Law Office of Kevin Jensen - November 2018

Maintaining a Relationship With Your Ex’s Loved Ones After Divorce Family Ties

You’ve made the decision to divorce, but it’s not the only relationship confrontation you need to have. Whether you’re looking to keep your soon-to-be ex-in-laws in your life or you just want a civil relationship, follow these steps to make the process less difficult. 1. Talk. The first step in figuring out where you stand with your in-laws is to talk to the person you are divorcing, and you must respect their wishes on this matter. Maybe you just want to set up grandparent time or you’re hoping to celebrate holidays with them. Either way, your soon-to-be ex must be involved. 2. Talk, again. Now, talk to your in- laws. Be prepared for them to want to distance themselves from you or cut ties completely for a variety of reasons. They may be hurting, or they may feel that their loyalty toward

their loved one will keep them from having a relationship with you. Respect their wishes and offer civility. 3. Set Boundaries. Your spouse’s family may have begun to feel like your own, and it can be hard to set up boundaries with people you’ve grown to love and trust. But you have to define limits to forge ahead in your new relationships. Set up a visitation schedule so your ex’s parents can see their grandchildren, decide how you’ll honor birthdays or celebrate holidays, and make these lines clear, concise, and easy to follow for your kids’ sake. Part of these boundaries should also include a permanent ban on bad-mouthing your ex in their family’s company. 4. Stay connected. If you’re worried about destroying a personal relationship with

your ex-in-laws, stay close via social media. Send them happy-birthday wishes, and share photos of your kiddos for them to see. They’re not the enemy. Your kids still love them, and it’s okay to share a digital connection. 5. Check yourself. Why do you want to maintain this relationship? Is it because you want them to be part of your life and your kids’ lives, or is it because you’re having trouble letting go of your former marriage? Be honest with yourself, and if you need to step back, communicate why you’re doing so and offer a new process. Divorce is never easy, and figuring out what to do can be a minefield. Navigate your divorce with the Law Offices of Kevin Jensen by calling 480.632.7373.

LAUGH BREAK

Spicy, Creamy Sweet Potatoes

ingredients Sweet potatoes are a Thanksgiving staple, but they’re often the blandest thing on the table. Luckily that’s not the case with this recipe, which features Thai spices and coconut milk.

• 1/2 cup dark brown sugar • 4 tablespoons unsalted butter • 1 tablespoon kosher salt

• 5 pounds sweet potatoes • 1 cup canned coconut milk • 1 tablespoon Thai red curry paste

480.632.7373 directions 1. Heat oven to 375 F. On a large sheet pan, bake potatoes until very soft, approximately 75 minutes. 2. Let potatoes cool until they are safe to handle, then peel and mash. 3. In a small saucepan over low heat, combine coconut milk and curry paste. Once mixed, add the mixture, salt, half the sugar, and half the butter to potatoes. 4. 30 minutes before serving, heat oven to 425 F. Spread potatoes in a baking dish, cover with foil, and bake for 20 minutes. 5. Uncover potatoes and dot with remaining butter and sugar. Broil until brown, crusty, and delicious. Serve hot. 3

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