The husband gives himself to his wife, loves her and ensures that all her needs are provided for—placing his wife’s needs before his own. Do - ing so gives his wife confidence and the feeling of security that strength- ens their relationship. The loving husband will do all he can to help his wife reach her full potential. As a bird watcher I have noticed a male Pileated Woodpecker feed- ing his mate, by the way they mate for life and are monogamous. This feeding is called Courtship Feed- ing: males feed females to estab - lish or reinforce their bond. As I was watching, the female was on the same limb the male was on, and both were close to the suet I had for them. But the male would go to the suet and bring some back to the female and feed her. He was doing something she could do for herself.
Consider the Bible’s definition of a Godly wife, found in Proverbs 31. Proverbs 31 describes a woman who is the ultimate helpmate, one who supports her husband and chil - dren. She is a hard worker engaging in business, purchasing real estate, and producing goods for profit. She speaks with wisdom and teaches with kindness. She carries herself with strength and dignity, and she cares for the poor and needy. Any man desiring a Proverbs 31 woman, must be a Proverbs 31 man to attract such a woman. Every man should examine himself to see how they measure up to Proverbs 31. Communication is Key Before marriage, while dating, cou- ples can’t wait to get together and talk. Before marriage they find themselves talking a lot, but this soon diminishes after a few years of marriage. Communication must continue throughout the marriage. The couple must continue to learn from one another, taking time to share their thoughts and feelings, their dreams, and their goals. Al- ways, having as their main goal, the Kingdom of God and His righteous- ness. Many marriages fail because of a lack of communication. Problems
will always arise in marriage and of necessity there will have to be communication. Sometimes dis- agreements occur and the talks turn into arguments and fighting. This is not communication! Nothing pro - ductive ever comes from that. If the arguing continues, both must repent and make a point to apologize im- mediately. Jesus Christ has been invited into the lives of His people, He is in the house, and He sees and hears every ungodly conversation. Couples should ask Him to guide their communication. Husbands and wives should speak pleasantly to each other. Husbands should be extra careful of how they treat their wives. If the husband feels the need to raise his voice, it would be better if he went outside to yell at the moon—never at his wife. A Husband is to love his wife as Christ loves His church which means Christ also loves their wife! I Peter 3:7 the apostle Peter in - structs: Husbands, likewise, dwell with them with understanding, giving honor to the wife, as to the weaker vessel, and as being heirs together of the grace of life, that your prayers may not be hindered. Continued on Page 11
A loving husband serves his wife, doing something special for her that she could do for herself, letting her know she is a special treasure to him. Wives have a vital role in building and supporting the family in a va - riety of important ways the husband cannot. She can make the house a home.
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