4. Talking about beliefs When they are seriously ill or dying, many people think about the meaning and purpose of life. They may say things like, “Why is this happening to me?” or “What has it all been about?” These are deep and personal questions. Many people get consolation just from saying them. Some people who are seriously ill or dying ask themselves questions about life and death. Sometimes it helps to think or talk things through with another person. Some may want to talk about spiritual or religious matters with a religious leader or a spiritual person. People who do not have any religious or spiritual beliefs may also want to speak about what is happening. Many people find it consoling to think and talk about these things. You may find the experience of being with the dying person is meaningful and spiritual for you, too. Your dying relative or friend may want to pray, meditate or reflect with you. Pastoral care staff can help people with emotional and spiritual matters. Pastoral care is there for everyone, whether they have religious beliefs or not. The pastoral care team can provide support based on a person’s faith tradition. They can also contact other counsellors as needed, or you may invite a member of your own faith community to provide spiritual support. The person’s spiritual beliefs, identity or their culture may be different to your own. If they are happy to talk to you about this, you should try to understand their beliefs, customs, needs and rituals around dying and death. In this way, you can ensure that their cultural values are respected, and you can plan for appropriate care.
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