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FEBRUARY • 2025

February | 2025 | Volume 6 | Issue 2

58. LIFE If These Walls Could Talk 62. SHARE THE LOVE Milestones

10. POLITICS The 2025 Tax Showdown 13.

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38. cover/LIFE Born with a Broken Heart 48. STYLE Log Cabin Love

26. CULTURE A Bountiful Harvest 34. ENTERTAINMENT Good Evening TXK

64. THE MONTHLY MIX Let the Good Times Roll 66. TXK ROOTS Riley Goodman Moody

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What NFL team would you join?

CASSY MEISENHEIMER My son insists I can only be a Dallas Cowboy— but I am calling dibs on the team from the early ’90s! Now, someone hand me a Starter jacket.

TERRI SANDEFUR I guess the Colts since I was a peewee football cheerleader for them.

ALANA MOREL I would join the Cowboys—not for

KARA HUMPHREY I would be on the 1998- 2011 Colts because I want to be best friends with Peyton Manning. He seems like the coolest guy.

football, though! Sign me up as “America’s Sweetheart.” I practice my high kicks every time I hear Thunderstruck!

MATT CORNELIUS Most definitely the Cowboys… Even if I messed up, no one would notice. It’s a win-win!

LEAH ORR I would play for the Chiefs, so my daughter might have a chance to meet Taylor Swift.

BRITTANY ROBLES Miami Dolphins, because

CARLA DUPREE Detroit Lions! Total respect for the turnaround made under Dan Campbell’s leadership and he looks like my brother! Also, I love Kid Rock, and Kid Rock loves the Lions. So yeah, put me in Coach Campbell!

there is no team with a sloth as a mascot.

LIZ FLIPPO The Flippo house doesn’t follow professional football, but sign me up for the Razorbacks any day. Go Hogs!

LESLI FLOWERS When I got married, I dropped the team I was raised on, the Cowboys,

BAILEY GRAVITT I’d join the Dallas Cowboys because I hear they are always looking for new talent to disappoint their fans.

for my husband’s lifelong team. He’s

passed the fanaticism on to my son, so I would join the Indianapolis Colts to make them proud. Go Horse!

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D id anyone else feel like they were not ready for January to arrive, only for it to disappear in the blink of an eye? I am still a little salty about Thanksgiving being so late—it completely threw off my rhythm for the holiday season. Add in the most underwhelming snow day ever, and it did not feel like the new year had truly begun until we were halfway through the first month. But here we are, already in February. This month brings big changes for our family. My husband is starting a new job after working eight wonderful years at Texarkana Funeral Home. We are so grateful to Vickers and Thomas Fuqua for leading a locally owned business that has been more like a second family to us. Their support and kindness will always hold a special place in our hearts. While this transition is bittersweet, sometimes life surprises you with opportunities you never saw coming. Now, we are excited to cheer on the Texas A&M–Texarkana Eagles as Fred joins their team. Here’s to new adventures and new friendships. We are also celebrating another big change—my dad recently got married! Seeing him find his perfect match in Ginger has been such a blessing. He has achieved so much as a business owner, but watching the happiness and light Ginger has brought to his personal life has by far been my favorite thing. She was the missing piece we didn’t even know our family puzzle needed, and we are beyond grateful to welcome her into our family.

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February, a month dedicated to love and heart health, feels like the perfect time to share truly inspiring stories. Don’t miss Vonnie Hale’s incredible journey. It is a teen romance turned lifelong partnership with her husband, a local cardiologist, Dr. Seth Hale, who has been her steady anchor through life’s scariest moments battling a “broken” heart. It is a beautiful reminder that God goes before us, preparing the way. I also have to mention we had the best time during her photoshoot. Her bright and kind personality shined through every photo and outfit change. We are also spotlighting the Honorable Evelyn Palfrey McKee, whose extraordinary journey took her from Paul Laurence Dunbar, to the courtroom seated on the bench, and later, to writing romance novels fit for the “marvelously mature.” As always, this issue is packed with features we know you will enjoy. Bailey Gravitt and Liz Flippo share their fabulous columns, and we are showcasing a stunning cabin renovation by local designer Brittany Brooks. For those caring for senior family members, our Senior Living section is filled with helpful tips and resources. There is definitely something for everyone. We poured so much love into this issue, and we are endlessly thankful for every reader and advertiser who makes that possible. Your support allows us to do what we love, and for that, we are truly grateful. All my love,

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THE 2025 TAX SHOWDOWN WHY CONGRESS MUST EXTEND THE TCJA BY NATHANIEL MORAN, UNITED STATES REPRESENTATIVE, TEXAS FIRST CONGRESSIONAL DISTRICT

T his year, there will be two Super Bowls for Americans to watch. One will be played on a physical field made of artificial turf, highlighting two high-caliber professional football teams, while the other—something I like to call the “Super Bowl of Tax Policy”—will be played on the political field of Washington, D.C., highlighting two very different economic philosophies. One pushing higher taxes and more government spending, and the other one fighting to reduce the tax burdens on Americans. I, of course, will be on the side of lower taxation. I will stand for increased freedom from the burden of government. I will also support hard-working East Texas families and their businesses. While it may lack the glitz and glamor of its sporting counterpart, the political Super Bowl of Tax Policy will be far more significant to the future of America’s economy and the financial security of its citizens than the one played on the gridiron. This battle will be especially crucial as provisions of President Donald Trump’s 2017 Tax Cuts and Jobs Act (TCJA), which brought significant tax reforms under the first Trump Administration, are set to expire on December 31, 2025, potentially reshaping the financial landscape for millions of Americans and small businesses. If Congress does nothing (which it is good at doing), the result will be a de facto tax increase of $4.6 trillion in 2026—the largest tax increase in American history. So, inaction is not an option. In 2017, President Trump signed into law one of the most comprehensive tax reforms and tax cuts this nation has seen since the days of President Ronald Reagan in 1986—the TCJA. The TCJA was the result of a multi-year tax reform process that simplified

taxes for small businesses and families and lowered the corporate tax rate from 35% to 21%, making the U.S. more competitive and encouraged companies to bring profits back to America. Before this 2017 tax reform package, American companies paid the second highest corporate tax rate of any country across the globe—second only to Japan. At the time, the U.S. corporate tax rate was even ten percent higher than the corporate tax rate of 25% imposed by the Chinese Communist Party. This disparity undercut our global competitiveness and drove businesses to move overseas. But, after the TCJA, businesses stayed put in the U.S., and American families took home more of their hard-earned money. And—not surprisingly—after the TCJA went into effect, the economy grew by more than 1% above its predicted growth, which resulted in higher aggregate revenue receipts. America witnessed firsthand, real, tangible growth due to a lower tax rate that made doing business in America competitive again. And, the TCJA benefited every sector of the economy, particularly lower- and middle-class families, by lowering taxes and contributing to a strong, stable economy. This led to wage growth and the creation of 5.8 million jobs in the 28 months following its passage. The unemployment rate dropped dramatically, reaching 3.5% in September 2019—the lowest level since 1969. Additionally, real median household income hit an all- time high of $78,250 in 2019, growing by more than 8.5% from 2017 to 2019. If the TCJA were to expire on December 31, 2025, tax hikes would take a significant toll on American families and workers. In Texas alone, the average taxpayer would face a 23% hike in their

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tax bill. A family of four in Texas, with a median income of $75,780, would see a $1,550 tax increase—roughly equivalent to nine weeks’ worth of groceries. Twenty-six million small businesses would also be hit with a 43.4% tax rate, severely impacting workers and families across the country who are already dealing with rising living costs. These looming tax hikes will impose severe financial burdens on hardworking families and small businesses, making it critical for the 119th Congress to address this before the 2025 deadline to protect taxpayers from burdensome tax increases. There are several significant components to restoring fiscal sanity to the federal government—addressing mandatory spending (which accounts for nearly 75% of all spending by the federal government annually), reigning in discretionary spending, reducing government bureaucracy and regulations, and reducing the national debt, to name a few. But maintaining the Trump Tax Cuts

is crucial for addressing these matters and ensuring long-term economic growth. Failing to act now to prevent the TCJA from expiring would be detrimental to the United States, as it will lead to tax increases that will further burden East Texans, reduce disposable income, kill growing businesses, slow down economic growth, and minimize the influence of America globally. Our innovation, entrepreneurial spirit, and hard work have always set us apart from the rest of the world. And, we need to reward and incentivize such characteristics, not tax them into oblivion. If we fail to act, Americans will face significant tax hikes in 2026. This means less liberty, and Congress cannot allow that to happen. We must take decisive steps to extend these tax cuts and ensure that taxes and regulations remain low for both individuals and businesses. I am committed to making that happen for every East Texas family. Stand with me.

Nathaniel Moran, United States Representative, Texas First Congressional District

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Life in the golden years is about celebrating the journey and enjoying the rewards of a well-lived life. This special section is dedicated to supporting seniors and their loved ones with resources and inspiration to make these years fulfilling, secure, and vibrant. Senior living facilities play a crucial role in this stage of life, offering tailored environments that prioritize safety, comfort, and community. From independent living communities to assisted living and memory care options, these facilities provide a range of services to meet the unique needs of older adults. They also offer opportunities that can significantly enhance quality of life. Aging is not about slowing down—it’s about living fully. Whether you are exploring new hobbies, connecting with family and friends, or considering the benefits of senior living facilities, every step forward is an opportunity to thrive. Let this section inspire and guide you to make this chapter as fulfilling as possible. Embracing the Golden Years

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HEALTH AND WELLNESS Regular Health Checkups Schedule routine visits to healthcare providers for preventive care and managing chronic conditions. Stay informed about telehealth options for added convenience. Medication Management Use digital tools or apps to track medications, understand dosages, and avoid drug interactions. Physical Activity Incorporate safe, tailored exercise routines to maintain mobility, strength, and balance. Consider fitness classes designed for seniors. Nutrition Follow a balanced diet that addresses the specific nutritional needs of older adults. Seek advice from a dietitian for specialized dietary requirements. SAFETY AND SECURITY Home Safety Make modifications to prevent falls, such as grab bars, non- slip flooring, and adequate lighting. Install smart security and emergency response systems for added peace of mind. Online Security Stay vigilant against scams and fraud, using password managers and updated antivirus software. (See page 22 for more information.)

Emergency Preparedness Create an updated plan for natural disasters, power outages, and medical emergencies. Ensure it is accessible and well-communicated to family members. SOCIAL ENGAGEMENT AND MENTAL HEALTH Staying Connected Engage in regular social activities with family, friends, and local senior groups. Utilize technology, like video calls, to maintain relationships. Mental Stimulation

Participate in activities like puzzles, reading, classes, or learning new hobbies to keep the mind sharp. Mental Health Resources Watch for signs of depression or anxiety and seek professional support when needed. FINANCIAL PLANNING Budgeting and Managing Finances

Consult a financial advisor for help with managing retirement funds, budgeting, and understanding benefits like Social Security. Estate Planning Prepare wills, trusts, and directives for healthcare and finances. Regularly review and update these documents.

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HELPFUL NUMBERS UTILITIES ELECTRICITY AEP Southwestern Electric Power Company (SWEPCO)........................................................................... 888-216-3523 Bowie-Cass Electric Cooperative, Inc. ........................903-846-2311 Southwest Arkansas Electric Cooperative .................870-772-2743 GAS Fricks Butane Gas Inc. ..................................................... 870-774-5892 Summit Utilities ................................................................. 800-992-7552 Texarkana Propane ...........................................................903-334-7778 WATER Texarkana Water Utilities ...............................................903-798-3800 TELEPHONE Kinetic by Windstream ...................................................903-704-0016 Southwest Arkansas Phone Cooperative (SWAT).................................................................................870-653-8222 Sparklight ............................................................................903-838-2225 WASTE Richardson Waste Inc. ......................................................870-779-1429 Waste Management ......................................................... 903-794-4111 CABLE TV/ INTERNET Kinetic by Windstream .................................................. 844-704-0016 Sparklight ............................................................................903-838-2225 SERVICES EMERGENCY DIAL 911 Crimestoppers ................................................................... 903-793-7867 POLICE DEPARTMENTS Texarkana, Arkansas Police Department ................... 903-798-3130 Texarkana, Texas Police Department .......................... 903-798-3116 CITY OFFICES City of Texarkana, Arkansas .......................................... 870-779-4991 City of Texarkana, Texas .................................................903-798-3900 ANIMAL SERVICES Arkansas ..............................................................................870-773-6388 Texas .................................................................................... 903-798-3535 BIRTH & DEATH RECORDS Arkansas .............................................................................. 870-779-4995 Texas .................................................................................... 903-798-3911 FIRE DEPARTMENTS Arkansas .............................................................................. 870-779-4967 Texas .................................................................................... 903-798-3994 HEALTH DEPARTMENTS Bowie County .................................................................... 903-798-3250 Miller County ..................................................................... 870-773-2108 INSPECTIONS Arkansas .............................................................................. 870-779-4977 Texas .................................................................................... 903-798-3912 MUNICIPAL COURT Arkansas .............................................................................. 903-798-3017 Texas .................................................................................... 903-798-3010

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MOBILITY AND TRANSPORTATION Public Transportation Options Research and arrange senior-friendly transportation for errands, appointments, and emergencies. Driving Safety Monitor driving abilities and discuss alternatives when necessary. Explore ride-sharing services or senior-specific transportation programs. HOUSING OPTIONS Aging in Place Modify homes with safety features like ramps, wider doorways, and smart home technology for aging comfortably and independently. Retirement Communities & Independent Senior Living Explore independent living options that offer amenities such as housekeeping, dining, lawn services, and social activities. Assisted Living and Nursing Homes Research facilities offering higher levels of care, ensuring they meet specific health and lifestyle needs.

END-OF-LIFE PLANNING Advanced Healthcare Directives

Work with legal professionals to establish a living will, medical power of attorney, and other binding directives for healthcare decisions. Funeral Planning Discuss and document funeral preferences to ease decision-making for loved ones. RESOURCES AND ASSISTANCE Local Resources Compile a list of nearby senior centers, meal programs, and support groups. Keep important phone numbers easily accessible. Government Programs Understand benefits from Medicare, Medicaid, and other assistance programs. Keep contact information for program representatives. Legal Assistance Seek help with elder law, estate planning, and protecting senior rights.

This guide ensures seniors and caregivers are well-prepared to navigate aging in 2025 with confidence and support

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BELLA VISTA INDEPENDENT SENIOR LIVING Bella Vista Independent Senior Living offers an exceptional all- inclusive lifestyle for seniors aged 55 and up. Our vibrant community is designed to provide an independent living experience unlike any other, blending comfort, convenience, and social engagement. The Clubhouse at Bella Vista is the heart of the community where our residents have endless opportunities to socialize and make lasting friendships through community engagement and activities.

New construction two-bedroom, two bath, 985 square feet duplexes available now. Call 903-792-0243 to schedule a tour.

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ALL-INCLUSIVE MONTHLY RATE INCLUDES • Lunch • Dinner • Utilities •

Weekly Light Housekeeping

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150 BELLA VISTA CIRCLE TEXARKANA, TEXAS 75503 903-792-0243 WWW. BELLAVISTATX .COM

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Why Should You Choose HOSPICE OF TEXARKANA When Facing a Serious Illness? • We provide the Only Freestanding Hospice Care Center in our region… available exclusively to Hospice of Texarkana patients. • We provide medications, medical supplies, and medical equipment for Comfort-Directed Care . • Our Compassionate Team: Doctors, nurse practitioners, nurses, care aids, chaplains, social workers and volunteers. • Our clinicians are available to you 24 Hours a Day and seven days a week! • Our goal is for you to experience Less Emergency Room Visits and Hospitalizations by utilizing our Hospice Care Center to control pain and symptoms.

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Staying Safe Online A DIGITAL SAFETY GUIDE FOR SENIORS

In today’s world, where digital technology touches nearly every part of our lives, it is more important than ever for senior citizens to have the tools and knowledge to navigate the internet safely. The digital age brings incredible opportunities—from staying connected with loved ones to accessing vital information and services—but it also comes with unique challenges, particularly in the realm of security.

Understanding the Risks The first step to staying safe online is understanding the risks. Seniors are often targeted by online scams, phishing attempts, and fraud. Awareness of these tactics serves as the first line of defense in protecting yourself and your loved ones. Create Strong Passwords Think of your passwords as the locks on your digital front door. Strong, complex passwords are essential for keeping your accounts secure. Use a mix of letters, numbers, and symbols, and avoid using easily guessable information like birthdays or anniversaries. To simplify things, consider using a password manager to securely store and manage your passwords. Spotting and Avoiding Scams Be cautious of emails or messages that... • Request personal information. • Promise unexpected prizes or winnings. • Create a sense of urgency to act immediately. Scammers often impersonate legitimate organizations to trick you. When in doubt, do not click on any links in an email or message. Instead, visit the organization’s official website directly or call their verified contact number.

Practice Safe Browsing When shopping online or banking, always ensure the website is secure. Look for a padlock icon next to the URL and make sure it begins with “https://” (the “s” stands for secure). Keep Your Devices Updated Regularly update your software and antivirus programs. These updates often include critical security patches to protect against new threats. Enable automatic updates whenever possible to ensure you are always up to date. Social Media Safety Social media is a fantastic way to stay in touch with family and friends, but be mindful of the information you share. Adjust your privacy settings to control who can see your posts and personal details. Learn and Stay Informed Many communities and libraries offer workshops on digital literacy and online safety. Participating in these can provide valuable skills and increase your confidence when navigating the digital world.

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MCKEE ASSISTED LIVING & MEMORY CARE

McKee Assisted Living is more than just a facility—it’s a community where residents feel valued and cared for. With only 16 beds, each resident receives personalized, one-on-one care in a warm, welcoming environment. As a family-owned and operated business, McKee Assisted Living was founded with the heartfelt mission to create a space that feels like home. Owner and operator Stacy McKee, who has worked in the medical field since 2005, was inspired eight years ago to open this facility after God put this vision on her heart. Today, she is living out her dream in the facility her husband, Steve McKee, designed and built. Stacy humbly shares, “This is HIS—we are just the hands and feet.” At McKee Assisted Living, residents are embraced with love, dignity, and a sense of belonging, making it a place where comfort and care truly come together. LIMITED BEDS AVAILABLE, CALL 903-277-1298 FOR MORE INFORMATION!

ALL-INCLUSIVE MONTHLY RATE INCLUDES • Assistance with Activities of Daily Living • Housekeeping and Cleaning Services • Personal Laundry Care • Three Nutritious Meals Daily • Healthy Snacks Throughout the Day • Support with Bathing and Personal Hygiene • Help with Grooming and Dressing

1600 MOORES LANE TEXARKANA, TEXAS 75503 903-277-1298 STACY@MCKEEALF.COM

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Local Resources INDEPENDENT SENIOR LIVING Bella Vista Independent Senior Living RETIREMENT COMMUNITY Cornerstone Methodist Retirement Communities ASSISTED LIVING & MEMORY CARE McKee Assisted Living & Memory Care LONG-TERM ACUTE CARE PAM Health Specialty Hospital HOSPICE CARE CENTER Hospice of Texarkana AUDIOLOGY AND HEARING AIDS Professional Hearing Services SENIOR SERVICES & CAREGIVING RESOURCES Ark-Tex Council of Governments Area on Agency on Aging FUNERAL PLANNING Texarkana Funeral Home RETIREMENT PLANNING & WEALTH MANAGEMENT Carroll Advisory Group

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Backup Your Data Make it a habit to back up important files, such as photos, documents, and contacts. This way, you will not lose precious memories or essential information in case of a technical issue or security breach. Don’t Hesitate to Ask for Help If something online seems suspicious or confusing, reach out to a trusted family member, friend, or professional. It’s always better to double- check than risk falling victim to a scam. Embracing the Digital World The internet is an incredible resource that can enhance your life in countless ways. By taking simple but proactive steps, senior citizens can enjoy all the benefits of the digital world without fear. Remember— staying safe online is not about being scared—it is about being informed, cautious, and empowered.

Let the digital age work for you, not against you!

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The Honorable Evelyn Palfrey McKee has lived a life marked by bold moves, resilience, and heart. From her beginnings in Texarkana to a vibrant retirement as a proud grandmother in Oklahoma, McKee’s life reflects courage, perseverance, faith, and a readiness to seize new opportunities. Born in Arkansas at Dr. Jamison’s hospital—the birthplace of most Black babies in the area at the time—McKee spent much of her life in Texas, holding dear the memories of her childhood in Texarkana. One of her fondest recollections involves time spent fishing with her family at Lake Texarkana (now Wright Patman Lake). “Daddy had a boat, and we sometimes stayed overnight on the lake, my sister and I in pajamas,” she reminisces. The lake became a haven, offering cherished outings with school and church groups when city parks were off-limits to Black families. Those days on the water became priceless treasures, the kind that shape a lifetime. The beautiful Piney Woods of Northeast Texas hold a dear place in McKee’s heart. So much so that she embraced a tradition of planting a pine tree at each home she owned. Although the soil in Austin did not always cooperate, the ritual symbolized the act of staying connected to her roots and putting them down was a part of making each house a home throughout her journey.

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Perhaps the desire to stay grounded and connected to her hometown has to do with the fact that her teachers and family members served as her mentors and role models in life. When reflecting on the influence they had, she says, “Against greater deprivations and resistance than I’ve ever faced, they achieved success in various fields. They included teachers, preachers, principals, social workers, nurses, a chemist, a physicist, a Texas and United States legislator. Even a ne’er-do-well or two served as object lessons. They not only laid the groundwork for me, but insisted that, with determination and hard work, I could do anything that I set my mind to.” Following in the footsteps of her mother and her mother’s siblings, McKee attended Paul Lawrence Dunbar, the all-Black school in Texarkana, Texas, before relocating during her junior year when her father’s job required a move. Despite not graduating from Dunbar High School, her loyalty to the school remained steadfast. Over the years, when the Dunbar reunion conflicted with that of the Catholic school she attended for her senior year, McKee always chose Dunbar, missing only one or two reunions in half a century. She remembers her time at Dunbar with great fondness. “At Dunbar, my grades were based purely on merit—not race,” she says. “Those were times I didn’t have to question the fairness of my grades. They reflected the effort that I had put into the material and nothing else.” “Dunbar had its own stadium, so our football games were on Friday nights. In many towns, the Black school had games on Thursday nights in the ‘white’ stadium, as Friday nights were reserved for the white school. Michael Hurd, a Texarkana native

and sportswriter for large periodicals, wrote a book called Thursday Night Lights about those times,” she explained. McKee was fortunate to have taken piano lessons and could read music. Going into seventh grade, her parents gifted her with a flute and a book. “You can teach yourself to play the flute,” they said. She became active in the band and was a majorette, a role she loved. However, she recalls less glamorous moments, like marching behind horses in the Four States Fair Parade. “The experience put some steel in my spine that allowed me to recognize and resist intentional, or thoughtless, cruelty for the rest of my life.” Recently, McKee was thrilled to be honored as a TISD Distinguished Alumni. Imagine her joy in having her second-grade teacher, Mrs. Essie Dodd, and many former schoolmates present at the ceremony! Judge McKee was very impressed with the festivities coordinated by Shawn Edmonds and the plans Superintendent Brubaker laid out for the new Dunbar campus and the improvement of Texas High. She notes that, in her experience, the time between bond approval and the opening of new facilities has often been significantly longer in other places. Because of the move at the end of her junior year, McKee was not in TISD during integration. She attended a small Catholic school where the majority of students were white. She then went to a small Catholic college before attending Southern Methodist University (SMU) for her post-secondary studies. According to McKee, “SMU allowed Black students into theology school in 1951. The undergraduate school did not allow integration until 1962,” she explained. “By 1968, when she arrived, around 30 Black students were among the 10,000-student body.”

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Paul Laurence Dunbar High School, also known as the Dunbar Buffalos, was a high school in Texarkana, Texas, that served Black students from 1916 to 1968. The school closed in 1968 to integrate with Texas High School. The new state-of-the-art Dunbar Early Education Center will open in the Fall of 2025 and will offer an immersive and interactive learning environment. photo courtesy of TISD

Attending the small Catholic schools where most students were white helped with the transition to SMU, with the size of the student body being the only difference. She mentioned that most of the administrators and professors were welcoming or at least fair, but aside from a few friends she made, the white students treated the Black students as invisible. She recalls she never felt threatened or experienced hostility on campus but admitted that between her studies and a part-time job, she may not have had time to notice. McKee recalls the strong fraternity and sorority culture at SMU—organizations that made it clear they would not “desegregate.” Regarding this era, she said, “But remember, these were tumultuous years of public school integration, murder of Black leaders, the rise of hippie culture and Woodstock, protests against the war in Vietnam, and the murder of a Kent State student protester by a National Guardsman. At SMU, we had a lot more on our minds than joining folk parading around in Antebellum costumes and waving Confederate flags.” After graduating from SMU, McKee moved to Austin, where she built her career and life from 1971 to 2022. With her degree from a

respected university, she initially worked several jobs, garnering life experiences, such as a short-order cook, a secretary, a cashier at a cleaners, and a state employee. It was during this period that she pursued a law degree. She chose a law profession because “There is a saying (probably just among lawyers) that while lawyers were writing the Constitution, doctors were treating people with leeches. But the real deal is I had not taken enough undergraduate science to consider med school. Besides, Black lawyers were prominent in pushing for civil rights, and there was a law school right there in Austin.” Throughout her years of service in law, McKee held different positions within the profession. She began as an assistant county attorney, managing county contracts, and later opened her own private practice specializing in probate and family law. In 1989, she was appointed as a substitute judge on the Municipal Court, transitioning to a full-time judge in 1992. By 1999, McKee was appointed as Presiding Judge, a role in which she oversaw 20 judges and 150 clerks, demonstrating her leadership and organizational skills. “It was a pretty heavy responsibility, balancing the interests of the employees, the public, law enforcement, and the Bar. I like

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McKee is a native Texan who writes romantic suspense for the “marvelously matures.” She writes about issues relevant to the middle passage of life— and she has a ball doing it.

to think that I carried it with sincerity and aplomb.” She also served on several boards and commissions, including the State Bar of Texas Board of Directors. An avid reader all her life, McKee loves books, especially romance novels. But between school, work, and family, there was a time when she took leave from reading for pleasure. When she picked it up again at 45, she realized she was no longer interested in romance novels because the characters were the age of her children. This spurred her to write her own stories that would refuel her interest, and it turns out there was an entire audience who longed for stories that had characters they could identify with—as McKee calls them, the “marvelously mature.” This “marvelously mature” audience embraced her so fully that five of her novels were published, and one of them, The Price of Passion , was named a #1 Essence Magazine best-seller. “I think there were other readers like me, with a little roundness in places that used to be flat. They were yearning for stories about them, the conflicts in their lives, and in the end, a hero with a little gray at the temple.” Inspiration for these novels came from life—from her life and the lives of others. “Everyone has an interesting life,” she said, “with a measure of joy and sorrow.” In addition to her romance novels, McKee contributed to two Chicken Soup for the Soul books, both honoring women. She

explained, “ The Lady at the Bus Stop was a tribute to the women who went before me, who faced extreme obstacles, and who pressed me to move forward with grace and humility and build on the foundation they laid. Mama’s Hands was a tribute to mothers who gave up their dreams so that their daughters could achieve theirs.” While managing the responsibilities of family and a thriving law career, McKee kept the balance by “putting one foot in front of the other and doing the next thing that needed to be done.” She traveled extensively and loved it. She also enjoyed being in bookstores throughout the country among intelligent, accomplished reading women, and she never passed up an opportunity to speak at schools. Throughout her life, McKee has found fulfillment and joy in gardening, or as she says, “playing in the dirt.” “In the garden, I feel close to God. I can take one seed, add some blood, sweat, and tears, and reap a bountiful harvest to use and share. I believe that is what He wants us to do—especially the sweat and share parts.” Her pine trees may not have thrived, but her legacy—rooted in service, literature, and the communities she touched—grows tall and strong. Her advice to others about overcoming obstacles and pursuing their dreams would be, “Be persistent. Make them tell you no—until they tell you yes. Be brave, even when you don’t feel it. In the end, no matter what, unlike the lion to the wildebeest, they can’t eat you.”

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my mind was, “Why would anyone need a social media content creator at their wedding when they already have professionals in place?” But Jennifer knew what she was doing. She recognized that content creation is no longer a luxury—it is the must-have addition to any bride’s wedding day experience. When Jennifer first pitched the idea, my mind raced with self-doubt. Was I capable of delivering something professional? Sure, I had created content for my brother Parker and his wife Ally’s wedding in our granny’s backyard. I had done it again for my childhood best friend Kennedy’s wedding to Tanner. But that was just for love; this was a paid service, a whole different ball game. Thoughts of anxiety swirled in my mind. And yet, Jennifer’s confidence in me pushed me to take a leap of faith. And she is someone who knows about leaps. Years ago, a friend asked her to decorate their wedding. What started as a small favor blossomed into a full-blown wedding design business. Jennifer now owns J. Cole Weddings, co-owns Salon 4120, is a wife, a mom, a blogger, and—in my humble opinion—a creative genius. Watching her juggle so many roles while staying endlessly kind and encouraging is a constant source of inspiration for me. Jennifer did not wait until she felt ready, she said yes to new opportunities and figured things out along the way. That is the energy I want to carry throughout 2025! One of my favorite mottos is, “The only way to is through.” Walking through the fire, facing your fears head-on, is the only way to grow. Every opportunity I have taken—from managing social media for Heritage Home Health and Hospice to writing for Texarkana Magazine —started with a question: Can I do this? And every time, the answer was found by simply saying yes. Those moments of uncertainty have shaped me into someone who not only embraces new challenges but actively seeks them out. Wedding content creation is just the latest chapter in this lifelong story of growth. It is not just about taking videos or posting live updates for brides (though I do that, too). It is about capturing the essence of a day filled with love, laughter, and joy. My iPhone becomes a lens through which brides can relive their happiest moments almost instantly. I get so much contentment knowing I can deliver a perfectly edited highlight reel to someone within 24-48 hours, giving them the chance to share their memories with friends and family while the emotions are still fresh. More than that, this side hustle reminds us that life rarely unfolds the way we expect. I never thought I would be standing at a bride’s side, phone in hand, catching moments that might otherwise slip through the cracks. I never thought I would have the opportunity to build something that is equal parts creative and meaningful. But life is full of surprises, and the key to unlocking them is a willingness to step outside your comfort zone. Jennifer’s story and my own intertwine in a shared belief that we grow by facing what scares us. I have spent the last four years writing for Texarkana Magazine , reflecting on the ways fear has shaped my journey. Each terrifying yes—whether to a new job, a new skill, or a new responsibility, has led to greater confidence, understanding, and joy. It is not always easy, but discipline and risk-taking are forms of self-love. Pushing ourselves to be better is the greatest gift we can give ourselves.

I t’s such beautiful chaos. A bride clutches her bouquet, her hands trembling slightly with excitement. The photographer adjusts his lens for the perfect shot. The videographer checks her lighting as the caterers buzz around in the background, ensuring each plate is picture-perfect. The DJ tests the sound system, music vibrating through the air. Everything is falling into place. But until now, there’s been one piece missing. It is that one person who could capture the day’s quiet, unscripted and behind-the-scenes moments—the laughter between bridesmaids, the groom’s stolen glances, the unplanned dance floor magic—and deliver it all to social media within hours. That is where I come in, iPhone in hand, as the bride’s personal social media content creator! At the end of 2024, Jennifer Cole of J. Cole Weddings asked me to provide this service for her. She simply wanted me to follow brides on their wedding day, capturing the candid moments that would otherwise be missed in the shuffle. The first thought that crossed GOOD EVENING TXK COLUMN BY BAILEY GRAVITT

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I challenge you to think about the opportunities you might be afraid to take. Whether it is a career move, a new hobby, or simply saying yes to something that feels just out of reach, remember this—the only way to grow is to go through. You might be surprised at what you discover on the other side. And for brides out there planning their big day, don’t forget the missing piece of your wedding puzzle—a social media content creator who is ready to capture your quiet, unexpected, and beautifully real moments! Let me be the one to remind you, long after the day is over, just how magical it all was.

LIVE MUSIC February 1 Celebrating Forty Years—The Temptations & the Four Tops Perot Theatre 8 pm

February 15 Kin Faux Whiskey River Country 9 pm February 15 Dexter Rowe The Hideout 9 pm February 20 Marty Stuart & His Fabulous Superlatives Hempstead Hall 7 pm

February 22 Fat Jacks 40th Anniversary Celebration with Heather Linn & the Deacons Fat Jacks Oyster and Sports Bar 8 pm February 27 Lee Mathis & the Brutally Handsome Fat Jacks Oyster and Sports Bar 8:30 pm

February 8 Texarkana Symphony

Orchestra presents MASTERWORKS II A Flair for the Dramatic Perot Theatre 7 pm February 8 Down-Home The Arrow Bar 9 pm

LOCAL EVENTS February 6 Love Poetry 101 TRAHC’S Second Space

February 8, 15, 22, & 29 Free Wednesday Yoga Southwest Center 5:30-6:30 pm February 9 TRAHC Second Space Location Opening 518 Pine Street Texarkana, Texas 2-4 pm February 13 Four States Agriculture Expo Four States Fairgrounds 8:30 am-3:15 pm February 13, 14, & 15 Live Theatre Performance “Cupid Meets Texarkana” 1923 Banana Club 7:30 pm

February 14, 15, 16, 21, 22, & 23 The Game’s Afoot: Holmes for the Holidays Stilwell Theatre on Texarkana College Campus Friday & Saturday at 7:30 pm and Sunday at 2 pm February 14 Downtown Live! Downtown Texarkana 6-9 pm February 15 11th Annual Ultimate Challenge Shootout with Cody Cooke in Concert Four States Fair Entertainment Center 7 pm

February 16 Run the Line Half Marathon Downtown Texarkana 7:30 am February 20 Salvation Army Women’s Auxiliary Stone Soup Luncheon First United Methodist Church 11 am -1:30 pm February 21 Glow with the Flow Yoga

5:30-7 pm February 8 Midwest Mayhem Comedy Tour 1923 Banana Club 7 pm & 9:30 pm February 8

TXK Yoga 6-7:30 pm February 22 The Price is Right Live! Perot Theatre 3 pm

Galentine’s Brunch Fundraiser Texarkana Convention Center

10 am-3 pm February 8 Polar Plunge for Special Olympics Arkansas Big Dam Waterpark 9 am

February 22-March 2 Schoolhouse Rock Live Silvermoon Children’s Theatre

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BORN WITH A BROKEN Heart BY LESLI FLOWERS

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TEXARKANA MAGAZINE O n September 10, 1983, six weeks before she was due to arrive, a baby girl was born in Newellton, Louisiana. This baby was different. The six-pound infant was born with a broken heart. Though her heart would not stay broken, it would take four agonizing weeks of enduring sickness for her young parents to decide to take her to West Monroe, Louisiana, for further testing. It was there that a pediatric cardiologist, Dr. Terry King, discovered Vonnie was born with a boot-shaped heart. Along with the initial diagnosis, he found she had a murmur and Tetralogy of Fallot (TOF), which is a combination of four heart defects present at birth that affect infants and children. The defects occur together and change the way blood flows through the heart and lungs. TOF occurs in about one out of every 2,518 babies born in the United States each year. The doctors also discovered Vonnie to have pulmonary valve stenosis. This is a narrowing of the valve between the lower right heart chamber and the lung arteries, which can cause the heart valve flaps to become thick or stiff and reduce blood flow through the valve. “I had my first heart surgery to temporarily repair the holes that were in my heart. However, the pediatric cardiologists were unable to do the balloon surgery necessary for repairing my pulmonary stenosis when I was nine because my veins were too tiny to get through. I eventually had the surgery I needed at Ochsner Children’s Hospital in New Orleans, Louisiana, when I was 11. From then on, I had six-month follow-ups and eventually annual follow- ups,” said Vonnie. A vivacious child, Vonnie was no different from most little girls growing up in the late 80s and early 90s. She loved caring for her baby dolls and being outside in her imaginary playground, where she built houses of pine straw and created new worlds with her sisters and neighbors. “I was a very sensitive kid, but always had a love for people and never let my heart stop me,” she said. Growing up, she found her way to the stage, where she enjoyed singing for her church and school. “I was fortunate enough to be asked to be a part of the Louisiana Allstate Choir,” she said, “and that is an experience I will never forget.”

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Vonnie underwent her second heart surgery on September 25, 2023, at UT Southwestern Medical Center in Dallas

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In 2005, Vonnie moved to West Monroe, Louisiana, for college, where she joined the youth staff at The Pentecostals of West Monroe church, where Seth Hale also attended on Wednesday nights. His cousin, Shay, was determined to set up the pair and slipped Vonnie’s phone number to Seth. “He called me later and asked me out for the following Tuesday,” recalled Vonnie. They didn’t realize it at the time, but their first date was providentially set for Valentine’s Day. “I got super nervous, not knowing what the expectation was for a first date on Valentine’s Day,” she said. However, they more than survived those first-date jitters and quickly knew they were destined to be together. At the start of college, Seth planned to follow in the footsteps of his “Uncle Doc” and become a chiropractor. “Uncle Doc offered to pay my way through college and give me his very lucrative chiropractor practice,” said Seth. It wasn’t until a professor challenged that thought. “You could be a chiropractor, but I think you could do more,” he said. With those crucial words, Seth shifted his thinking and made his way to medical school. After deciding to become a doctor, choosing a specialty is rarely straightforward. Seth compares the intense challenge of trying to get your bearings in the first year of medical school to drinking from a fire hydrant through a straw. In his second year of medical

school, he was in a cardiology module, learning about the heart and cardiovascular system. Bringing school home, he practiced what he was learning by listening to Vonnie’s heart. “I felt a whirlwind of emotion hearing the murmur, and it spurred me to speak to the dean of my college about what I heard,” explained Seth. The dean of his medical school set Vonnie up with the head of cardiology the next day. Upon further review, the echocardiogram, a noninvasive procedure that uses sound waves to create images of the heart and blood vessels, revealed severe aortic insufficiency. It was decided Vonnie would need a transesophageal echo to get a better look. “Fortunately, being at a medical school with a loved one who is sick affords you great access to world class doctors quickly, and when Vonnie became short of breath, I knew it was time to take her to the hospital,” said Seth. At the time, the Hales happened to be in San Antonio, and found Dr. John Calhoun, acclaimed as the best cardiothoracic surgeon in the world. “He was awesome, and I know he saved my wife’s life through the surgeries he performed,” said Seth. Vonnie’s first open heart surgery came in September 2010, when Dr. Calhoun performed the Bentall procedure on Vonnie. The Bentall procedure is a cardiac surgery that treats aortic conditions by replacing the aortic valve and ascending aorta with a synthetic graft and prosthetic valve. It’s considered the gold standard for

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