WHEN WORDS WOUND
THE PHRASES NARCISSISTS USE TO MANIPULATE
“Relax, it’s not a big deal.” “I’m sorry you feel that way.” “That never happened.”
hurtful than you’re taking it. Try to stay calm, focused, and secure within your boundaries. If they are trying to get a rise out of you, don’t give them any fuel for the fire.
SHIFTING THE BLAME Narcissists will rarely take responsibility or accountability for their actions or their plight. It’s common for them to turn the conversation into a blame game with you. They may play the victim card or guilt trip, making you feel like the bad guy. They may flat-out gaslight you, denying something they did or said even when there is proof. You can tell them that you won’t stand for them blaming you or even state you will take a 15-minute break from the conversation. DEFLECTING AWAY When you try to bring up an issue or resolve a problem, they may deflect back to you to avoid facing the conversation. It could mean they bring up unrelated details, give non-answers, guilt trip you, or accuse you of doing the wrong thing, often the exact behavior they are engaging in. Again, try to remain calm, set boundaries, and keep yourself safe.
These words may seem harmless at first, but when they are used against you by a narcissist, they become weapons designed to dismiss your feelings, distort reality, and make you question your sanity. Over time, this manipulation can leave you feeling unheard, powerless, and desperate for validation. Narcissists have a talent for twisting your words to control you, making you walk away from conversations, and doubting your memory and feelings. By recognizing the ways they use language, you can reclaim your voice. MINIMIZING YOUR EMOTIONS If you are dealing with a narcissist, you’ve probably encountered situations where you tried to express your feelings, stress, or anger only to have it downplayed. That’s because they lack self-awareness and empathy for others, making them spin it against you. They may try to explain it away as you overreacting or that their behavior was far less
You don’t have to let a narcissist’s words define you. You can regain your power by recognizing their tactics and staying strong in the face of their words.
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HEARTY GNOCCHI SOUP
Savory bacon and cheddar make this an easy favorite to whip up on cold nights.
Ingredients •
1 tbsp vegetable oil
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1/2 cup half-and-half
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1 medium onion, diced
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8 slices bacon, cooked and crumbled, divided
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1/2 tsp celery seed
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1 cup shredded cheddar cheese, divided
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4 cups vegetable or chicken broth
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2 tbsp chopped chives
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16 oz fresh gnocchi
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Salt and pepper, to taste
Directions 1. Heat oil in a large pot over medium heat. Add onion and celery seed and cook until onion is soft and translucent, about 4 minutes. 2. Add broth to the pot and bring to a boil. Add gnocchi and cook for about 3 minutes, then stir in half-and-half and 1/2 of the bacon. 3. Remove from heat and add 3/4 cup cheese, then rest until thickened, about 5 minutes. 4. Top with remaining cheese, chives, and bacon as desired.
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