Anger frequently becomes guilt over time. Guilt is feeling somehow responsible for what hap- pened, or thinking that you didn’t do enough in the relationship while your loved one was alive. You may say to yourself, “If only I had known,” or “If only I told him I loved him.” Guilt involves a lot of “should haves” or “should not haves.” Regrets are normal, but you cannot change the past. Although you may feel guilty for what happened to your loved one or guilty for the “should haves,” this is not your fault. Often your loved one will re- member that you loved them and cared for them. Deep sadness is another emotion that comes with the death of a loved one. This stems from feelings of powerlessness, helplessness and hopelessness. The feeling that you couldn’t and can’t do anything to change what happened. You may feel as though you cannot go on without
your loved one in your life, or as though you may never feel good again. It may be difficult for you to get out of bed in the morning or get motivated to go to school and complete homework. You may not want to partici- pate in your favorite sports, after school activities or hang out with your friends. If you feel the sadness
has overtaken your life, please reach out to a trusted adult to talk about how you are feeling and see if they can help you. If you don’t have some or all of these feelings, that’s okay, too. Everyone experiences grief differently.
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