husband and wife something in common. They make something worth living for, worth maintaining marriage and home for. What man is there who wants to give up his children? No man of high ideals and noble instincts. What woman is there who would be willing to bring her little children up without a father and without the protection and provision that fathers ordinarily give? No normal woman. Many times a home has been saved by one child. Hcrw much more then, when there are several children in the home is there a tendency to main tain the home, to overlook differences, to talk them out and pray about them until peace is restored in the home. Tiny baby fingers hold fathers and mothers together. It is not so important to a wife that her husband scolded her or was heartless in some matter if her mind is set on the little one and its future; her own feelings do not matter. What man is there who thinks much of his own pleasure if he really loves his children and thinks of their welfare? Let every home plan for children. Let every engaged couple talk it over ahead of time and agree that theirs will be a marriage in truth with its normal fruit in little children sent from God to bless the home and bind the hearts of father and mother together forever. Love Is Essential Ephesians 5:25 states: “ Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church . . . ” In Titus 2:4 we read that older women are to teach younger women “to love their husbands.” Happy, successful marriage must have mutual love. I should like to make a distinction between sex attraction and true love. Sex attraction may be a part of love, but it. certainly is net all of any true love that fits one for marriage. One of the dangers of the modern way of petting is that young people may become attracted to one another physically and rushed off their feet into an engagement without any real love one for the other. The attraction of the body alone is not a guarantee of a happy home. There must be a genuine respect, and admiration of husband for wife and wife for husband. When a girl has a beautiful character, when she comes from a good home, when she has been properly reared and disci plined and educated, and when she has a normal and Christian attitude toward marriage and its responsibilities, she will make a good wife. In fact, it is not hard for a normal and honorable man to love such a woman. Love usually follows when such marriages are made with Christian people and on high standards of honor and character. We ought to make sure that love is based on character, a genuine admiration and understanding of one mate for the other. Young man, do you love a young woman because she is good and kind? Do you love her because she has such a sweet voice, because she is musical? Do you love her because she is such a devoted Christian, or eager to serve God? Do you love her because she has pity for those in trouble, because she has laughter and a light in her eyes, and a quick mind? Do you love her because she has real Christian qualities? If so, then that is the kind of love which ought to be in every true marriage. Young woman, do you love your husband-to-be because he is strong, because he is brave, because he is sensible? Does he have the kind of character that you would admire in your own brother or father? Does he seem to you the wisest young fellow you ever saw? Do you like the way he stands up straight? Do you like his kindness to his mother and his gentleness to old people? Are you proud of his Christian character, his faithful, clean life, his ambition for the future? That is the kind of love upon which happiest marriages are built. To be sure, the one you love should be personally at tractive to you, but make sure that it is not mere natural attraction. Be certain that your love is really a love of char acter and personality. Then if God gives the personal attrac tion, too, you may feel assured that your love is on a safe and honorable basis which will help to guarantee a happy and successful marriage. (A condensed chapter from, the book, “ The Home: Court ship, Marriage, and Children,” by Dr. Rice, Sword of the Lord Publishing Co., Wheaton, III. Price $2.50). Page Eight
The Voice That Breathed O’er Eden (W edding H ym n)
John Keblo
Copyright, 1929, by The Standard Publishing Co.
Herbert G. Tovey
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IP It hath not passed a •way. (a - way.) Out of his own pierced side.(hisside.) The heav'n-ly Bride doth seaU(dothseal!)
I The pri - mal mar-riage bless - ing, As Eve Thou gav’st to Ad « am, As Thou, for Christ, the Bridegroom,
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The Ho - ly Three As Then did’st bind With-in their hearts, are with us, The three - fold grace is said.. two nat - ures In Thine e - ter - nal bands, as on - ward Their hal - lowed path they trace, jg-— ■T Used by permission of the Standard Publishing Company, Chicago, Illinois.
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TJUSINESS men have in their fire-proof safes a file of -U papers containing their contracts, and sometimes they take them out and read them ever to see what the party of the first part and the party of the second part really bound themselves to do. Different ministers of religion have their own peculiar forms of marriage ceremony; but if you have forgotten what you premised at the altar of wedlock, you had better buy or borrow an Episcopal Church service, which con tains the substance of all intelligent marriage ceremonies, when it says: “ I take thee to be my wedded wife, to have and to hold from this day forward, for better or for worse, for richer or for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish till death us do part, according to God’s holy ordi nance, and thereto L pledge thee my troth.” Would it not be a good idea to have that printed in tract form and widely dis tributed? The most worthy thing for the thousands of married men to do is to go home and apologize for past neglects, and brighten up their old love. Take up the family Bible and read the record of the marriage day. Open the drawer of relics in the box inside the drawer containing the trinkets of your dead child. Take up the pack of yellowed letters that were writ ten before you became one. Rehearse the scenes of joy and sorrow in which you have mingled. Put all these things as fuel on the altar, and by a coal of sacred fire rekindle the extinguished light. It was a blast from hell that blew it out, and a gale from heaven will fan it into a blaze. Thomas De Witt Talmadge in “ The Wedding Ring.” T H E K I N G ' S B U S I N E S S
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