Family communication can significantly impact family grief.An open-family system acknowledges feelings honestly and involves each family member, including children, in family issues and decisions.A closed-family system denies feelings and excludes individuals from certain family processes. Closed systems typically use fewer coping skills, which can challenge a family to grieve and heal in effective, healthy ways. Gender differences can affect how a family grieves.Although men and women don’t always express themselves in stereotypical ways, gender may still play a part in the grieving process. For example, women typically get relief from talking about their experience, while the stereotypical male will find more solace in doing something to honor the deceased. Understanding gender influences can help male and female family members develop ways to better support each other. New phases of family development result in resurgences or changes in grief. Suppose that a mother of two children dies.As those children grow up and reach life milestones, such as a piano recital or a high school graduation, the entire family will probably mourn their loss anew, from their current perspective. For this reason, it’s important that families support their grief process throughout their lives. Tip for Parents Honesty is the best way to speak with children about death.Talk to your child in language that is appropriate for his age. Children need to feel that the death is an open subject and that they can express their thoughts or ask their questions as they arise.
The Phenomenon of Family Grief
The death of a family member results in a reorganization of the family’s routines and relationships.This long-term process shifts roles and gives people new functions and identities. Grief, and ways of expressing grief, are sometimes handed down from generation to generation. Styles that parents learned in their families are likely to be the rules they model to the next generation.This can be helpful if positive grieving styles are being “passed down.” However, be aware that some styles can be ineffective or unhealthy and it may be time to break the cycle. Each individual’s grief process is influenced by other members in the family unit. People often hide their grief in an effort to protect their family members, particularly when everyone is struggling with a loss.This can be especially true of parents who are trying to shield their children. Mourning can encourage bereaved children to behave in ways that are true to their inner experiences. Because children learn best by what is modeled to them, it helps when parents and caregivers express some of their grief.This normalizes the process and shows children that it’s okay to be vulnerable.
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