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Reclaim Yourself Make Time for You in 2020
W hen I look at my adult daughters and see what amazing young women they have become, I take some pride in the fact that I raised them. Being a mother is one of the most rewarding experiences of my life. Of course, it didn’t always feel that way. When I was a young mother, I remember feeling like I had to be going all the time. I never had time for myself, but if I ever even thought about taking some time for myself, I felt guilty. What kind of mother wanted to get away from her children? I felt so overwhelmed until a neighbor, an older woman who’d raised kids of her own, gave me some wonderful advice. She said to me, “A happy mother is one who takes time for herself.” This was so true. I started to make a point to get to the gym in the morning or play tennis more often. When I got back home, I was more available for my kids. I felt more like me, which meant I could be a better mother to my girls. The advice my neighbor gave me holds true for any caregiver. It is a wonderful thing to give your time to a loved one and make sure they’re cared for, but we can so easily lose ourselves in caregiving and give too much until we have nothing left. When a caregiver reaches that state, it’s not uncommon for them to feel resentful toward the person they’re caring for. This resentment often leads to feelings of guilt that cause the caregiver to become more focused on their loved one’s care to make amends. While I have never had to care for an ill or aging family member, I’ve met many individuals through Visiting Angels who are caregivers for their loved ones. For these family members, caregiving is a full-time job. They provide assistance with many activities of daily living such has
bathing, dressing, and personal care. It’s a treadmill that’s always on because they
feel like they’re the only ones who can give quality care to their loved one. Caregiving becomes a full-time job, and it takes a physical and emotional toll.
More than 65 million people in the United States act as caregivers for an ill, disabled, or aging family member or friend. They’re all doing a wonderful thing and they deserve to take some time for themselves. If you don’t take care of yourself, how can you provide quality care to your loved one? It’s okay to reclaim yourself. Go to the gym, spend some time on your hobbies, see a movie, or attend a caregiver support group. If you’re worried about leaving your loved one alone, remember Visiting Angels can help you! For just a few hours a week, our Visiting Angels can come in to help so family caregivers can go to the grocery store without feeling rushed. Even small moments to yourself can make a difference.
Consider this letter a reminder and permission to take care of yourself this year. You deserve some care, too.
Cindy Saunders, EXECUTIVE DIRECTOR
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