Bruce Law Firm - June 2024

TIPS FOR DEALING WITH A DIFFICULT EX DURING DIVORCE THE NARCISSIST’S PLAYBOOK

LIMIT COMMUNICATION Often, the best way to communicate with a narcissistic ex is not to communicate at all. However, there will be circumstances throughout your divorce proceedings where you must speak with your ex. Limit communication as much as possible. You don’t need to engage in drawn-out drama and don’t want this person to blow up and go nuclear. Set boundaries on the way you will communicate and when. You can opt to communicate through writing to have a paper trail if they try to manipulate the situation. SET BOUNDARIES Narcissists engage in boundary testing. They want to see how far they can push your limits and manipulate you or others in your life. Put things in writing and ensure you both adhere to the times and deadlines you’ve agreed on. Be firm on your expectations and limits. Some people find the “gray rock” strategy helpful. This idea is that you try to be as uninteresting as possible to your ex. They feed on your emotions, so don’t give them anything to latch on to. CONTROL YOUR EMOTIONS Your narcissist ex may run an entire smear campaign against you, attempting to sabotage your relationships, control your lawyer, or get in your head. Ignore their attempts and keep conversations cool. Don’t give them any extra information or the satisfaction of making you question yourself. Try not to take anything your ex says personally because they are just projecting their flaws. While communicating with a narcissistic ex-spouse during divorce may feel like an uphill battle, remember that you are not alone. Turn to loved ones for support and work with a lawyer. Your happiness and peace of mind are worth fighting for.

Going through a divorce is a challenging process, but when you add a narcissistic ex to the mix, it can feel like walking through a minefield. Narcissists are looking for ways to control the situation, but there are methods to get through these interactions with as much grace and strength as possible. Let’s explore some practical tips to communicate with your narcissist ex and empower you to move forward with confidence.

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BAKED SWEET POTATO FRIES

These fries are crispy on the outside, tender on the inside, and packed with nutrients!

Ingredients •

2 large sweet potatoes, cut into wedges

1/2 tsp garlic powder

2 tbsp olive oil

1/4 tsp cayenne pepper

1 tsp smoked paprika

Salt and pepper, to taste

Directions 1. Preheat oven to 425 F and line a baking sheet with parchment paper. 2. Place sweet potato wedges in a large bowl and add olive oil, paprika, garlic powder, cayenne, salt, and pepper. Toss to combine. 3. Arrange the sweet potato wedges on the prepared baking sheet in a single layer. 4. Bake for 20–25 minutes, flipping halfway through, until golden and crispy.

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