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December 2021
It Never Gets Easier Why Letter Writing Matters
Years ago, I landed my first job coordinating an education program for underserved students who had an interest in medicine. This residential program included a rotation in an anatomical donor lab, or what is colloquially known as a cadaver lab. One year, I asked the doctor who ran the lab what I now believe is kind of a silly question; I asked if working in the lab ever got easier.
I’ll never forget his response.
The professor said, “If it gets any easier, you should quit.” That advice has stuck with me, and it rings truer now that I’m in a profession where we plan for the death of the people we serve. It truly never gets easier. We facilitate conversations around death every day at Promise Law, but nothing prepares us for the days when we hear news of a client’s passing. It’s still surprising and shocking. Ultimately, this means the plans we have helped the deceased client put in place will be utilized while they also help their families during this difficult time. But it also means we have lost a client — someone we usually grow close to during our work with them. That’s why we try to send handwritten notes to the families of clients who have passed. And while I know something as small as a note cannot ease a person’s pain during this difficult time, my hope is that each family receiving one of our cards knows their loved one was more than just a client to us. They were another human being. I believe handwritten notes and letters can be great connectors. In fact, Fred initially sent me a handwritten note when we first got to know each other. The consideration of it greatly impressed me. Not only did he have to write out his thoughts, but he also took the UPCOMING WORKSHOPS* ESTATE PLANNING WORKSHOPS
time to find my address and mail the card out to me. That sends a special meaning that a text message or email can’t do. Technology has made our world smaller, and handwritten cards offer genuine interaction inside that small world. December offers great opportunities to catch up with family and friends and stay connected, usually through holiday cards. It’s always special to get mail, especially in this digital age. I know the grandkids love it! We try to send the grandchildren mail with a fun stamp or quirky card for the big occasions, like birthdays, holidays, and other fun events. I like to think they enjoy the ceremony and excitement of mail arriving not for their parents, but for them! December boasts National Letter Writing Day, and I think it would be wonderful to send a card or two to someone on your mind. It could foster a greater connection or be an easy way to brighten someone’s day. There are few easier ways to show someone that you care than taking the time to write them a letter.
Wednesday, Dec. 1, 9:30–10:30 a.m. Wednesday, Dec. 8, 2:30–3:30 p.m.
Tuesday, Dec. 14, 5:30–6:30 p.m.
Happy holidays!
*All workshops are offered virtually so you can learn in the comfort and safety of your own home! Register at PromiseLaw.com or by calling (757) 690-2470.
-Geneva Perry
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The Next Big Health Secret Why Seeing an Attorney May Be Good for You!
Consulting with an attorney when you are facing legal trouble allows you to have an advocate and expert in your corner who is fighting for you and your rights. And according to recent studies, it may be good for your health too!
For example, in Colorado, some chronically ill patients are struggling with immigration issues or problems as a result of losing their jobs in the COVID-19 pandemic. By consulting with lawyers — in addition to psychiatrists, social workers, and medical doctors — patients are lowering their stress levels, improving their physical well-being, and staying closer to their families. But how does this work? To answer that question, we have to examine the toll stress takes on our bodies. Constant stress, like concerns about visitations or deportation, can cause our bodies to fail. This often leads to headaches, heartburn, a weakened immune system, insomnia, stomach problems, and more. These problems then compound into other issues, causing the body to spiral when intervention isn’t possible. However, when the source of stress is relieved, the side effects are eliminated as well. This can powerfully help people who are facing potentially life-altering legal situations. So, while your attorney may not be able to perform heart surgery or help alleviate your knee pain, their expertise may be just what you need to feel better in the long run.
According to NPR, a 2017 study of Veterans Affairs offices in Connecticut and New York found that veterans who saw clinic attorneys reported improved mental health within three months after their initial meetings. Additionally, in Colorado, a five-year survey of 69 patients from 2015 to 2020 found that patients in Medicaid programs who saw attorneys at their clinics had a decrease in the amount of physical health problems they were facing. While further studies are needed to corroborate this evidence, the message is clear: Finding solutions to your legal concerns through an attorney is healthy!
This idea has led to several states permitting Medicaid patients to use some of their health care dollars toward legal clinical programs.
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What is libel?
Libel is a method of defamation expressed in print, writing, pictures, signs, effigies, or any communication embodied in physical form. Libel used to refer to things printed in newspapers and other forms of print media, but in our digital world, things like blogs, Twitter posts, and online publications can now be subject to libel lawsuits. Tabloids have been a reliable source for drama and libel cases for years. Many celebrities have repeatedly sued them for publishing stories with false or untrue allegations. For example, the British tabloid Daily Mail published multiple untrue stories regarding Keira Knightley’s weight, claiming she was anorexic. She sued the tabloid for libel and won. J.K. Rowling and Kate Winslet have also successfully sued Daily Mail for libel.
How does slander differ from libel?
Just tell the truth.
Where libel is a physical form of defamation, slander is spoken defamation, whether it be on television, radio, or even just rumors spread around the water cooler at work. Like libel, slanderous statements need to be expressed as fact, not just opinion. Since slander is spoken defamation, it can be much harder to prove than libel. Not only do you have to prove the person said it, but you also have to prove the person was negligent with the truth. Politicians have to prove actual malice in addition to all the other stipulations regarding slander.
If you are ever accused of defamation, the best defense is the truth. If you can prove what you said or wrote was truthful, there is no case. The bottom line is this: The easiest way to avoid defamation lawsuits is by simply telling the truth about people. If you’re not sure something is true, don’t spread it around. Find out the facts before needlessly ruining someone’s reputation. Telling lies and spreading rumors can cost you big in the long run.
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TAKE A BREAK
BOOST YOUR MOOD WITH THESE TIPS SPENDING THE HOLIDAYS ALONE?
Many Americans spend the holidays alone every year, and the pandemic has only made it more difficult for people to see their loved ones, as travel has become more restricted and strenuous. If you’re one of these people who are spending their first holiday season alone this year, here are a few strategies you can try to make the situation a little easier. Don’t hold yourself to the usual standards. One of the best things about spending the holidays alone is that you can do things your way. You don’t have to worry about meeting everyone else’s standards. Instead, you only have to make yourself happy. Simply telling yourself that you are not going to have the usual holiday environment can slightly help, but redefining what the holiday means to you can remove a huge weight. Trying new things or looking toward the future are great ways to reduce the stress of spending the holidays alone. Keeping up with old traditions may remind you of what you’re missing out on, so it can greatly help to create your own traditions. Plan ahead. If you know in advance that you’re going to be spending the holidays alone, planning ahead can prevent negative feelings. While being spontaneous can sometimes keep things fresh, it could leave you with a feeling of hopelessness about what to do next. There’s no need for your list to be extensive or highly detailed, but even just planning to watch a movie or cook some of your favorite dishes can give you something to look forward to. Take care of yourself. Just because you’re not seeing people during the holidays does not mean you should forgo your basic needs. Stick to your regular hygiene habits and do not let them get away from you. The same goes for eating and sleeping. Staying clean, well-fed, and well-rested goes a long way toward improving your happiness. As with all mental health advice, what works for some does not work for everyone. Do what you think will work best for you and help you keep your thoughts happy.
Inspired by TastesBetterFromScratch.com DIY HOLIDAY EGGNOG
Ingredients
• 6 egg yolks • 1/2 cup sugar • 1 cup heavy whipping cream • 2 cups milk • 1/2 tsp nutmeg
• 1 pinch salt • 1/4 tsp vanilla extract • Cinnamon and whipped cream, for garnish
Directions
1. In a medium bowl, whisk the egg yolks and sugar until light and creamy. Set aside. 2. In a saucepan over medium heat, stir together the cream, milk, nutmeg, and salt. Bring to a simmer. 3. Add a spoonful of the milk mixture to the egg mixture. Whisk vigorously and repeat, one spoonful at a time. 4. When most of the milk is whisked in, add the egg mixture to the saucepan. 5. Whisk until the liquid thickens slightly or reaches 160 F. Remove from heat and add vanilla extract. 6. Pour the eggnog into a glass container and cover. Refrigerate. 7. When the eggnog has thickened, pour it into glasses, garnish, and enjoy!
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INSIDE THIS ISSUE
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The Value of a Letter
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Your Attorney Is Good for Your Health!
DIY Holiday Eggnog Tips for Spending the Holidays Alone
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The Difference Between Slander, Libel, and Defamation
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Slander, Libel, and Defamation What’s the Difference?
In a time when attack politics are at the forefront of media and politics, we often hear terms like slander, libel, and defamation. While the First Amendment gives us our freedom of speech, not all speech is protected. It’s more important than
ever to understand the difference between slander, libel, and defamation and know how to ensure your speech does not cross into these areas.
What is defamation?
Defamation is the all-encompassing term that describes both slander and libel. When an untrue and damaging statement, presented as fact , injures a third party’s reputation, it’s defamation of character. For example, you can’t hurt a person’s reputation by simply saying they’re annoying; however, saying they participate in illegal activities when they actually do not can be extremely damaging. It should be noted that you cannot be sued for defamation for simply stating an opinion. However, if the statement is untrue and damages the person’s reputation, whether it be written or oral, you could be sued for defamation.
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