Empathy quite literally holds our relationships together. It helps us connect, understand, and support one another. But did you know empathy isn’t just one thing? It comes in three distinct forms, each playing a unique role in how we relate to others. COGNITIVE EMPATHY: UNDERSTANDING THE MIND Cognitive empathy involves mentally stepping into someone else’s shoes to understand their thoughts. For example, if your friend is ranting about a frustrating day at work, cognitive empathy helps you understand and relate. If you want to build this skill, practice active listening. Instead of planning your response while someone’s talking, focus entirely on their words. Then, reflect on what you’ve heard. Phrases like “It sounds like you’re feeling ...” can go a long way. EMOTIONAL EMPATHY: FEELING WITH OTHERS This kind of empathy tugs at your heartstrings when someone you love is hurting. Emotional empathy lets you actually feel what another person feels. It’s powerful, but it can also be overwhelming. To strengthen emotional empathy, put distractions away during conversations, make eye contact, and be present. When we give people our full attention, our emotional receptors are activated. If you feel emotionally overloaded, though, it’s okay to take a breather. Boundaries are a healthy part of empathy, too. The Empathy Effect Unlock Stronger Bonds With These 3 Tools
... continued from Cover And, of course, Dziadek and Babcia (Polish for grandpa and grandma), my wife Marta’s grandparents, have courage that still amazes me. They escaped communist Poland in 1981, navigating refugee camps and embassy doors slammed in their faces until, finally, persistence won. They started over in New Mexico with little more than grit, faith, and a love for family so strong it became the center of everything. Holidays at their house meant pierogis, bigos, and kapusta. Richard, aka Dziadek, called every grandchild at 7 a.m. sharp on their birthday, saying little more than “happy birthday” before hanging up. He didn’t need many words; his life said enough. When I look back at all of them, be it Italian, Polish, Southern, academic, artistic, or entrepreneurial, I see the mosaic of values they passed down: loyalty, curiosity, courage, kindness, and a deep appreciation for family. I didn’t realize as a kid how quickly time would slip by, how one day the voices calling to check in or singing in the church or offering to carry a violin would become memories. But that’s the gift of grandparents, isn’t it? They teach you, sometimes with words, often just by living, how to carry those lessons forward. And on this Grandparents’ Day, that feels
like the best way to honor them. —Bert Parnall
AIR-FRIED KOREAN CHILI CAULIFLOWER
Ingredients
Sauce • 1/2 cup maple syrup • 6 tbsp soy sauce • 1/4 cup brown sugar • 5 tbsp gochujang • 2 tbsp rice vinegar • 1 tbsp sesame oil • 2 tbsp cornstarch • Chopped green onion, sesame seeds, and lime (for garnish)
• 1 1/2 cup gluten-free flour • 2 tbsp cornstarch • 1 tbsp baking powder • 1 tsp salt
• 1 tsp garlic powder • 1/4 tsp black pepper • 1 3/4 cups cold seltzer water • 2 medium heads of
cauliflower, cut into florets
COMPASSIONATE EMPATHY: ACTING ON UNDERSTANDING
• Cooking spray or oil
Compassionate empathy goes beyond understanding and feeling; it’s about doing something helpful. For example, if your partner is anxious about an upcoming presentation, you can show compassionate empathy by noticing and offering to run through their slides with them. To show compassionate empathy, ask yourself, “How can I lighten their load right now?” Even small gestures like texting to offer help can build trust and deepen connections. When all three types of empathy are present, relationships thrive. You understand, feel, and act, and while not every situation calls for all three, being aware of each type can make you a better friend, partner, parent, or teammate.
Directions 1. Whisk together flour, cornstarch, baking powder, salt, garlic powder, and pepper. Stir in seltzer until thick. 2. Coat cauliflower in batter and spray or brush with oil. 3. Air fry at 400 F for 15–17 minutes, flipping halfway. 4. In a blender, add sauce ingredients (except cornstarch) and blend until smooth. 5. Take out 1/4 cup of sauce and mix with cornstarch until clumps are gone. 6. Into a pan on medium-low, pour remaining sauce. Add cornstarch slurry and cook until thickened. 7. Toss cooked cauliflower with sauce, garnish, and serve.
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