TEEN DATING 101: HOW TO BE THE “COOL” PARENT BY MADISON VOORHIES
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online presence is important, finding the right balance is key. Acknowledge that the internet is a primary communication source for children and encourage discussions on appropriate content and the consequences of inappropriate use. Williams also addresses the often- overlooked topic of sexting, emphasizing the need to educate teens on proper social media use and the legal implications of sending inappropriate content. Bridging this discussion with topics like self-esteem and peer pressure contributes to shaping your child’s views on positive and healthy relationships The Hard Stuff Discussing sex with your child can be awkward but is crucial for their understanding and well-being. Creating a safe and trusting space from an early age makes it easier to navigate these more “adult” conversations. Williams underscores the importance of parents educating themselves on these subjects, given that children often learn about sex online before parents can discuss it with them. As teens enter middle or high school, conversations about age-appropriate expectations and consent become vital. Williams recommends sparking these discussions early on,
appropriateness, these discussions should commence around the time your child enters middle or junior high school (at the latest). “Start these conversations from a lens of transparency and open-mindedness,” says Williams. “Asking open and honest questions from a non-judgemental perspective is really important.” She also points out how these are not just “one-and-done” conversations. They evolve as your child grows, presenting more questions and experiences. As a parent, setting the tone for these ongoing discussions is your duty, ensuring an open and honest relationship. If you’re not engaging in these conversations, your child might seek information from less reliable sources, such as the internet or friends. Louisiana schools also mandate education on healthy relationships throughout high school, providing an opportunity to align school teachings with personal or family values. You vs. Your Child vs. The Internet The modern-day technology landscape can evoke mixed feelings for parents— either exhilaration or terror. Recognizing that children and teens are digital natives, Williams acknowledges their proficiency in navigating technological sources. While monitoring your child’s
18 FEBRUARY 2024 | NOLAFAMILY.COM Determining Your Child’s Interest Initiating conversations about love and dating is crucial, even if your child hasn’t brought it up yet. Considering factors like age, developmental readiness, and Being a parent is one of the most challenging jobs and responsibilities one can bear. But being a parent to an adolescent that just developed their first crush… fasten your seatbelts because you are about to endure one bumpy ride. It isn’t always so scary though; your child is finally ready to start exploring more of what the world has to offer, and you must support them during either this very exciting or slightly confusing time. Donneisha Williams, a Licensed Professional Counselor at a New Orleans middle school, sees hundreds of students a day and is here to help parents figure out exactly what they should be doing to help their children. After all, the dating scene has changed a lot since before you had your children (hello Snapchat, goodbye answering machine!) so it’s okay to not know where to start. While there is no specific age when kids begin developing crushes or wanting to go on dates, it’s important to start having conversations surrounding the topic pretty early on, so they’re prepared for whatever comes their way once they enter middle school or high school.
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