Ablaze Spring 2024

Desolation

Emily Seelye

The time has come—desolation floods in. You cannot help but think, why? Why is all of this happening? What can I do to help this situation? Some - times you cannot do anything. We all try our best to have the best life with the best people, but most of the time you can never have the best. Is the “best” what’s right for you? Try to fix whatever has been broken in front of you. All you can do is try. Ashley Faux Who needs me? You or Me?

Have you ever felt a need to say, “Yes “when you truly wanted to say, “No”? People-pleasing tendencies come from the lack of self-love. The deep-root- ed feeling of not being good enough which tends to lead one to sacrifice their own wants and needs in the pro - cess. They tend to put themselves last as they will do anything to make some - one happy, even if that means they are disrespecting themselves. I personally have struggled with “People-Pleasing.” I had an extremely hard time with the

feeling of someone being upset with me and someone not liking me. That led me to do things that I truly didn’t feel comfortable doing, which led me to feeling drained. Also, I ended up resenting the individuals all because I couldn’t speak up for myself. The continuous amount of abuse I have done to myself led me to struggle with my own self-confidence, worthiness, and trust within myself. Through the years of learning healthy boundaries, I have learned to be kind to myself and speak my honest truth without feel - ing guilty for it. “Who needs me? You or Me?” spoke from my heart.

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