R emarrying S omeone Y ou ’ ve D ivorced
A Form of Recidivism
A popular animal fable is the frog and the scorpion. The scorpion asks the frog for a ride across the river, promising not to sting the frog, but halfway across the scorpion stings the frog. When the frog asks why the scorpion did it, dooming them both, the scorpion says, “I’m a scorpion, it’s in my nature.” This story teaches the lesson that there are vicious people in the world, and that no matter what they promise, they cannot resist hurting those around them, even those who try to help them. This sad tale can also be the same for people who try to patch things up with their ex-spouse. After a divorce, a couple may decide to get back together again. While this isn’t true for the majority of individuals, it is for a usually unfortunate portion of the population. It’s unfortunate because the remarriage almost always never works out the second time. While the second divorce is often gentler because the couple have gone through the process before, many negative implications still come with it. In addition to being filled with a fair degree of self-recrimination, other pitfalls come with trying to patch a relationship that didn’t work out the first time around. Usually, a person who divorces their spouse because it was difficult to be with them, only to remarry in the hopes of working things out, will soon realize the spouse is still just as difficult as before. Another aspect to consider is if children are involved with the divorce; divorcing again certainly impacts the children’s emotions. Also, the parents may believe their first custody order from their first divorce will hold. This isn’t true. When someone divorces, they must work from the ground up again because the judge must look at all the factors in a child’s life during a divorce, no matter if it’s the first or second. Additionally, if a mother and father divorced after a bitter custody fight, but end up remarrying and divorcing a few years later, it can create other problems. No matter how awful the mother may have said the father was, she still remarried him. The judge will think, “He just can’t be that bad.” While not all of these stories may end horribly, it’s still important to consider these factors. If someone is considering or planning remarriage to their ex, it is a good time to consider a prenuptial agreement. This will help resolve some of the issues that may come up later on should the couple divorce again.
C innamon -S piced C andied S weet P otatoes
Inspired by FoodAndWine.com
I ngredients
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4 lbs orange-fleshed sweet potatoes, peeled and cut crosswise into 2-inch pieces, then cut lengthwise into 1-inch wedges 1 cup light brown sugar, packed
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1 tbsp kosher salt
1/4 tsp ground cloves
1/4 cup unsalted butter, cubed 4 (2-inch) cinnamon sticks
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D irections
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Preheat oven to 350 F.
Place sweet potato wedges in a 4-quart baking dish. Sprinkle sugar, salt, and cloves over sweet potatoes.
4. Dot with butter and place cinnamon sticks around sweet potatoes. 5. Bake, turning every 15 minutes, until sweet potatoes are tender and the liquid is syrupy, about 1 hour and 15 minutes. 6. Remove from the oven and let stand for 10 minutes. 7. Discard cinnamon sticks and serve.
If you are thinking about remarrying, just remember the old joke, “This food is terrible. I think I’ll have it tomorrow for leftovers.”
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