. B. G. Fritz, a research scholar in Europe, who wrote a book in 1939 which was titled, “Alcohol, Another Germ Poison.” He declared, in reporting on 491 cases in investigations of alcohol, that there is injury done to the offspring as a result of the con­ sumption of alcohol. Knowing these things, and being guided by them, is one of the values of a real Christian life. When we follow our Saviour, and the Lord Jesus Christ becomes the Guide and Teacher of our lives, then He gives us a discernment as to moral values and character. When we place our lives and our children in His care, when we pray

Chapter Three T he N ew T estament speaks of the Lord Jesus Christ when He was child grew, and waxed strong in spirit, filled with wisdom; and the grace of God was upon him.” Our Saviour was brought into the world by the heaven­ ly Father to be the incarnate Son of God, to die for our sins, and to rise again for our redemption. The Lord placed Him in the home of Mary and Joseph. They must have been wonder­ ful people. Mary, it says in the Scrip­ tures, was full of grace. Joseph, His foster father, must have been a man of great maturity. It was our heavenly Father’s pleasure to give to the Lord Jesus, as an infant, a human father and mother to care and provide for Him. In addition to providing proper food and health for our children, parents must provide a proper home. It cer­ tainly does not need to be a palatial mansion, but rather a humble abode where the Lord Jesus Christ has the pre-eminence. Do you fathers have a little bench at which your boy can play? Does he use a hammer or a chisel or some other tool? Oh, you say, “He’ll dull the chisel.” Yes, that is exactly what he will do. But it is far better to have a dull chisel and a sharp boy! Sometimes we do not understand this. I knew of a teacher in Minneapolis who told of one of her experiences. Little Teddy came to school on one particular day and declared to his teacher, “You know what happened last night? I went to my first cub scout meeting. I went to the door of Jimmy’s house and his mother opened the door. She told me, ‘Who are you? Did you come to the Cub meeting?’ I said, ‘I sure did!’ Then she smiled and said, ‘Little Teddy, you just come right on in.’ ” He told his teacher about that three times that same day. You see, his own home was a place where his moth­ er didn’t want him around. She was afraid he might disturb things and make them a little disorderly. I ask

only a little boy by saying, “And the

Miss Leonie V. Soubirou, dean of the Biola School of Missionary Medicine, confers with Dr. E. Forrest Boyd, member of the faculty. you, “What is a home for, anyway?” I know a very fine Christian young man who has some very deep seated problems in his inner soul. Although his pattern of life is circumspect there are some scars on his psychological being. The background of his home was very fine with Godly parents. They, however, did not understand him. The home was a show place. The children had to play in 'the cellar or basement or go directly to their room. Woe betide them if they sat down in any other part of the house. There were covers over the furniture, cellophane still covered the lamps. Then, once every two weeks she unveiled them for a tea party so certain friends could come in and say, “My, what a wonder­ ful home you have; how beautiful, how clean it is.” This was all at the expense of her children. One of them grew up to totally repudiate the Gos­ pel. He said, “If this is the way .one is supposed to live, I don’t want to have anything more to do with the church.” The other boy used to come to me with some of his deep loneliness. He felt a sense of rejection. Problems were cre­ ated for the lives involved. Does our home belong to the chil­ dren? What about play facilities? Is there the proper amount of space for it? A few years ago in the Saturday Evening Post there was a very striking picture. The first segment showed the father sitting in his chair reading, look­ ing down at his son. The boy had some milk cartons and blocks. He was chug­ ging away playing train. The next picture showed the father greatly dis- 6

tressed. He wanted his boy to have an expensive electric train. He immedi­ ately went down to the store and picked out the best he could find. The third cartoon showed the father down on the floor playing with his little boy and the elaborate new train. The fourth picture was exactly the same as the first except that the electric train was in the comer with no fascination for the boy. He was engrossed in pushing the milk cartons and blocks once again. YOU FORGOT MY SOUL You lived next door to me for years, We shared our dreams, our joys and tears. A friend to me you were indeed, A friend who helped me when in need. My faith in you was strong and sure. We had such trust as should endure. No spats between us ever rose. Our friends were like— and so, our foes. What sadness, then my friend, to find, That after ail, you weren't so kind. The day my life on earth did end I found you weren't a faithful friend. For all those years we spent on earth You never talked of second birth. You never spoke of my lost soul, And ‘of the Christ who'd make me whole! I plead today from hell's cruel fire, And tell you now my last desire— You cannot do a thing for me— No words today my bonds will free— But— do not err, my friend again— Do all you can for souls of men. Plead with them now quite earnestly— Lest they be cast in hell with me. Children don’t need expensive toys, but they do need something. May our prayer be that God will guide us, giving discernment so that we may provide the things necessary for our children for good physical bodies to avoid all the habits of evil. May our homes be places where chil­ dren are loved, wanted, accepted and desired.

Chapter Four L iterature in the home is one of the most valuable ways of guid­ ing our children into spiritual truth. It is difficult for a young man or for a young woman to keep pure in mind and thought with all kinds of evil literature around. While speaking in a certain college a young man came to me and said, “I ’m deeply troubled. I have developed a habit of self abuse. The reason for it is that one day I went into my fa­ ther’s room. He didn’t know that his dresser was unlocked. I knew I shouldn’t, but I began snooping about. Here I found some of his lewd pictures and magazines. I began to read them and my mind was filled with all kinds of lust. I’ve never been able to get over this terrible self abuse. How do I mas­ ter it?” We talked of the grace of our Lord Jesus Christ, about cleanliness of thought, and about controlling the mind through the power of the Holy Spirit. The cleansing power of our Lord Jesus Christ can cover every sin, but the scars of the tragedy still re­ main'. We ought to avoid bringing into our homes anything which would cause our children to have temptations in any manner. How many times do you find any­ thing that deals with the kingdom of God in the magazines and books found in the average home? How many re­ ligious periodicals do you take? Is there something that a young person can pick up to feed his soul? As parents we are also responsible for the control of these things which affect, mold and even militate against the development of the child. What about the televi­ sion? Do you just let it go on and on day after day? There was a study made in one of our children’s homes in an eastern city. A study was made of the affect ocean pictures had on the sleep habits of a child. They were not now concerned about the quality of the picture but about the excite­ ment that resulted. The group which 7

to us are a result of a lack of early love. A woman in her thirties came to me, and out of the hunger of her soul she said, “You know, it’s very difficult to believe that God loves me. My father and mother never did.” How can we show our children the love of God if we don’t reveal a true love for them individually? That is why love and discipline go together. Your child needs a sense of belonging, a sense of real love, a sense of being accepted for its own sake. At the same time, because it is a little child, bom into the world with a self-centered will, it needs discipline and correction. This is how a child begins to grow and develop when the two are in proper perspective. Tell TWO KINDS OF TROUBLE I have only two sorts of troubles; The sort I can understand, Which shows me His love and His wisdom, The tenderness of His Hand. And the other sort, far too puzzling, Too deep to be understood; Some of the precious "all things" Which work together for good. Since I've only two sorts of troubles. Easy and light is my load, And I'm casting all of my troubles On my burden-bearing God. your child you love him. We should be interested in what the child is inter­ ested in. We ought to provide an atmos­ phere of love in which the child can live. Our discipline must be consistent. The child should be taught that whin- ning gets it nothing. He will need to learn that all authority comes from the Lord. Discipline needs to come within the quiet pattern of that which is mature; not a fussing nature. Let us thank the Lord for the guid­ ance His Holy Spirit gives in this area of life. May we willingly accept the discipline of our own lives so that we may be better examples for our youth. 8

had seen these pictures during the day slept much more fitfully. What one sees can easily affect his nervous life. There is even a need to provide for the esthetic development of the child. What kind of music do we have in the home? If all your youth hears is the jive or rock ’n roll beat he will grow up to be eccentric on that point. Do we have any of the great chorales of the church? What about some sym­ phonies by Beethoven, or the Bach pre­ ludes and Chopin etudes? If you want your child to appreciate the great musi­ cal heritage of our world you must accept the responsibility and make a provision for it. The child cannot pro­ vide for itself. It does not know what a balanced diet is. I know a dear mother who happens to be the wife of a college staff man. Her children all had very difficult times. They looked weak and were troubled with various kinds of prob­ lems. We found out that this woman was giving them some form of dried ipeat for economy every day. This wasn’t enough. Today we have a vast choice of foods and vitamins. As a fa­ ther or mother we must fully provide for our children. The Scripture says that if we do not, we have actually denied the faith and are worse than an unbeliever. The Lord gave your child to you that you might provide for it all that is necessary for maturity. If that young man or young woman is to live for Jesus Christ and take his or her place in society you must make ample provi­ sion. In our next message we will touch on this more fully, however, one of our prime responsibilities is to render lov­ ing discipline (notice what kind!). The one great desire of every human heart is love. If the child ps loved and ac­ cepted, not rejected, regardless of what­ ever failures may come, they will gen­ erally be well adjusted. If the child is not accepted into the household, if it doesn’t have sense of belonging he will be warped as long as he lives. In the counselling ministry we find that many of the lonely hearts coming

an example his dad had set. Every child hungers for love. In our home town a father and a mother were constantly quarrelling. Finally they decided to separate. The mother be­ came enamoured of another man. In her sinfulness she decided to abandon her husband and four children. Her husband said, “Sweetheart, I love you. I want you to stay with the children.” She said, “No, I don’t love you, and I don’t want any of you any more.” His natural question was, “Well, what can I do for the children? How can I pro­ vide for them? I can’t stay at home. They need a mother.” She didn’t care. She abandoned them all. The youngest was a little boy only a few months old. The father, not wanting to give up his children for adoption, decided he would put them in foster homes. This little lad was taken by a godly Chris­ tian family. There they loved him and he came to think of them as his real father and mother. He lived there for something over four years. Then the father decided that he would remarry. He began to collect his children from foster homes. But now, the real mother jealously came back into the picture. She insisted on having the right of taking the children at least part of the time. By some strange miscarriage of justice she was given the privilege. The little lad was badgered between his own mother who had abandoned him and his new step mother. His fos­ ter mother, whom he counted as his real mother, was never seen. He lan­ guished and became weaker and weak­ er. Finally he was hospitalized and died. One of the medical men said to me, “We had an autopsy and the only thing we could sort out was that this little child died of a broken heart. He no longer wanted to live.” In a hospital in New York City they have some young men and women whose chief function it is just to love the sick boys and girls. They are not there to give injections or to carry on any kind of medical care. Their one and only job is love. An. interesting thing took place in one of our local courts. There was a 9

Chapter Five W hile flying to speak at a Boston college I selected Luke’s gospel as a study for my devotions. A passage struck my eye concerning Zacharias and the birth of John the Baptist. He, of course, was the forerunner of our Saviour, preaching the baptism of re­ pentance and salvation. In speaking of John’s -purpose in coming, the Scrip­ ture states that one of his ‘ministries was “to turn the hearts of the fathers to the children, and the disobedient to walk in the wisdom of the just.” The last two verses of Malachi declare, “Behold, I will send you Elijah, the prophet, before the coming of the great and dreadful day of the Lord: And he shall turn the hearts of the fathers to the children, and the hearts of the children to their fathers, lest I come and smite the earth with a curse.” The real hunger in every human soul is for love. The Lord has made us this way. There are hearts hungry for the love of a father and mother and for the fellowship of a real home. We are restless until we find this because it is a foretaste of the love of God manifest in Jesus Christ and through the life and soul of a human being. The Bibli­ cal concept of parenthood is not that the father and the mother are purely responsible for the life of the child but that the parents are to be guides and overseers to bless, love and direct the lives of their children. One of the students at Bethel College, in St. Paul, was going out in the sum­ mer to reach the lives of some of the young people in his home town. He sought to cultivate their friendship by playing baseball with them. Then he began to talk to them about the Lord Jesus Christ as Saviour. He spoke of the real meaning of the love of Christ in their lives. He told them about God, our heavenly Father. One boy’s face clouded and out of the deep trouble of his soul he said, “What did you say? If God is anything like my old man, you can keep Him!” What

young man who was a juvenile delin­ quent. Brought up before the judge for the second time, parole was not possi­ ble. The judge said, “I must sentence you to a correctional institution.” His father was an upstanding and respected man in our community. The jurist continued, “Son, why have you done this? There isn’t anything that your father and mother wouldn’t do for you. Here you’ve broken their hearts. There’s your mother weeping and your father deeply grieved. Why have you done this?” The boy spoke up, “Your honor, you’ve asked me. It’s true there wasn’t anything my father wouldn’t do for me but there was nothing my fa­ ther ever did with me. All I wanted was my father’s love and affection. There was not friendship or under­ standing. He thought he could buy things and satisfy his own conscience. I sought my companionship elsewhere. I will pay my price; I will not whim­ per. But ask yourself who is really guilty.” You may ask, “But how do you love a child?” The first thing is that you must communicate with him. Tell him that you love him and mean it. Provide an atmosphere of love in which he finds acceptance. Let your love be poured out without selfish concern. And what will be your pattern? The Lord Jesus Christ Himself. He will give you the power, too, as you seek it through His Word and by the in­ dwelling presence of the Holy Spirit. * * * It's not true that an individual has a dynamic personality just because he's always explod­ ing. ■ * * * Redemption was not an after thought with God. * * * Tact has been described as the ability to close your mouth before someone wants to do it for you. * . * * Some people spend their whole lifetime fool­ ishly developing one part of their bodies . . . the wishbone! * * * The hardest tumble any person can take is to fall over his own bluff.

Chapter Six O n e of the most idyllic pictures in the entireNewTestament is the love Joseph reveals for his spouse, Maiy, thé mother of our Lord Jesus Christ. The first two chapters of Matthew, and Luke two, are beautiful. When Jesus was a boy about twelve He was already carrying on a ministry. His mother and father were astonished. Mary said, “Son, why hast thou so dealt with us? Behold thy father and I sought thee sorrowing.” And He said unto her, “How is it that you sought me? Did you not know that I must be in my Father’s house?” And they understood not the saying that he spake unto them. Joseph and Mary were concerned about Jesus as an earthly little boy. Not only did they have love for one another but also for the child. This is the kind of an atmosphere which is a priceless heritage for any youngster. When a child does not have such love he hun­ gers for it. I was visiting in a State institution in Des Moines, Iowa one day to pick up a friend who had a mentally un­ balanced child in one of the buildings. Asking for the friend I was told he was probably with his child. The fam­ ily tried to keep the lad at home for several years. They didn’t know how to care for him properly. When he got out of hand the doctor told them it would be better for him to be, in the institution. In the building where I looked for my friend there were 40 boys and girls. They ranged from the ages of 8 to 12 years. Turning from the main walk two children burst out. They took me by the hand and dragged me up the stairs and inside the build­ ing, chattering as they went. “You came to see us, didn’t you? You came to see us.” When I got inside the door, I was thronged with little children. They grasped me around my knees, hugged me and showered me with love. One little child, a little older and more bold than the others, reached up and stroked my chin and out of the loneli- 10

ness of her heart said, “You came to see us, didn’t you, because you really love us.” My heart was heavy as I saw these who were starved for human affection. A child doesn’t need to be in an institution to have this happen. He may be living in a home where there is no love. There was a woman of mature years who had just buried her mother. She cried to my wife, “Just before my mother died, she said to me, ‘Esther, I’ve always loved you!’ That’s the first time I ever remember my mother say­ ing she loved me.” The woman had been involved in many patterns of life which were not of the highest char­ acter and chastity. One of her real hungers was to be loved. There are some children who do not remember that their father and mother ever took them around the shoulders- and gave them a quiet hug. Have you ever told your child, “You’re so sweet. I’m glad the Lord gave you into our home.” Many a father restrains himself in tell­ ing his boy, “I ’m so glad you’re my son. The Lord has been good to give you to us. We love you.” A minister, troubled, burdened and sorrowing came to my office one day, broken hearted. His child, a teenage girl, was found with child out of wed­ lock. He wanted to know if he should resign; was his ministry ruined? He said, “You know we were so busy about many things that we didn’t take time for our children. Our daughter has sought companionship somewhere else. Now - she has an illegitimate child. What must I do?” I said, “The first thing you must do is to love her tender­ ly. She needs your care, hot your ostra­ cism.” We prayed and he decided and vowed that he would become the kind of a father, even in this tragic crisis, that he ought to have been all along. I related this to my wife and daughter without mentioning any names. Daugh­ ter was frying some potatoes and onions in the kitchen. I went out to speak to her quietly. I said, “My dear, I hope and pray you will be protected and guided by our dear Saviour, so that you’ll never fall into this kind of sin.

But if you do, I shall love you, my child, until you die.” She kissed me on the forehead and said, “Father, that’s one of the reasons why it’s such a joy to live in this home. Here we are all loved.” What a priceless treasure. My boys all used, to make a “chug.” That is made from an old broken down washing machine. It is put on a board with four wheels and chugs down the JESUS MAY COME TODAY If Jesus should come on a Sunday, Would He find me keeping His day Sacred to praise and worship. Learning of Him how to pray? If Jesus should come on a Monday, Would He find me unburdened, ser­ ene. Busy with work in my kitchen, Washing my garments clean? If Jesus should come on a Tuesday, Would He find me going about Soothing the sick and the weary, Dispelling sorrow and doubt? If Jesus should come on a Wednesday, Would He find me cheerful and neat - Ironing, sewing and sweeping But ready His presence to greet? If Jesus should come on a Thursday, Would He find me telling the truth To wondering innocent children Or to those in the bloom of youth? If Jesus should come on a Friday, Would He find my friends true and dear, Talking of things pure and holy, Bringing them hope and good cheer? If Jesus should come on a Saturday, It needs must be one of the seven, Would He find me loving and serving, Waiting for Him and for heaven? alley. You could probably crawl down the alley faster than the thing could go, but it was a lot of- fun. Are you interested in that which interests your children? Some day those sons, because you helped them when they were little boys, will listen to you when you give them advice on moral problems and a direction for life which is based upon the Word of God. 11

as my Saviour.’ Dr. Smith, I thought he would pray with me; I thought he’d put his arm around me and maybe say, ‘Well, son, I’m glad that you’ve come to this decision.’ But he didn’t. He stood up, put his finger out at me aiid angrily said, ‘Now you’re going to do what I tell you. Now you’re going to be obedient. You’ll have to be or you’ll be a hypocrite.’ He’s been badgering me about it for about six months. Now, I’ve given it all up. I don’t even know whether God exists and frankly, I’m not sure I even care. I just want to get away from it all!” I knew his father. He didn’t need to tell me that he was a fine, clean, up­ standing man in the community and church. He taught a Sunday school class and was a member of the choir. Yet his son felt rejected and wanted to run away. What a tragic situation with which to be confronted. There was a wide gap between the two with a lack of understanding and communication. Some churches are just too busy. They have meetings on Monday, Tues­ day, Wednesday, Thursday, Friday, Saturday and Sunday. This was not our Lord’s intention. The church is not to be an end in itself. It is sup­ posed to be an institution where, with prayer and exhortation and the read­ ing and preaching of the Word, we have fellowship together. It is to be a place where we may grow and mature in Christ. Sometimes we become so enamoured with our own goals that we forget that the prime responsibility of any man or woman who has a child is the child himself. If a mother has to work that is one thing. But if she'is working merely be­ cause she wants more of the things of society then that is an altogether wrong motive. How many children come home to an empty house. Or they come in the evening and since the mother has been working all day, she is tired and irrit­ able. Instead of being a lovely, kind gracious mother sharing the common joys, play and fellowship with her child, she is cross and mean. The child grows up in an atmosphere where there is no real love. A preacher friend ’of mine was en

Chapter Seven I n the New Testament there are some very glorious experiences recorded between men who had affection one for another. Perhaps most outstanding is that of the aged Apostle for his son in the Lord, Timothy. The Holy Spirit caused Paul to write, “Unceasingly I remember you in my prayers night and day, longing to see thee, remem­ bering thy tears, that I may be filled with joy.” It was because of this atmosphere Timothy grew to be a strong man in Jesus Christ. The love of a father for his son has kept many a boy steadfast. Conversely, the lack of it has turned many a son away from Jesus Christ. Our heavenly Father expects us to love our children. A young man came to me one Satur­ day morning. He had waited several weeks until he was sure I was home. His first remark was, “You’ll probably think I’m a silly kid. You see, I want to run away from home. I don’t think my father loves me. He’s never ever told me he loves me. I know my moth­ er loves me and I’m afraid if I’d run away it would break her heart. My father wouldn’t care. He’s always yack­ ing at me, anyway. Dr. Smith, I’m not a bad boy. Oh, maybe I don’t keep myself as orderly as I should, $ don’t study as much as I should, and some of those other little things, but I’m not a bad boy. I remember the time I went to a youth rally. When they gave the invitation I thought I loved the Lord, but I decided maybe I didn’t because of the way my father talked to me. So I went forward, kneeling, and I found, again the quiet assurance that Jesus Christ loves me. I came home that night.. My father was sitting in the easy chair in the living room. He was reading when I entered. I thought he would thank me now; maybe he would even express appreciation. So I walked up and said, ‘Dad, I did something to­ night I think will make you happy. I went forward and accepted Christ

gaged in an itinerant ministry and was away most of -the time. When he came home between meetings his family was delighted to see him. One time when he had to leave, his young son said, “Father, you’re not going again are you? Why don’t you live with us like other fathers?” He said kindly and understandingly, “I’m doing this be­ cause I love the Lord and want men to be saved. You love Jesus, don’t you?” The little boy had tears in his eyes as he responded, “I’m not sure, ’cause it’s Jesus who’s taking you away from me.” This man wisely gave up his wide spread ministry. He had to be with his child to understand and love him. There are some fathers who have never spent an hour or two with their sons in a single week since they were bom. Then they wonder why the boys turn out as they do. When they do what happens? In Chicago a father came up to me after a meeting. It was right after the Christmas holidays sev­ eral years ago. He said, “You know, ‘Doc,’ it’s beginning to pay off. My son was home from the army and told me, ‘Dad, there are all kinds of corrup­ tion and evil in the service. A guy is tempted in many ways. But when this happens, I just remember the times you and I played and had fellowship together. You lived like Christ, dad. Then I say to myself, ‘You can’t do that. You’d break your dad’s heart.’ Yes, ‘Doc,’ it’s all beginning to pay off!” Have we fathers so loved our chil­ dren that they seek to become like us? You were given of the Lord to your child to love him and to provide for him. May God give us grace to be the kind of parents he would have us be. h * * When we hold the torch to light an­ other's path we will always brighten our own. * * * While it's a good idea to get in and dig, be sure you're careful not to throw the dirt, * * * There's only one real piece of advice to give about prayer and that's to practice it.

Chapter Eight T he L ord gave very specific instruc­ tions to the Jewish people concern­ ing their responsibilities as parents. In Deuteronomy, the sixth chapter, we read, “Hear, 0 Israel: The Lord our God is one Lord: And thou shalt love the Lord thy God with all thy heart, and with all thy soul, and with all thy might. And these words, which I command thee this day, shall be in thine heart: And thou shalt teach them diligently unto thy children, and shalt talk of them when thou sittest in thine house, and when thou walkest by the way, and when thou liest down, and when thou risest up.” What a tightly knit group this suggests in a fellow­ ship which engenders faith and love. It was about 5:30 one particular day when I came home between work and heading out to a banquet on the other side of Minneapolis. I had only about a half an hour to get dressed and freshen up. Just as I was entering the back door, my little fellow said, “Say, father, would you be willing to fix my bike chain right now?” I wondered to myself, “Who has time for bike chains?” My boy continued, “You know it’s been broken for two days. Tomorrow is Saturday and I sure need it.” “Let’s have a look, son.” I got off my pastoral garb and put on some old duds. We went up to the hardware store for a couple of links. But when we got home we found out somebody had made a mistake and had given us two different sizes. So we went back for the right ones. When I had finished, I had him take a spin around the block just to make sure it worked. My reward was his words, “Oh father, I’m so glad you took the time to fix my bike chain. I sure think you’re swell!” When I got to the banquet they were having the dessert. The man who was in charge thought he was going to have to make the speech. I told him I had a little emergency; a broken bike chain. “You didn’t have to come on a bicycle, did you?” he asked unbelievingly. 13

Not only are fathers and mothers to love their children, but also each child is to live in an atmosphere of love. That is why Paul says, “Husbands love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church.” Wives, on the other hand, are to love their husbands and to be in submission to them. No matter how much a parent may love a child there is a great blight if he does not love the mother. The same is conversely true. Young people will sometimes say to me, “My father and my mother quarrel all the time.” Dear mothers and fa­ thers, do we really love one another as Christ intended? This is not merely a sentimental romantic attachment. That is naturally involved in the marriage vows and relationship. Sometimes we get the impression that all the problems of the home are because parents do not live a righteous life. This is not true. There are a good many respectable people who have never understood real love. Paul wrote to the Corinthian church that love is kind, love doesn’t compile statistics on another’s errors. Love tries to find a way to be constructive, bears all things, believes the good and doesn’t gloat over the evil. Love lasts forever because it is focalized in our Lord. A minister once confessed to me, “You know, my wife died just a few months ago. I’m deeply troubled and convicted. She had a complete mental breakdown and died in an institution. When I went to' call on her in the psychopathic ward of the hospital, I handed her a glass of orange juice. She looked at me and threw it in my face. She said, ‘You’re my problem. You’ve been the great big I am. You’ve wanted everything you saw for your­ self. You’ve been the leader. You’ve never loved other people and you’ve never loved me. I’ve been patient and have borne it. Now I’m broken. I know I’m mentally gone. I know I’ll never get well. That’s because I don’t want to get well. I want to go home with Jesus Christ. He’ll love me even if you didn’t. If you hand me a glass of orange juice or water again I’ll throw it in your face. I want to teach you the

judgment of a husband who didn’t love his wife.’ ” Oh, my.friend, how tragic this picture, the home of a minister of the Gospel of our Lord Jesus Christ. We need to remember that romance is a tender flower which can die very quickly. We ought to be careful to make love to our wives; take them out to dinner; give them a box of candy; take them some flowers; court them. If we love one another we won’t be living in a continual state of bickering and quarrelling. A child in the home sees much more GRACE TODAY HeJp me to place in Thy hands today the things that my heart most fears. Tomorrow's anguish and bitter pain, tomorrow's sorrows and tears. The long, long years and the loneli­ ness, the silence, the vacant chair. The grief of today is enough dear Lord but tomorrow's I cannot bear. Ease Thou my burden and lighten my load, till only today is left. Soft comes His voice in the hush of my soul, "O broken-hearted, bereft, My grace is sufficient for Thee today, pillow upon my breast, Thy weary head in my encircling arms today, thou shalf find rest. Today I can meet thine every need, today my love can fill The echoing chambers of Thy heart, then rest thee and be still. Be still and trust. Tomorrow's tears may all be wiped away By God Himself. O grieving heart Thy Lord may come today! than we realize. They understand whether we really love one another or not. Mary must have loved Joseph, and Joseph must have had a great deal of understanding love for his wife. Do you husbands love your wives and do you wives love your husbands? Is there an atmosphere of love together in the home? In this atmosphere we are ready to discipline them in love that has a solid and a firm foundation. 14

least when I do these things my mother beats me. Then I get her attention.” You see, a little child understands that he needs discipline and he wants this. No child lives normally in a society in which he is permitted to do anything he wants to do. If a child never leams the “No” of an earthly parent, it is difficult for him to understand thè “No” of the society in which he lives. We, as parents, need to lay down the guide lines. We should lay down a line to the right and a line to the left and then say to our children, in effect, “You can wobble around inside these two walls but over this side you do not go.” Moral values are not something one leams automatically. We all must learn that the good brings its rewards, and that the evil is punished. There are certain ethics and traditions by which all must abide based on laws, culture, heritage and divine sovereignty. The Scriptures deal with this constantly. The Lord spoke to the young lad Samuel, “Behold, I will do a thing in Israel, at which both the ears of every one that hears it shall tingle. In that day, I will perform against Eli all things which I have spoken con­ cerning his house: When I begin, I will also make an end.” Eli was the preacher and had two sons who were wicked men. Instead of disciplining his sons he reaped a whirlwind of tragedy to himself as well as to the house of Israel. The Lord continues, “For I have told him that I will judge his house for ever for the iniquity which he knoweth; because his sons made them­ selves vile, and he restrained them not. And therefore I have sworn unto the house of Eli, that the iniquity of Eli’s house shall not be purged with sacri­ fice nor offering for ever.” May God help us to so live as Christ would have us live that it would never be true in our lives. * * * A chip on the shoulder will generally indicate that there'swood up higher. * * * Counting time is not so important as making the time count.

Chapter Nine E very parent needs to understand that love without discipline is pure sentiment. Discipline without love is tyranny. They both need to be com­ bined into one individual who, him­ self, has been dedicated to the Lord. A father or mother in the home have the ideal circumstance in which to dis­ cipline, guide and direct a child. This is the manner in which God ordained that the home should be established. Because the parents provide for the child they establish a real understand­ ing. They are able to gain confidence and acceptance. Discipline can natural­ ly follow. How many of our discipline prob­ lems are accentuated in the home if there is not real love, if the child feels he is deprived of the normal affection and attention the father and mother should give him. It may be the father is too busy. Perhaps the mother has too many outside activities. The moth­ er may be so concerned about the tasks of life that she is irritable in the pres­ ence of the children. Sometimes this is true when a child is bom late in life. There was a little son born into a certain home who was totally rejected. The boy grew up with all kinds of inner frustrations and problems. He didn’t feel wanted. One reason for the juvenile gangs is because they are seek­ ing for a sense of belonging. It is a need every human being experiences. If a child is a part of the home where father loves mother and mother loves father and together they love the child, then this is the foretaste of glory and harmony. There is nothing so wonder­ ful in all the world as a loving home where Christ is honored and where we live as joint heirs of the grace of God together. In such an atmosphere dis­ cipline is not only accepted, it is readi­ ly expected; it is what the child wants. There was a little girl who was guilty of stealing. She also had some other bad moral problems. When coun­ seled, the pitiful lass said, “Well, at

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